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Anonymous wrote:OP, try again in a few weeks with a new thread without the shots at blood transfusions and formula. I actually am a huge breastfeeding advocate, and I think there might be something to placenta encapsulation, though it's not for me... But your attitude came across as alienating. I think you seem like you're in a raw frame of mind and I get it - it's hard to over a hard birth and PP period...totally get that. But, ease up on yourself and others before posting again. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar and all!
I've tried it before and go nothing but snark and tasteless humor. The exact same thing I got here. DCUM is the same no matter what attitude you have. Last time around, the jokes were at least funny.
I truly lost my hope when I had more than 3 pages of posters telling me it was not big deal that I had a vanish twin, people saying it was not a real loss, etc... it went down from there, the language was shocking! Just 4 people were respectful and posted something nice.
Thanks for your kind words, I really appreciate it. It's so rare around here...
OP, PP here. You have to accept that some people are going to find it funny. Before my son was born, my FIL sent me an article about people cooking their placentas as a joke and I remember, before I'd come into contact with the real, live, people who took it seriously and felt it had benefits, that it was hilarious and absurd. I remember writing back and saying I was going to bury mine instead, and plant a fruit tree there, and name the fruit tree, etc, etc. As I was writing it, I felt a vague sense that, hey, maybe we SHOULD treat this amazing organ with a little bit more respect than discarding it as medical waste. Then when my DS was born, my very allopathic OB showed DH and I my placenta after I delivered it. I think he probably felt, since I had a natural birth, that we'd be into seeing it. I was kind of icked out by it, but he was basically like "here is the placenta, just look at it. Isn't it magnificent! It kept (son's name) alive during your pregnancy. After that, I felt a little bit bad for those jokes. The placenta is a workhorse. All should respect the placenta (if maybe not eat it...but again, people should be allowed to celebrate their own traditions here).
As for me, I'm not sure I would personally EAT my placenta, I think that the benefits are theoretical at this point and since I didn't have a big problem with number one, am not sure there's a point to the cost and PITA of it (for ME - not saying for anyone else). But, you have to take the jokes with a grain of salt. If you're going to do something this far away from what 99 percent of us do, people are going to laugh. It will be much easier for you if you take it in stride and maybe even acknowledge that it's an "out there" thing, but nonetheless something you believe in. Then it will be easier to wade through the insults.
You sound like you are upset about the way your first birth went and I don't blame you. My first post was simply to gently remind you that you turned off blood donors, etc with the way you posted it. So had you just come out with "I don't want to need a blood transfusion" that would have been great. But the "from god knows who" went too far and probably made people feel, rightfully so, like "holy shit, I donated my own precious blood to someone who clearly did not see it as precious!" Of course I get that you didn't want to need that blood. But you know, shades of gray and all, it's best to opt for the way to talk that doesn't hurt feelings.
Other posters, same goes for this OP. Seems like she worded her OP clumsily with respect to that blood thing, but cut this mom a break. Maybe some day placenta eating will be widespread and we will all say, "ha, remember when we were grossed out by this?" Then again, maybe someday we'll be like, wow, remember that trend? WEIRD! But why not just be respectful all around? (And okay, maybe a little bit funny).