Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We are going to a party from 12:30-2 and was told by the host there will be no lunch served. I was steaming. That is lunchtime, my dc will be hungry so I have to carry lunch with me for him. What are thinking.
I guess they were thinking this is not about you.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I hosted a part for 4yo DC where all the parents stayed. It was from 1-3 and I served real food. Sandwiches, mac 'n cheese, fruit, veggies, etc. and it was ALL gone at the end of the party. So that tells me that people were hungry. Even if I hosted a party from 2-4, I'd serve heavy snacks, not just chips and dip. I think it's better to have too much than too little.
I once went to a party (not a drop-off) that started at 1pm and all they served were pretzels and cake. Some of the kids had come from soccer didn't have time to eat beforehand so by the time the party ended at 3 or 4, they were starving and cranky.
The food being gone doesn't mean that people were hungry...it just proves the adage that people will eat what is FREE. If you had put out a bag of flour and a half eaten apple, that would have been fine too.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:2-4 you don't serve a meal. Munches and cake yes, actual meal, no way. And you are never expected to feed adults. Sorry, but you're not. The party is for kids. That's who is invited. If parents want to stay, that's fine, but they can survive 2 hours w/o food and the party is for kids (20?) not 20 kids plus however many adults feel like staying.
What if the child is under 5 and it is not a drop off party?
Would you still not feed the parents (assuming it is during meal time)?
If the party start time is 2, I agree it is not meal time. I do think a party that starts at 3:30, 4:00 or 4:30 would be meal time.
Anonymous wrote:Where are the GUESTS' manners in this thread? Why not be gracious about the amount of effort hosting is and think "that's nice they invited me." Seems to me that is someone opens their house and goes to the trouble of organizing a party, guests could be happy about that and a less b*tchy about some of these other details...
Anonymous wrote:We are going to a party from 12:30-2 and was told by the host there will be no lunch served. I was steaming. That is lunchtime, my dc will be hungry so I have to carry lunch with me for him. What are thinking.
Anonymous wrote:A one or two of your post are right on and you know who you are! The rest are wrong.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We are going to a party from 12:30-2 and was told by the host there will be no lunch served. I was steaming. That is lunchtime, my dc will be hungry so I have to carry lunch with me for him. What are thinking.
I really do not understand these kinds of posters. If you feel this way, don't go to the party. Or don't go to this person's parties in the future.
I personally think hosts have a wide latitude in what they do. Should guests criticize whether or not a host decorates the house? The types of games chosen? Whether or not they play music? Criticizing what they chose to serve for food is similar. Really, hosting is about having people over and encouraging them to have a good time. For some people, that's music and dancing; for some people that's the effort of having a bunch of kids go nuts in your home; for some people that's about the food. There isn't a "right" way to have a party, just like there isn't a right way to decorate a house. This thread is filled with insanity.
If the party was at a borderline time, I can understand. At 12:30, there should be lunch! Every guest is going to think the host is a bad host.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We are going to a party from 12:30-2 and was told by the host there will be no lunch served. I was steaming. That is lunchtime, my dc will be hungry so I have to carry lunch with me for him. What are thinking.
I really do not understand these kinds of posters. If you feel this way, don't go to the party. Or don't go to this person's parties in the future.
I personally think hosts have a wide latitude in what they do. Should guests criticize whether or not a host decorates the house? The types of games chosen? Whether or not they play music? Criticizing what they chose to serve for food is similar. Really, hosting is about having people over and encouraging them to have a good time. For some people, that's music and dancing; for some people that's the effort of having a bunch of kids go nuts in your home; for some people that's about the food. There isn't a "right" way to have a party, just like there isn't a right way to decorate a house. This thread is filled with insanity.
Anonymous wrote:We are going to a party from 12:30-2 and was told by the host there will be no lunch served. I was steaming. That is lunchtime, my dc will be hungry so I have to carry lunch with me for him. What are thinking.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:2-4 you don't serve a meal. Munches and cake yes, actual meal, no way. And you are never expected to feed adults. Sorry, but you're not. The party is for kids. That's who is invited. If parents want to stay, that's fine, but they can survive 2 hours w/o food and the party is for kids (20?) not 20 kids plus however many adults feel like staying.
That's crazy. I definitely think you need to feed the adults. Especially for non-drop-off parties. The adults have to stay, so they get food. If it's a financial thing, then just do a smaller party or have it at your home?