No.

^^ what beefwoods are is beyond me...should read bedrails.

oP here. Interesting responses. First, we aren't having a party. DH invited his parents over to watch the game. Some you of you may remember me from a post about a month ago where I said my in laws come and stay 2-3 days every 2 weeks or so. Frankly, I'm getting tired of the constant encroachment, have tried to bring it up with DH but he is rabidly protective of his parents (says they are his Gods) and doesn't care that it bothers me. I always accommodate them but this time, the bed they normally sleep on is in my daughter's room while a new one has been ordered for their normal guest room. My daughter is 9 months old and not STTN in the crib so we have put her on a mattress with beefwood and she's doing much better.

I guess my issue is that if they don't like the bed they are offered they should just drive the 25 minutes home. They are 63 and 65 and in good health.

Anonymous wrote:For me the issue is not giving up a comfortable space in deference to guests and especially the older generation. The yuck factor comes from having parents (or anyone else) sleep in a space I use for sex and which generally is the most intimate space in the house. It just feels really weird. So if there was mo other choice and I had to do it I would (and I have in the past), but it's a weird blurring of boundaries. I'd rather get a good guest bed set-up. Op!have they said why they don't like the memory foam matttress?

I agree. Such a request crosses all sorts of boundaries.

No. We have a guest bedroom and they are guests. I would not expect my hosts ever to give up their bed for me.

And unless there is some reason that they cannot drive home, they need to drive home.

YES - I would let my inlaws stay in my bed.

This doesn't sound like it happens very often. It will be a late night - the super bowl. Be a little generous and do it. you'll forget about it in a week.

My parents are pushing 80 and hell yes I would let them stay in my bed.

Op there really is not enough info to judge. I don't think you've really explained why they are sleeping over.

I guess it depends on a lot of things. It would depend on whether I felt appreciated and respected by my in laws. Are they usually mean to you or nice? Is this kind of requirement just them being high maintenance or is there a good reason? How much do you want them at your party? Do you want to go the extra mile to make them feel welcome and like you would do anything to accomodate them, or do you not?

I believe Ms. Manners said it's never necessary to give up your bed for a guest.

If you went to their house, and you hated one bed and liked another, would they accomodate you?

I really cannot believe all the no's.
When your children grow up, may their spouses sentence you to a foam mattress that makes your back hurt!

Totally neurotic and selfish bunch here. Hell yeah, I'd give up my bed for my parents or inlaws. What difference does it make? Give them clean sheets, and then change them after they leave. No big deal at all. I'd actually give up my bed for any guest at all who had a problem with my guest bed.

For me the issue is not giving up a comfortable space in deference to guests and especially the older generation. The yuck factor comes from having parents (or anyone else) sleep in a space I use for sex and which generally is the most intimate space in the house. It just feels really weird. So if there was mo other choice and I had to do it I would (and I have in the past), but it's a weird blurring of boundaries. I'd rather get a good guest bed set-up. Op!have they said why they don't like the memory foam matttress?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God, NO. That is what guest rooms are for and I would never feel comfortable using someone else's master if they were home. How do you know they don't LIKE the guestroom mattress? Did they actually say so? What incredibly bad manners. I certainly hope they didn't ASK to use your bedroom. This situation is kind of unfathomable. Who does this?

Parents. You know, the people whose bed YOU crawled into for the first several years of your life.

Right? the irony! The values that are being teached in some of these homes are going to make for really lonley golden years.

Anonymous wrote:God, NO. That is what guest rooms are for and I would never feel comfortable using someone else's master if they were home. How do you know they don't LIKE the guestroom mattress? Did they actually say so? What incredibly bad manners. I certainly hope they didn't ASK to use your bedroom. This situation is kind of unfathomable. Who does this?

Parents. You know, the people whose bed YOU crawled into for the first several years of your life.

Yes. Respect your elders.

My in-laws actually bought a new mattress for the guest room so they'd have one they liked. Hey, whatever works. I like my in-laws a lot; I'd totally give up my bed if they wanted it. I tried to give my dad my bed a few times because it was bigger, and he wouldn't take it. (which is why our guest bed in our new house is a queen-sized; the old one was full-sized.)

They live in Bowie. Why are they spending the night?!