Anonymous wrote:I think parents who place more emphasis on academics than sports are doing their kids a favor. Sports are a fun way to keep in shape; they should not dominate one's life. Our culture places WAY too much emphasis on sports, and we are now paying the economic price for it.

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Last sunday I had lunch with my asian husband and a bunch of our asian and white friends for chinese New Year. We are all actually part of asain/ white couples and we were discussing this topic/ tiger moms and all asians said it just is how it is. I said well my mom wanted me to play piano be a doctor or a lawyer too but according to them- in their minds asian parnets put a heavier level of pressure and expectation on them than say my white parents did, in thier opinion.

Anonymous wrote:It isn't "teasing' per se, but for a member of a majority group to point out or highlight the "otherness" of a minority for no reason other than simply to draw attention to the otherness of that person serves only to make the minority person feel very keenly the fact that he or she is somehow different. It is a very uncomfortable feeling to be on the receiving end. Also, it makes you feel that the speaker is not seeing you as an individual human, but as a stereotype -- that is, "we" people. by mere virtue of the fact that we all happen to come from the same enormous and very diverse continent, all share the same traits. This is not true. Cambodians or Hmong are not the same as Chinese or Koreans, and have not had the same experiences in this country. Indeed, you should take some time to educate yourself about the history of Asians in American and the myth of the model minority. I am Yonsei, fourth generation Japanese American. My family has been here generations longer than my white husband's, whose still living grandfather immigrated here illegally from Sweden across the Canadian border when he was a child. Yet my husband is viewed as a "real" American with "real" American values, and I, because of the color of my skin and hair and the shape of my eyes, am regularly treated as some kind of a foreigner -- seen only as some kind of a caricature, if you will. To continually receive the message that "you people all are good at math, play violin, etc. etc. etc." is very frustrating and it makes me angry because it demonstrates to me time and again that people have no idea who I am and are wholly ignorant of the history of this country. Whether we came here in the 1850s to build the transcontinental railroad or immigrated last year, we are "real" Americans and should be treated as such, not mocked and called "them," as in "if you can't beat them, then join them." Like we are some alien species of being instead of regular everyday Americans.

If you want to remain stubbornly ignorant, be my guest, but you will be called out and judged, and deservedly so.

how is it different from saying Catholics don't use birth control? no one is denying Catholics are Americans; no one is saying Asians are not Americans.

Anonymous wrote:No, honey

ok..lol.. lots of AA girls iceskating on TV this morning... http://www.myfoxdc.com/dpp/mornings/holly_live/national-skating-month-at-the-tucker-road-ice-rink-012312

No, honey

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Anonymous wrote:Are there a lot of Asians in your community 21:49. I can tell you that our ice skating classes are full of Asians, noticeably so probably as high as 1/4 of the kids learning although the community is not 1/4 Asian. I'm not prejudice and would never call anyone from another group by a negative name so I empathize with you and hope that your child does not have the same experiences. I'm black and I can tell you I do not see many blacks in Hockey of the blacks that I see ice skating the majority are girls doing figure skating and they are totally underepresented in ice skating compared to the community.

Voice your concern with stereotypes but make sure you voice it when people say that positive and negative comments, not just negative.

There're blacks in hockey...lol, but not many, look at Ward from the Captials. I'm AA and play hockey and so do my kids. And yes, I wish more of us would skate more, but ice is expensive and very time Consuming.

I know there are some just not many. My daughter loves the cold and has pursued skating. Yes, it is an expensive sport! Yikes, plus ice time is often at inconvenient times. There never seem to be enough rink time to go around. I was hoping that my son would try it because I thought he would like Hockey but I can not get him to even try skating. Perhaps we will start with roller skating first and then move to ice hockey.

Is your name Sonny?

5 year strive for 10. 2.5 year old - just starting, 1-2 pages.
DD does Ballet, Tennis, swimming. Starting piano. Son swimming And fitness class. Oh and language class on the weekend foR DD. Learn to read in DVD in the car. Bite me.

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Americans jingoistic fears about other Americans. Bizarre. I thought we lived in a country where people were free to participate in whatever tickles their fancy lacrosse or math worksheets. It seems this is OK as long as some don't get ahead to the entitled American gentry.

Here is what my ASIAN family does:

Me:
- I played lacrosse, soccer, basketball and tennis in school. Now I play recreational soccer.
- I love listening to classical music (wished my parents had the money to get me private piano lessons!), but instead I play the guitar.
- I listen to radio shows, like Kane morning show, that I would never allow my young kids to hear.
- I am an easy going parent, but at the same time I discourage my kids from using the word "can't" when they are too intimidated to want to learn some new skills. Does that make me into some crazy overbearing mother then?
- I love to cook and eat thai, italian, french, chinese, vietnamese, indian and american food.
- We speak mostly English at home. I wished we would speak more of my native tongue and I am trying to motivate myself to relearn my native language.

My kids:
- They know no difference between colored friends. They hold no preconceived notion and it is sweet and incredibly endearing. Their friends are the same way. My 4yo son, however, think girls are a little icky but secretly likes their pink dresses.
- My sons love to dabble with the drums (DH plays this!), the violin (DH plays this also!) and the piano.
- They like soccer, gymnastics, basketball and ice-skating/hockey and think kung fu are for thugs that want to kick people in the stomach.
- My older son takes spanish classes, but eventually I would not mind if he takes Chinese classes as well.

So I don't understand why it is relevant to be tunneled vision. Yes, my kids categorically are asian and are associated with the piano, violin, gymnastics, ice-skating and workbooks. Then again, so are my non-asian neighbors' kids. My kids are also doing other things, like basketball, soccer, spanish, museums, aquariums, and whatever else we find to be fun and educational.

Anonymous wrote:This is one bizarre post.

does make me buy more and more into the stereotype that all Asian moms are tiger moms

It is a bizarre post. It really saddens me to read these undertone of discrimination. We've gone so far as a country yet we really are not very far. I hope the negative posts are only by the same one or two ignorant people, and not a shared viewpoint of the majority in this area.

This is one bizarre post.

does make me buy more and more into the stereotype that all Asian moms are tiger moms

it means squat which country they're from; the point is if they all share the same values towards sports. to me, the answer is a resounding yes. and you can't deny it differs from that of white Americans.

Hey, gym sqatter, is the only thing you have between your ears muscle?

Not Asian, but two good friends are Chinese, and both their children do ice-skating, Kumon, Chinese school, and piano!

And my white neighbor's children do the same activities..including Chinese language school. What's you point pea brain.

I think parents who place more emphasis on academics than sports are doing their kids a favor. Sports are a fun way to keep in shape; they should not dominate one's life. Our culture places WAY too much emphasis on sports, and we are now paying the economic price for it.