Anonymous wrote:Oh no there are so many ridiculous responses going on here. NO in case it wasn't obvious don't call the police. DD is very successful in the financial industry and still is a recreational pot smoker. To be honest, I feel it's helpful and relaxes him after an extremely long work week. We would never be the family that has a glass of wine at the end of the day so this is his best option. So for me the issue is really the DEALING, as I am sure you realize this could cause severe problems depending on the quantity, etc. You need to approach with caution and be supportive and rational.
Anonymous wrote:What is it with the parents on this board that every kid is doing drugs, selling drugs, etc.? I went to a private school in NYC and then to a boarding school and then to college. I've never even SEEN a joint much less smoked one. Every kid doesn't do it, every school doesn't have it rampant, and every kid isn't lying about it. I'm 37 and I think it's pathetic when I read that parents believe their kids when they say that they don't see it at their boarding school and posters come back with "listen hon" and "you're naive" thank God my parents didn't treat me that way, and I hope to Hell I have more common sense than to treat my kids that way. Not every kid lies, either.
Anonymous wrote:DO NOT CONTACT POLICE. THEY MAY NOT TREAT DRUG DEALING AS A PETTY OFFENSE.
I have not dealt with this issue. However, you do have options. What I would probably do is to give him a choice: go clean on your own, or go into rehab. Follow that up with urine tests. If he is recreational user, he should be able to quit, otherwise, get him the help. I think at 16, you can force him into rehab.
Find a good counselor also.
Pot may seem like a minor deal, but if he gets busted for dealing, it will become very difficult to get certain types of jobs -- those that require a clearence.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Search your house and if you find something, call the cops and let them handle it. I assume you've already tried to get him off drugs and re-directed to other non-drug activities and friends?
This advice clearly comes from someone who has never dealt with this. Absolutely terrible idea. Getting arrested could limit his future substantially. Try to deal with it without handicapping the entire rest of his life.