What is the background of the agressive child? Maybe he doesn't know any better because at home there isn't enough parenting going on.

On the contrary, perhaps the kid was provoked. What's the background of the complainer and seeker of "rights"?

What is the background of the agressive child? Maybe he doesn't know any better because at home there isn't enough parenting going on.

I think this was an angry mother who came on to vent because her kid got pushed and wanted a thread of support so she could feel good about herself. Yes! She's correct! Mean kid was mean to her kid.

However, sometimes it is not so clear.

Was the kid "mean" to her kid? Was her kid the "mean kid" and the other kid pushed back? Were they playing and it got out of hand?

None of us know as these are elementry aged kids and as parents, we all know that things get out of control very quickly. It's our job, as rational parents, to control the situation and not "see how high we can take it" and get crazy over small issues.

OP: shit happens. As a parent, only you know if it was regular elementry school crap or bullying. If you need to DCUM to validate your feelings, you are in a whole lot more trouble than scraped knees and torn pants.

Anonymous wrote:Do you really think labelling a kid the "mean kid" results in any good? I find that hard to believe. From the sound of OP's post, she had ALREADY labelled this kid the "mean kid" before her kid was pushed at all. It sounds like she and other parents have been gossiping about this child. So great - they can feel superior and at the same time completely ostracize and alienate a freaking kindergartener (or so I suspect as OP refuses to say even how old these kids are - just "young elementary schoolers").

Personally, I know parents like OP and can't stand them at my kid's school. They suck and do sooooo much more harm than good.

If the kid's been pushing/harassing other kids repeatedly (not talking about some routine rough housing), at what point *DO* you intervene because the kid is showing anti-social tendencies? 1st grade? 3rd grade? 5th grade?

I know there is a certain level of playground rough housing where coming down all helicopter does more harm than good.

But come on, the 16 year old 7th graders gotta come from somewhere.

Sorry but I don't think it's unreasonable that OP wants to know how to deal with bullying. Whether when very young or older, why is it okay? Child A shoves child B and child B gets hurt. Child A walks away and child B is left to deal with having been shoved and now will be reminded every time he bends HOs knees for the next several days while those knees heel. Okay, so he wasn't stabbed or shot and his skull wasn't cracked open, but is it still okay? Honestly not trying to start an argument here, but just wondering how many times a child has to get shoved down before someone says something. Obviously DCUMers feel one time is too few. Second time? Third? When does the child start being a victim? If he shoves back he's going to get in trouble for fighting... Teachers can't be everywhere at once. It's not fair to expect them to be.

I see we are now moving on to bullying? Were you there?

OP - in yor words "how high can we take this". You were the one who wanted to start trouble for this kid. Also, now you say your kid came home with bandaids, when before you say he was taken to the clinic "clothes in shreds bleeding". Bit of a difference dont you think.

Are you sure you want to close this thread on this "mean" kid who is doing so much harm?

I understand the need and want to protect your kid, but exaggeration doesn't help anyone.

Ok- OP here- wow- I can't believe this thread- from the criticisms to me to just going overboard. Can we close this topic and everyone just criticize each other for some other reason? I was concerned- my kid came home with ripped clothes and skinned knees (w/bandaids)- no note was sent.. DC was also upset and said DC was pushed and the boy never apologized but even treated the incident like DCs fault. I asked what happened to the teacher.. I had the story from my child. My "rights" question that seemed to trigger litigation thoughts which is not the case is that I wanted to know what FCPS does- since FCPS follows procedures to a tee- so I wanted to know what those procedures were.

Let's close this ok? to the people fighting over now other issues..

Sorry but I don't think it's unreasonable that OP wants to know how to deal with bullying. Whether when very young or older, why is it okay? Child A shoves child B and child B gets hurt. Child A walks away and child B is left to deal with having been shoved and now will be reminded every time he bends HOs knees for the next several days while those knees heel. Okay, so he wasn't stabbed or shot and his skull wasn't cracked open, but is it still okay? Honestly not trying to start an argument here, but just wondering how many times a child has to get shoved down before someone says something. Obviously DCUMers feel one time is too few. Second time? Third? When does the child start being a victim? If he shoves back he's going to get in trouble for fighting... Teachers can't be everywhere at once. It's not fair to expect them to be.

Just out of curiosity, how many of the last nine posts were yours, 15:54?

Curiosity killed the cat. Who let the rats on Ritalin out of the maze?

Anonymous wrote:Just out of curiosity, how many of the last nine posts were yours, 15:54?

None, check with Jeff.

Just out of curiosity, how many of the last nine posts were yours, 15:54?