Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She wants her family together on a day that's important to her.

OP here

My point is the day that is important to me is Thanksgiving Day. It has always been one of my favorite holidays. Since when is 4 days prior to Thanksgivng an important day.
When we are invited for the Jewish holiday I kindly tell her the day is not good but she insists it is nice to be together on the first day of the Jewish holiday. So for years I dragged my kids there despite her knowing it was not at all pleasant for us (as my sibling would always arrive an hour late). She could not care less about that situation.I politely told her this year that we appreciate her offer and we would love to celebrate together but would need to do so on the weekend. But this women insisted on the actual day of the holiday as it was IMPORTANT to her. So now mom is making 4 days prior to Thanksgiving a new holiday or what?

Is the Jewish holiday important to you and your family (your family being wife and kids) if not, then guess what??? You can make the same choice your mom did with Thanksgiving and opt out. Or are you afraid of making her mad and missing out on that $2M that you think she is potentially going to leave you one day?

PPs, It is obvious that OP is for real. It is now equally obvious that the real issue his mother's decision not to have them over for the actual Thanksgiving Day.

OP, Has your mother ever stated clearly the reason she prefers to spend the day without her children and grandchildren?

Who bumped this? Does someone want to hear OP complain about his mother some more, or does the OP want people to tell him to grow the fuck up some more?

Crap, now I'm bumping it.

bump

OP here

thanks for the criticism. I welcome all good or bad comments.

I still do not see how it is not an insult to be told we welcome you to our house but you are not worthy of celebrating Thanksgiving with us. For 15 years we always celebrated on Thanksgiving day and then no more. My mom or the kids grandma is in fine health and is the one who decided that she does not want to celebrate with my family on Thanksgiving. I am not the one who made the changes. My moms cooking while good is not exactly kid friendly. She starts off every meal we go there with some type of cream soup which my kids never touch and are not the healthy type of food I like. She sees this everytime but has no desire to change or prepare the food that is more kid friendly or what we like. So what is next am I supposed to bring my own food for the kids while they sit and look at grandmas soups without trying them. And yes my kids eat plenty of vegetables but cream soups are not something they or I like. But mom or grandma is so predictable that she will cook the same thing each time regardless of the empty bowls. I do not need any handouts or gifts as I have earned on my own enough to take care of my kids. It is just my philosophy to share my wealth with my kids or future grandchildren as part of helping them out.

Anyway criticize away. I really do appreciate any words good or bad.

I wonder why it is so important for my mom to see us 4 days prior To Thanksgiving when there are many months when she does not even see the kids. So somehow on Thanksgiving (4 days before) we are supposed to let mom be happy by cooking away and having us all at her house.

I could not care less if Grandma babysits or not. She is the one missing out. I just know it is something that I would do and my father does with joy but if she shows zero interest then it shows the type of self centered person she is.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow!! I don't want to be one of THOSE people, but I can't help it. Be thankful your Grandma (or is she your mom?) is around to celebrate early with you. Many of us would trade places with you in a second. If she didn't have something like this planned you would be here whining because she never does anything for you.

OP here. What is wrong with me wanting to celebrate on Thanksgiving Day. I am happy to spend time with family on Thanksgiving Day. We used to spend every thanksgiving day togehher which I was grateful for and then one year about 6 years ago grandma stops hosting Thanksgiving. She is in good health and loves to cook so why not spend the day with family. She has chosen to no longer want to spend the day with us which is offensive to me. I feel sad when other people ask me my Thanksgiving plans and I have nothing to say.

OP you can say "we're celebrating with family early." That's what I say (though we do it "late.") And, I'm happy b/c now I get to spend it with friends too.

OP 2 words you desperately need to hear: GROW UP!!!

Who calls their mother "grandma"?

i know. Creepy isn't it?

Lets all hope it is a troll. Otherwise there are a couple kids out there with an extremely immature father.

Who calls their mother "grandma"?

It is such a burden to eat turkey twice in a year. Of course the hard part is that you have to be thankful on two entirely different days. Heads will explode!

I am calling this one a farce.

Who in the world complains about getting to eat an extra Thanksgiving dinner, especially one they do not have to cook. Seriously!

We live away from our family, and have Thanksgiving on Thursday (with friends) and Friday (another full meal, just us and our kids). If family lived nearby, we would probably end up with a third Thanksgiving, either the weekend before or after. Husband's work usually does one the week prior, so that makes 4. It is beyond my comprehension that anyone would be so snotty about having an extra Thanksgiving meal.

The only reasonable explaination is that this is a bored troll with nothing better to do on Friday night.