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Anonymous wrote:your nephew sounds like he exhibits a psychopathology way beyond the mood disorder of bipolar. bipolars don't lack empathy. i think he's been misdiagnosed.

This was in response to one of the PPs (not to do with OP) - and if you are still reading: I agree with above. Your nephew was misdiagnosed.

To OP: Our thoughts are with you! I hope your daughter is OK and will have a speedy recovery! Just a horrible horrible day for you, but tomorrow will be better!!! Sending all the best wishes!!!

PP with the nephew here--I couldn't agree more about him being misdiagnosed, but that is its own story. A long, sad story. I wanted to share that it is very important to give children opportunities to face the consequences of their childish decisions. I remember an incident when he was barely 3 years old, and he was trying to get his dad's attention while dad was changing his baby sister's diaper. My nephew picked up a belt and smashed it across the baby's face, bloodying her face. His dad picked her up and said, "that made me sad," as my nephew laughed and laughed. Then they brought him out for ice cream.

Now, when he does ever-more sadistic things, they smile and say, "He doesn't like to apologize. We don't escalate. He doesn't understand other people have feelings.". Why doesn't he understand?

It doesn't need to be about legal liability. It can just be about a life lesson.

OP, if you are still reading, ignore the mean comments here, and kiss all your sweet babies for me. I've had my share of accidents, and they are my lowest moments as a parent. I'm so sorry.

i hope your girl will recovery perfectly soon!

For the person making comments abt 3yr olds on monkey bars....
I have a 3 yr old DD, and guess what ppl, she plays on th monkey bars!!! So what! She can't reach the top obviously so I hold her while she goes thru the bars. But she's allowed!!! If someone pushed her that wouldn't be our fault but the aggessors, even if it's a child.

Anonymous wrote:your nephew sounds like he exhibits a psychopathology way beyond the mood disorder of bipolar. bipolars don't lack empathy. i think he's been misdiagnosed.

This was in response to one of the PPs (not to do with OP) - and if you are still reading: I agree with above. Your nephew was misdiagnosed.

To OP: Our thoughts are with you! I hope your daughter is OK and will have a speedy recovery! Just a horrible horrible day for you, but tomorrow will be better!!! Sending all the best wishes!!!

Anonymous wrote:why are you posting your kid's and your family's business all over the web?

i'm sorry there is something super wrong with this entire thread. the neighbor's involvement, demonizing this "other child" noone knows a damn thing about, and just the whole thing.

Are you new here? The OP posted in a state of angst and fear. Probably the impetus for most posts when parents are scared and need to reach out. She mistakenly identified a family member, but I can't seem much harm of that.

And many posters have rejected the idea that any child should be "demonized." Consensus is, accidents happen, and we are just here to support one another when they do.

why are you posting your kid's and your family's business all over the web?

i'm sorry there is something super wrong with this entire thread. the neighbor's involvement, demonizing this "other child" noone knows a damn thing about, and just the whole thing.

Wow people... so many of your posts are NOT helpful to OP during a stressful and difficult time. She reached out to a community of parents when she didn't know where to turn for comfort and THIS is how you respond? Is that how you would like to be treated?

OP - thinking of you and wishing your little one a speedy recovery! You will be amazed at your (and her!) strength.

Best wishes to you and your family.

Thank you DN for keeping us updated!

Classy as always, DCUM.

First off, thinking of you OP. I echo what others have said about kids being resilient and surviving lots of things. It just sucks for you as they have their tumbles and mishaps.

Secondly, where I come from, we called all jungle gyms, playground equipment, etc, as "monkey bars." Just offer this up to the posters who think she might have left her little one dangling.

Lastly, I remember suffering a broken arm at age 7 after falling out of a swing. The bigger kids told me I was being a sissy, and I put on a good face to hide the pain. I even fooled my parents, who didn't take me to have it set until the next evening.

I went on to play tennis and field hockey in high school. Point is, you will be amazed what little people can endure and come out okay.

And I also applaud the neighbor for keeing us posted.

Sending good thoughts your way, OP. Children are resilient, much more than we give them credit for. DS and his friends, who are not yet six, have had their fair share of stitches and broken bones, but none seem the worse for the wear. It is terribly frightening, but your daughter is in good hands.

And don't pay attention to the critical shrews on this thread. We all process stress in different ways.

I love the DN (dear neighbor). Keep us posted. I am sure everything is going to be fine, but I can't help worrying about the mom.

I just had my first, and my hormones are whack.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to come across as a total asshole, but the wine might not be a good idea. I know dad is in the hospital right now, but IF her daughter ends up having a concussion or other issues, she might want to be sober and alert. I know we are probably talking about a glass of wine... but still.

OP wishing you all the best! I honestly would be furious about what happened, I truly hope the boy who pushed her realizes the consequences of his behavior. (if he can't because of an illness, I truly hope his caregiver realizes the consequences of his behavior!)

Not sure if asshole is the right word, but you do sound like a total prig.

I think asshole works.

I do not see anything wrong with the persons post and thought that she was being pretty helpful in saying that maybe she wants to be in the right state of mind (wine affects everyone differently) in case she may get an update that may not be so good.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not trying to come across as a total asshole, but the wine might not be a good idea. I know dad is in the hospital right now, but IF her daughter ends up having a concussion or other issues, she might want to be sober and alert. I know we are probably talking about a glass of wine... but still.

OP wishing you all the best! I honestly would be furious about what happened, I truly hope the boy who pushed her realizes the consequences of his behavior. (if he can't because of an illness, I truly hope his caregiver realizes the consequences of his behavior!)

Not sure if asshole is the right word, but you do sound like a total prig.

I think asshole works.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad. However, 3 year old on the monkey bars mom? That is not a smart idea at all. You could not have been spotting or had your hands tightly gripped on the child if another kid could actually knock the child off the monkey bars. 3 is VERY young to be on the monkey bars even with supervision and this is probably why.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital, would you lay the fuck off?

OP I hope you go back to the park and try to find that boy and his parents and let them know what he caused.

OMG her daughter is in the hospital and she is on DCUM. GASP.

You're a fucking bitch. What's OP supposed to be doing while she waits to hear from her DH? Put on a hair shirt and self flagellate? Be shopping online for a tazer so that the next rowdy older child who so much as looks at her DD the wrong way will get what's coming to him?

I know that when was at my wits end, and couldn't do anything but sit at the computer and reach out to strangers, it worked for me. The OP couldn't go anywhere or do anything. She had sleeping kids at home.

I would have called friends/family versus posting about it on a board for strangers. I mean, look at the feedback she has gotten so far. Hunt down the other child? She should not have put the child on the monkey bars? She should not be drinking? Sorry, rather deal with family and friends for comfort and support.