Anonymous wrote:I'm Caucasian. Blonde hair, blue eyes--I look like a Barbie doll. really. I grew up in Asia, and still spend a lot of time there as an adult. I speak fluent Japanese, and broken Chinese. Asians stereotype, too. I've had this happen to me my whole life, essentially in reverse. I was the only Caucasian in my elementary school, if that gives you some perspective. It can be funny, frightening or annoying. But at least I wasn't in my own country, I was basically a guest in someone else's country (although I thought it was my country as a very young child)

It happens everywhere, and it has to be conditioned out of humans--the tendency.

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Anonymous wrote:DC looks Hispanic but is bi-racial. I don't really put lots of thought into how I dress her. She's a toddler and I dress her in clothes that I like, which happens to be a mini-boden type style. I don't get comments on her clothes, but I am aware that there are people in the world who might stereotype her because of the color of her skin. My biggest frustration is with people who assume we're poor immigrants, regardless of how we're dressed.

Just wanted to point out, Hispanic is not a race, but I get that you probably mean she looks stereotypically Hispanic- dark eyes, dark hair, darker skin.

However, all biracial means is that she is of two different races; it doesn't say what her background is. She could be biracial white/Native Amrican, which could give her a stereotypically Hispanic look.

DC is of biracial and part Hispanic. DH is Hispanic-American; family came from Spain several generations ago. I am bi-racial, also American. She doesn't look Native American at all. She looks like a darker skinned Spaniard. Unfortunately, some people don't bother looking at facial features. They see dark skin and think Mexican/Latino/South American, which for them implies poor and immigrant, and in our case that couldn't be farther from the truth. I'm not trying to pick on you, but it's interesting that your image of Hispanic means she looks part Native American. Not all Hispanics or even Latinos look this way. A friend from Mexico looks completely European. DH's grandmother had blonde hair and blue eyes.

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Anonymous wrote:"Yes, this is true. And anyone who doesn't believe this is probably Caucasian and hasn't felt the behavior of stereotyping strangers. I can say that there is far less of this now than there was 20-30 years ago, but it still exists. I am Chinese American, born and raised in the US. I don't speak with an accent (after living in Maryland for 25+ years, I've managed to lose my Pittsburgh accent that I grew up with). On the phone, most people would have no idea of my race. And yet, when people here my clearly Asian surname I sometimes get interesting reactions. I've had people hear my surname and start to speak slower and louder. I had customer service agents who had no problem conversing normally with me, but when my surname is mentioned, suddenly every 2-3 sentences I would get "Do you understand?" or "Do I need to repeat that?" or they just repeat everything twice. I dress in pretty standard clothing...jeans and polo shirts most of the time. And yet, I can go places and have people react as if I am clearly "different". How often do people "break the ice" with you by discussing what their favorite Chinese food is. Or how much they love sushi? Or talk about how they had a wonderful trip to China and ask if you miss being there? I can guarantee you that some people still stereotype and act differently based on what you look like or even your name. I get these and similar types of comments at least a few times a month. When I was in college, it was a few times a week. Slow progress, but still progress."


Seinfeld episode.

PP here. Sorry, but I've watched a grand total of about 12 episodes of Seinfeld. I'm not much of a TV watcher. This is my real life. For example, I took my wife to a clinic a couple of months ago. While sitting in the waiting room, I had a cute little old couple who looked like they were in their 70's try to break the ice with us. They told me how much they love Chinese food and how their son (who was in the service and fought in VIET NAM, which was stressed very significantly) started taking them to this wonderful buffet, but although most of the food was wonderful, they served some strange things. There was this one thing that my son made me try, but wouldn't tell me what it was. Can you believe that it was raw fish? Do you believe people would actually eat that?", That, details of what her son did in Viet Nam, and questions of if I like living here in America" were the entirety of a long discussion while waiting for our doctor's appointment. My wife spent 10 minutes trying to stifle the laughter of listening to me try to politely divert this couple before she had to go to the bathroom to get away with it. Only one example...I have a lot of others, but some just aren't a humorous as this.

Anonymous wrote:Another ignorant post? Say it isn't so..... No one cares that your children look Latino. No one cares if your child wore his underwear outside of his pants. No one cares but YOU. Being dressed well does not equal good behavior. People comment on your child's behavior because they have good behavior. Why do you feel as though you have something to prove through your children? If you were so concerned about making sure your Latino looking children were not looking "Latino," maybe you should not have reproduced with one. Feel sorry for your kids OP. You are far too uptight. Let your children have FUN. It won't hurt.

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Anonymous wrote:"Yes, this is true. And anyone who doesn't believe this is probably Caucasian and hasn't felt the behavior of stereotyping strangers. I can say that there is far less of this now than there was 20-30 years ago, but it still exists. I am Chinese American, born and raised in the US. I don't speak with an accent (after living in Maryland for 25+ years, I've managed to lose my Pittsburgh accent that I grew up with). On the phone, most people would have no idea of my race. And yet, when people here my clearly Asian surname I sometimes get interesting reactions. I've had people hear my surname and start to speak slower and louder. I had customer service agents who had no problem conversing normally with me, but when my surname is mentioned, suddenly every 2-3 sentences I would get "Do you understand?" or "Do I need to repeat that?" or they just repeat everything twice. I dress in pretty standard clothing...jeans and polo shirts most of the time. And yet, I can go places and have people react as if I am clearly "different". How often do people "break the ice" with you by discussing what their favorite Chinese food is. Or how much they love sushi? Or talk about how they had a wonderful trip to China and ask if you miss being there? I can guarantee you that some people still stereotype and act differently based on what you look like or even your name. I get these and similar types of comments at least a few times a month. When I was in college, it was a few times a week. Slow progress, but still progress."


Seinfeld episode.

Wow, what a rude, dismissive response to someone's life experiences.

Anonymous wrote:"collard shirt"

mmm...tasty......LMAO

thanks, OP, you just made my day! HA HA HA

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Anonymous wrote:DC looks Hispanic but is bi-racial. I don't really put lots of thought into how I dress her. She's a toddler and I dress her in clothes that I like, which happens to be a mini-boden type style. I don't get comments on her clothes, but I am aware that there are people in the world who might stereotype her because of the color of her skin. My biggest frustration is with people who assume we're poor immigrants, regardless of how we're dressed.

Just wanted to point out, Hispanic is not a race, but I get that you probably mean she looks stereotypically Hispanic- dark eyes, dark hair, darker skin.

However, all biracial means is that she is of two different races; it doesn't say what her background is. She could be biracial white/Native Amrican, which could give her a stereotypically Hispanic look.

Anonymous wrote:"Yes, this is true. And anyone who doesn't believe this is probably Caucasian and hasn't felt the behavior of stereotyping strangers. I can say that there is far less of this now than there was 20-30 years ago, but it still exists. I am Chinese American, born and raised in the US. I don't speak with an accent (after living in Maryland for 25+ years, I've managed to lose my Pittsburgh accent that I grew up with). On the phone, most people would have no idea of my race. And yet, when people here my clearly Asian surname I sometimes get interesting reactions. I've had people hear my surname and start to speak slower and louder. I had customer service agents who had no problem conversing normally with me, but when my surname is mentioned, suddenly every 2-3 sentences I would get "Do you understand?" or "Do I need to repeat that?" or they just repeat everything twice. I dress in pretty standard clothing...jeans and polo shirts most of the time. And yet, I can go places and have people react as if I am clearly "different". How often do people "break the ice" with you by discussing what their favorite Chinese food is. Or how much they love sushi? Or talk about how they had a wonderful trip to China and ask if you miss being there? I can guarantee you that some people still stereotype and act differently based on what you look like or even your name. I get these and similar types of comments at least a few times a month. When I was in college, it was a few times a week. Slow progress, but still progress."


Seinfeld episode.

Anonymous wrote:"Yes, this is true. And anyone who doesn't believe this is probably Caucasian and hasn't felt the behavior of stereotyping strangers. I can say that there is far less of this now than there was 20-30 years ago, but it still exists. I am Chinese American, born and raised in the US. I don't speak with an accent (after living in Maryland for 25+ years, I've managed to lose my Pittsburgh accent that I grew up with). On the phone, most people would have no idea of my race. And yet, when people here my clearly Asian surname I sometimes get interesting reactions. I've had people hear my surname and start to speak slower and louder. I had customer service agents who had no problem conversing normally with me, but when my surname is mentioned, suddenly every 2-3 sentences I would get "Do you understand?" or "Do I need to repeat that?" or they just repeat everything twice. I dress in pretty standard clothing...jeans and polo shirts most of the time. And yet, I can go places and have people react as if I am clearly "different". How often do people "break the ice" with you by discussing what their favorite Chinese food is. Or how much they love sushi? Or talk about how they had a wonderful trip to China and ask if you miss being there? I can guarantee you that some people still stereotype and act differently based on what you look like or even your name. I get these and similar types of comments at least a few times a month. When I was in college, it was a few times a week. Slow progress, but still progress."


Seinfeld episode.