Anonymous
12/17/2012 19:19
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
No.
Anonymous
12/17/2012 18:51
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
It depends, is he over 70? Was his first marriage when he was 16-18, second from 20-22, third from 25-55....yes. If there was a pattern of longer commitment and progressively greater compatibility with spouses, yes. One pass for a spuse with severe mental illness or drug/alcohol addiction. I don't hold that against anyone. Sometimes people are young and dumb. People who have absurdly young marriages that only lasted a year get a pass too, IMO.
Anonymous
12/17/2012 18:19
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I was wife #2 to a man who is on wife #4. I really think #4 is the one.
Anonymous
12/17/2012 18:10
Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
A childhood friend (who has issues of her own, huge ones) fell in love/moved in/got engaged to a man who had been divorced 5 times.
yep, 5 times.
before they could get married, she discovered he was cheating on her with the woman he envisioned as wife #7.
yep, 5 times.
before they could get married, she discovered he was cheating on her with the woman he envisioned as wife #7.
Anonymous
12/17/2012 17:56
Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I dated a man divorced three times and would never do it again!!!!!! Boy talk about red flags..... RUN, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN
Anonymous
03/08/2011 22:07
Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I second or third the "Hell no!".
Anonymous
03/08/2011 22:05
Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I don't think I would do it, unless we were 80 years old and there were "good" reasons for it. I think the main thing that would turn me off, is it would appear that he makes poor decisions....and I don't want to be married to a poor decision maker.
Anonymous
03/08/2011 11:13
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Probably not. And hey, I'm divorced, re-partnered with someone else who's divorced. We each have one ex-spouse. We've learned and grown and changed. On some level I trust a man who's been divorced and is in his forties moreso than one who's never been married. Maybe this is hypocritical, but more than one divorce makes me raise an eyebrow.
Anonymous
03/07/2011 14:35
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
No way!
Anonymous
03/07/2011 11:55
Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Heck no! Once divorced, maybe. Anymore than once and I wouldn't take the chance. That person is clearly confused about what they want in a mate and there's no assurance that they will be committed to staying with you for a lifetime, whatever is left of it.
Anonymous
03/06/2011 15:31
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Here's my story. My Mom was married 4 times. She was still in her 4th marriage up until she passed away. I know she would have stayed married to him as well.
My Mom and my Dad: Married at 21. My Dad was an a-hole. Screaming and yelling constantly. They divorced after 5 years when I was a year old.
My Mom and husband #2: Her high school sweetheart. He was maniac depressive and had serious OCD. He stopped taking his meds and reverted back to how he used to be. She separated from him in hopes of him taking his meds again (kinda like I can't be with you unless you are healthy...she really loved him), but he passed away before they could get to that point. They had one child together.
My Mom and husband #3: She married him basically b/c she was looking for a father figure for my sister. He was a nice enough guy, but about as bland as they come. My Mom was very energetic and loved new experiences...but him not so much. But she put that aside for the sake of my sister. No connection between them. Nada. My Mom eventually started losing weight for her health. Apparently, my step father had a fetish for obese women. They decided to go their separate ways.
My Mom and husband #4: I had never seen my Mother so happy. Seriously. She was able to finally relax and start to become comfortable with herself. She really met someone who she was going to be with forever. Unfortunately, she passed away after only 6 years with him. But she passed away happy and in love....something that she was searching her whole life for.
So, would I date someone who had been married 3 times? Maybe. Sometimes what you think will work, doesn't. What if it wasn't them that was the issue...what if it was the wife? No harm in giving it a shot. At least find out why he was married 3 times.
That said, I am married to my husband and do not plan on divorcing any time soon! I know what it will do to the kids
You know what a divorce would do to the kids??? Do you think that you or your sister would have been better off if mom had stayed with abusive screamer? Or manic depressive off his meds? What do you think THAT would do to the kids?
I am not saying they should have stayed together. Even though I KNOW it was for the best, it still effected me. You can pretend all you want that it doesn't or won't...but it does. I stand by what I said though. I know what divorce would do to the kids. That is why I did not get married until I was 29 years old and made sure I was certain this is who I wanted to be with. I know the scars that divorce can leave on kids and it's not pretty. I did live with a manic depressive off his meds for a while. All of it took a toll on me. Luckily I was able to heal myself in my mid 20's. Though I know many people who can't, won't or haven't. It's a real shame.
Anonymous
03/06/2011 09:06
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:Here's my story. My Mom was married 4 times. She was still in her 4th marriage up until she passed away. I know she would have stayed married to him as well.
My Mom and my Dad: Married at 21. My Dad was an a-hole. Screaming and yelling constantly. They divorced after 5 years when I was a year old.
My Mom and husband #2: Her high school sweetheart. He was maniac depressive and had serious OCD. He stopped taking his meds and reverted back to how he used to be. She separated from him in hopes of him taking his meds again (kinda like I can't be with you unless you are healthy...she really loved him), but he passed away before they could get to that point. They had one child together.
My Mom and husband #3: She married him basically b/c she was looking for a father figure for my sister. He was a nice enough guy, but about as bland as they come. My Mom was very energetic and loved new experiences...but him not so much. But she put that aside for the sake of my sister. No connection between them. Nada. My Mom eventually started losing weight for her health. Apparently, my step father had a fetish for obese women. They decided to go their separate ways.
My Mom and husband #4: I had never seen my Mother so happy. Seriously. She was able to finally relax and start to become comfortable with herself. She really met someone who she was going to be with forever. Unfortunately, she passed away after only 6 years with him. But she passed away happy and in love....something that she was searching her whole life for.
So, would I date someone who had been married 3 times? Maybe. Sometimes what you think will work, doesn't. What if it wasn't them that was the issue...what if it was the wife? No harm in giving it a shot. At least find out why he was married 3 times.
That said, I am married to my husband and do not plan on divorcing any time soon! I know what it will do to the kids
You know what a divorce would do to the kids??? Do you think that you or your sister would have been better off if mom had stayed with abusive screamer? Or manic depressive off his meds? What do you think THAT would do to the kids?
Anonymous
03/04/2011 21:51
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Here's my story. My Mom was married 4 times. She was still in her 4th marriage up until she passed away. I know she would have stayed married to him as well.
My Mom and my Dad: Married at 21. My Dad was an a-hole. Screaming and yelling constantly. They divorced after 5 years when I was a year old.
My Mom and husband #2: Her high school sweetheart. He was maniac depressive and had serious OCD. He stopped taking his meds and reverted back to how he used to be. She separated from him in hopes of him taking his meds again (kinda like I can't be with you unless you are healthy...she really loved him), but he passed away before they could get to that point. They had one child together.
My Mom and husband #3: She married him basically b/c she was looking for a father figure for my sister. He was a nice enough guy, but about as bland as they come. My Mom was very energetic and loved new experiences...but him not so much. But she put that aside for the sake of my sister. No connection between them. Nada. My Mom eventually started losing weight for her health. Apparently, my step father had a fetish for obese women. They decided to go their separate ways.
My Mom and husband #4: I had never seen my Mother so happy. Seriously. She was able to finally relax and start to become comfortable with herself. She really met someone who she was going to be with forever. Unfortunately, she passed away after only 6 years with him. But she passed away happy and in love....something that she was searching her whole life for.
So, would I date someone who had been married 3 times? Maybe. Sometimes what you think will work, doesn't. What if it wasn't them that was the issue...what if it was the wife? No harm in giving it a shot. At least find out why he was married 3 times.
That said, I am married to my husband and do not plan on divorcing any time soon! I know what it will do to the kids
My Mom and my Dad: Married at 21. My Dad was an a-hole. Screaming and yelling constantly. They divorced after 5 years when I was a year old.
My Mom and husband #2: Her high school sweetheart. He was maniac depressive and had serious OCD. He stopped taking his meds and reverted back to how he used to be. She separated from him in hopes of him taking his meds again (kinda like I can't be with you unless you are healthy...she really loved him), but he passed away before they could get to that point. They had one child together.
My Mom and husband #3: She married him basically b/c she was looking for a father figure for my sister. He was a nice enough guy, but about as bland as they come. My Mom was very energetic and loved new experiences...but him not so much. But she put that aside for the sake of my sister. No connection between them. Nada. My Mom eventually started losing weight for her health. Apparently, my step father had a fetish for obese women. They decided to go their separate ways.
My Mom and husband #4: I had never seen my Mother so happy. Seriously. She was able to finally relax and start to become comfortable with herself. She really met someone who she was going to be with forever. Unfortunately, she passed away after only 6 years with him. But she passed away happy and in love....something that she was searching her whole life for.
So, would I date someone who had been married 3 times? Maybe. Sometimes what you think will work, doesn't. What if it wasn't them that was the issue...what if it was the wife? No harm in giving it a shot. At least find out why he was married 3 times.
That said, I am married to my husband and do not plan on divorcing any time soon! I know what it will do to the kids
Anonymous
03/04/2011 18:20
Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Both of my inlaws have been divorced three times. Both are (basically) nice people with issues. I feel for them, because three divorces is a red flag for anyone (my MIL is very sensitive about it). Both are still dating, one seriously. But they are getting older and I figure if they marry a fourth time, what's it matter? In a way as they get older it becomes less of an issue, because once you're eighty, who cares if the marriages only lasts five years?
Anonymous
03/03/2011 17:44
Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I'd only marry the guy if I definitely wanted to experience what a divorce feels like first hand.