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Anonymous wrote:Why are privates becoming a haven for these special needs kids?
Are there any privates that reject them? Which ones?

Yes, our children are everywhere. But no worries -- they won't pollute your children nearly as much as your bigotry will.

By the way, its illegal to reject someone solely because of their disability and there is no school in this city that has a blanket policy of rejecting children with SN.

That's not true. A private school that receives no public funding can legally accept or reject whomever they like just as any private organization (a country club, the Boy Scouts) can.

Yes, second poster is correct. Private organizations can reject anyone for any reason or no reason at all. Why do parents of SN kids try to use accusations of discrimination to get their kids in to schools that will not be right for them? Just like sensible parents of NT kids talk about "fit" so should parents of SN kids. It is very important to make sure your child will be at the school that best fits him or her, not just at a school that YOU desire because you want it. It is exactly the same, regardless of the way a child learns, you have to find the school that best fits your child, where s/he will be happy, comfortable, accommodated, AND challenged appropriately. "Gaming" the system by lying or concealing the truth about a child's learning style, because you plan to "make the school accommodate" your child after s/he is accepted, is a terrible way to treat your child. You are putting the child in a very uncomfortable situation.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are privates becoming a haven for these special needs kids?
Are there any privates that reject them? Which ones?

Yes, our children are everywhere. But no worries -- they won't pollute your children nearly as much as your bigotry will.

By the way, its illegal to reject someone solely because of their disability and there is no school in this city that has a blanket policy of rejecting children with SN.

That's not true. A private school that receives no public funding can legally accept or reject whomever they like just as any private organization (a country club, the Boy Scouts) can.

Well, you do not have to hide it. You can describe the child and leave the label off! Why limit potential unless really necessary to put child in school where expectations kept low?

Anonymous wrote:21:34 exactly my earlier point. Often the top testers have "something".

"It seems for success in science or art, a dash of autism is required."

--Hans Asperger

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Anonymous wrote:Keep it a secret if you want to get in. Sta and St.Anselm's.
How many Harvard grads have I met in Ny with this disorder?.....many!
We have family member with similar diagnosis, DC in top NE. Boarding school...a math phenom...
Parents advised not to disclose. They have offered what child needs to do best. Numerous professionals have told parents not to disclose label to DC. The diagnosis has explained a lot, but need not limit DC unless you let it. I assure you, DC would never have been admitted to current school. DC is viewed as different no doubt...like many Math nerds...good luck and do not listen to people who bring you down...and do not lower bar,your DC will most assuredly reach it.

ITA. My child has an AS dx but can "pass" as NT. I think disclosing Asperger's to private schools only hurts their chances of admission. DS's dad and grandpa both attended elite NE boarding schools and Ivy colleges and their AS symptoms were much worse than DS's: They both did great academically. As long as DC can handle the academics and not need any Sp Ed supports/services, there is no advantage in disclosing this diagnosis.

Absolutely disgusting that in this day and age (oh yes, it's national Autism Awareness month) you feel the need to hide an AS diagnosis.

21:34 exactly my earlier point. Often the top testers have "something".

OP, a friend of mine who works at St Anselm's just told me, to my great surprise, that SAAS admits boys with high functioning Asperger's and other types of SN. I know it is a school with a reputation for academic rigor and exceptionally bright students as well as top college placement. According to my friend, who again, works at SAAS, a significant number of the students have learning differences and are fully accommodated and yet mainstream.

There seem to be Aspie kids at all the local private schools, including the top ones. I agree with the poster about disclosing the issue after your DC is accepted, unless her condition is severe enough that it will impact her ability to fit in or cope with the school environment. There are at least a couple of Aspie kids at my kids' school, and they are well liked by the mathy crowd and seem to have a great time there.

This is DC, there are a lot of smart people on the spectrum here. Try not to worry too much.

Anonymous wrote:Why are privates becoming a haven for these special needs kids?
Are there any privates that reject them? Which ones?

Well, my kid with Asperger's has a FSIQ of 157 but don't worry, we're in public and may stay there since none of the private schools around here are a good fit although we are looking at a few NE boarding schools.

Washington Episcopal is a good choice.

Private schools can and will deny admission if they know of disorder. Once you're in,you can do what you choose and get reasonable accommodations....read the fine print on contract. Thank you ,Americans with Disabilities Act. Still better to not disclose if not ness. I am poster from above with relative at NE school. The same of course ,applies to college admissions ...accommodations after admit. Not a thing they can do. Illegal for them to disclose extended time as well. Unfortunate ,we must game the system.....but, admissions /exmissions horse trades too.....

Anonymous wrote:Why are privates becoming a haven for these special needs kids?
Are there any privates that reject them? Which ones?

Yes, our children are everywhere. But no worries -- they won't pollute your children nearly as much as your bigotry will.

By the way, its illegal to reject someone solely because of their disability and there is no school in this city that has a blanket policy of rejecting children with SN.

Why are privates becoming a haven for these special needs kids?
Are there any privates that reject them? Which ones?

McLean School

Anonymous wrote:Keep it a secret if you want to get in. Sta and St.Anselm's.
How many Harvard grads have I met in Ny with this disorder?.....many!
We have family member with similar diagnosis, DC in top NE. Boarding school...a math phenom...
Parents advised not to disclose. They have offered what child needs to do best. Numerous professionals have told parents not to disclose label to DC. The diagnosis has explained a lot, but need not limit DC unless you let it. I assure you, DC would never have been admitted to current school. DC is viewed as different no doubt...like many Math nerds...good luck and do not listen to people who bring you down...and do not lower bar,your DC will most assuredly reach it.

ITA. My child has an AS dx but can "pass" as NT. I think disclosing Asperger's to private schools only hurts their chances of admission. DS's dad and grandpa both attended elite NE boarding schools and Ivy colleges and their AS symptoms were much worse than DS's: They both did great academically. As long as DC can handle the academics and not need any Sp Ed supports/services, there is no advantage in disclosing this diagnosis.