Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:30     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:I was going to invite people over for fondue, but I guess that would mean they would be making their own food and someone would post on DCUM about it.


As long as you tell them ahead of time (which is really no different than asking if there is anything they can't eat) and have enough food and drinks for everyone, why would anyone complain?
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:30     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
I'm not really stuck on the assembling the pizza part, it's the "cook it yourself" part that seems weird. They want a bunch of people trying to fight for space in their oven? Why wouldn't they just do that part?

The people who are stingy with wine are annoying too. I don't drink that much, but I'd still always offer more to guests because having 2-4 glasses is pretty normal.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:28     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Friends invited us to their house Sunday for what I thought was a dinner party. After an hour, the wife puts pizza dough in front of us and says “now you can make your own pizzas and cook them yourselves.”

Not sure if it was a play date or what but it was very strange.

Oh and only one glass of wine per guest


What is wrong with you? It is a fun activity and you can make your pizza how you see fit. We have both hosted and attended dinner parties where this happened and it's a lot of fun.

People will complain about anything, I swear.


This was a get together with kids. Perfectly ok and fun.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:28     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think OP's balking is weird (who doesn't enjoy homemade pizza?!) but this is why I always run menu plans past guests - to rule out surprises, allergy/dietary issues, etc.


DP. This isn't about not enjoying pizza. The etiquette misstep on the part of the host was not to inform the guests about the "theme" of the night, which included making their own meal. That is a theme. That is not a dinner party, where one assumes one gets to go and relax and enjoy themselves, not have to work for their dinner.


You aren't a DP. You're the OP. Because literally no one else agrees with this perspective.

It was kind of a wild assumption that it was a "dinner party" as well. Did she dress in a cocktail dress and her DH in tails?


I'm the PP you are accusing. I'm definitely not the OP. And plenty of us agree that you need to inform guests if the party is something other than just come over and have a regular meal. (I have no comment on the wine.) I also happen to know a great deal about etiquette. I'm guessing you are the PP who pretends to be more than one defending the host's lack of manner.

Ah, are you the host?
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:27     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
I was going to invite people over for fondue, but I guess that would mean they would be making their own food and someone would post on DCUM about it.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:25     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:several of us have said OP's friend should have told her the theme beforehand. It's a good theme for a party but it's weird to present someone with a ball of dough out of the blue.


This. It's a fun idea and I'd be happy to participate, but it's really weird not to tell your guests ahead of time. If you invite me over for dinner I am not expecting to cook it.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:25     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Friends invited us to their house Sunday for what I thought was a dinner party. After an hour, the wife puts pizza dough in front of us and says “now you can make your own pizzas and cook them yourselves.”

Not sure if it was a play date or what but it was very strange.

Oh and only one glass of wine per guest


What is wrong with you? It is a fun activity and you can make your pizza how you see fit. We have both hosted and attended dinner parties where this happened and it's a lot of fun.

People will complain about anything, I swear.


You mean they didn't complain to your face? Because you have no idea what they said when you weren't around.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:24     Subject: Re:Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m older but I just enjoy being invited and enjoying food and time with friends. I’m even fine with water to drink. It’s about the company.


I'm older too and I'd much rather stay at home, eat what I want and drink my good wine. I don't enjoy the company of cheap skates. To each her own.


Homemade pizzas like this aren't cheap. And their labor intensive for the host: making the dough (or buying and dividing the dough); making the sauce(s); cutting up all the toppings; investment in the oven and the accessories and the fuel. This sort of meal is akin to raclette or fondue. It's a social meal.

But I don't enjoy being around people so narrow-minded about experiences so I'd be thankful you won't be coming.


I'm sorry, I'm so very confused. I was under the impression that the host CHOSE to do pizza and not tell any of the guests beforehand.

Your attempt to shame me for YOUR lack of manners is not working on me. You can keep your pizza. I'm perfectly happy without people like you in my life.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:23     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:several of us have said OP's friend should have told her the theme beforehand. It's a good theme for a party but it's weird to present someone with a ball of dough out of the blue.


+1 Give them a heads up and it's fine. Yes, fun even.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:21     Subject: Re:Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m older but I just enjoy being invited and enjoying food and time with friends. I’m even fine with water to drink. It’s about the company.


I'm older too and I'd much rather stay at home, eat what I want and drink my good wine. I don't enjoy the company of cheap skates. To each her own.


Homemade pizzas like this aren't cheap. And their labor intensive for the host: making the dough (or buying and dividing the dough); making the sauce(s); cutting up all the toppings; investment in the oven and the accessories and the fuel. This sort of meal is akin to raclette or fondue. It's a social meal.

But I don't enjoy being around people so narrow-minded about experiences so I'd be thankful you won't be coming.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:19     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:Friends invited us to their house Sunday for what I thought was a dinner party. After an hour, the wife puts pizza dough in front of us and says “now you can make your own pizzas and cook them yourselves.”

Not sure if it was a play date or what but it was very strange.

Oh and only one glass of wine per guest


What is wrong with you? It is a fun activity and you can make your pizza how you see fit. We have both hosted and attended dinner parties where this happened and it's a lot of fun.

People will complain about anything, I swear.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:18     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
several of us have said OP's friend should have told her the theme beforehand. It's a good theme for a party but it's weird to present someone with a ball of dough out of the blue.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:17     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think OP's balking is weird (who doesn't enjoy homemade pizza?!) but this is why I always run menu plans past guests - to rule out surprises, allergy/dietary issues, etc.


DP. This isn't about not enjoying pizza. The etiquette misstep on the part of the host was not to inform the guests about the "theme" of the night, which included making their own meal. That is a theme. That is not a dinner party, where one assumes one gets to go and relax and enjoy themselves, not have to work for their dinner.


You aren't a DP. You're the OP. Because literally no one else agrees with this perspective.

It was kind of a wild assumption that it was a "dinner party" as well. Did she dress in a cocktail dress and her DH in tails?


What are you blabbering about? I 1000% agree with the pp. Whoever raised you did a terrible job.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:16     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Fun. One glass is plenty.


OP sound like an ungrateful lush.


No, but you sound like an uncultured swine.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2026 15:16     Subject: Friends invited us over…..to cook our own food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think OP's balking is weird (who doesn't enjoy homemade pizza?!) but this is why I always run menu plans past guests - to rule out surprises, allergy/dietary issues, etc.


DP. This isn't about not enjoying pizza. The etiquette misstep on the part of the host was not to inform the guests about the "theme" of the night, which included making their own meal. That is a theme. That is not a dinner party, where one assumes one gets to go and relax and enjoy themselves, not have to work for their dinner.


You aren't a DP. You're the OP. Because literally no one else agrees with this perspective.

It was kind of a wild assumption that it was a "dinner party" as well. Did she dress in a cocktail dress and her DH in tails?