Anonymous wrote:If it was itemized maybe he was only expensing his portion not the entire bill. You got a free lunch, you could have pick up the bill but you didn't.

You're missing the point - his portion wasn't a business expense either...

I had a co-worker years ago who put a local hotel (we worked in DC and the hotel was in DC) on his work credit card so he could meet up with his AP. He was obviously fired. I still run into him sometimes.

Anyway, I'd find what your date did to be a red flag. Not only is it unethical but it's cheap.

Anonymous wrote:It doesn’t matter who asked, you split cost of a date unless equality is for your convenience only.

You have hit the nail on the head

I often take the itemized bill so I remember what I ordered and if I liked it. I often post on TripAdvisor. My guess is that OP didn’t really like the guy to begin with.

* keep my eyes open

If he otherwise seems ok I’d give this the benefit of the doubt and then just my eyes open.

My BF is CHEAP when it comes to expenses (I once heard him ask for a receipt for a soda at his hotel so he could include it in his travel expenses). He also sent in some XOXO small appliance because they had a lifetime warranty. For $9. I was amused.
But is he cheap when it comes to me? No. I’m rather thrifty myself and insisted on paying half for months after we started dating. Now he pays. He WANTS to pay.
I appreciate being with someone who works hard and expects value for his money. When his job reimburses him he takes advantage of it. And yes, he did comp 2 meals that I know of to his company. He did pay for my half though 😁

Anonymous wrote:If it was itemized maybe he was only expensing his portion not the entire bill. You got a free lunch, you could have pick up the bill but you didn't.

That's one example.

My son's a partner in a firm and it's SOP to expense all lunches regardless of conversation. It's all filed under marketing and potential clients. It's a business decision that the partners have made. Just because you're ignorant of business decisions does not make it a red flag.

It doesn’t matter who asked, you split cost of a date unless equality is for your convenience only.

*sense

If work is the reason he can’t organically meet people and need to go on online dates with women looking for free wine and dinner, it makes practical though not ethical.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow everyone saying cheap, but I’d totally appreciate that he doesn’t needlessly spend money. If his company has a perk, I’d view it as a negative if he ignored it! That’s just leaving money on the table—pure profit going straight to people who have way more money already.

If this was your husband you'd be pissed he was using family money to pay for lunch when the company policy reimburses. Why would a woman expect a man she's dating to be bad with money? That's a red flag too.

Because OP and everyone else who jumped to conclusions are idiots.

Anonymous wrote:Wow everyone saying cheap, but I’d totally appreciate that he doesn’t needlessly spend money. If his company has a perk, I’d view it as a negative if he ignored it! That’s just leaving money on the table—pure profit going straight to people who have way more money already.

If this was your husband you'd be pissed he was using family money to pay for lunch when the company policy reimburses. Why would a woman expect a man she's dating to be bad with money? That's a red flag too.

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Anonymous wrote:Red Flag 🚩
He’s cheap and dishonest.

Move on.

Yes even if not dishonest he’s still cheap and wants to show he’s going to be that way from the start. I could see this as normal for committed partners but not at a first romantic date

The cheap one is the one who didn't split the bill or offer to pay.

Not true - he asked her out for lunch. He pays. If he wanted to be a saver he could have offered a coffee date . Would have allowed him to follow standard dating etiquette (which most women still value a lot), and show at least some chivalry.

Did he? She said they met for lunch. That's it. And he did pay even though if you're seeing someone it's correct to sometimes offer to pay. This wasn't a first date.

Wow everyone saying cheap, but I’d totally appreciate that he doesn’t needlessly spend money. If his company has a perk, I’d view it as a negative if he ignored it! That’s just leaving money on the table—pure profit going straight to people who have way more money already.