Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 16:04     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
It is an Indian wedding in NJ and requested colors are taupe and gray. She wants to stand out in a crowd dressed in drab.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 16:03     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d wear what I have and then add the theme color as a scarf and jewelry, maybe shoes.


This is exactly what I would do.


+2.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 16:02     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:What colors are they requesting? I can see black/white, or maybe floral/Fall colors, but how specific are they? Blush but not bashful?


I would never do that. I was raised RIGHT.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 15:40     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
I recently bought a light blue dress for an end of summer wedding. Do you want to borrow it?
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 15:09     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:Its incredibly tacky and ill-mannered to try to dictate the color of guests' clothing. Formality level to match the time and venue: yes. "Wear pink and purple" is unbelievably gauche and trashy.


agreeeeeee
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 15:07     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
I went to one winter wedding with a color palette but it was pretty broad, basically a range of jewel tones that also included black. And it was optional, like "We're options for formal attire. If you want to join us in our color theme, here's the flowers and color swatches we're inspired by. But mostly we want you be comfortable enough to dance. Feel free to bring comfy shoes for the reception."

I feel like the shoes helped me feel better about the color.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 14:33     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Prior to this trend, I can't think of any wedding I've attended where all guests were gathered for one photo. They would spend an hour on family photos, and took some candids at the reception of each table or a shot of the wedding couple with each guest, but none with all 150 guests together.

If that's what is behind this request, then it is obviously for social media.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 14:23     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Agree this is stupid for the bride to ask, but do not attend if you can't be in the color scheme. Just get something cheap from amazon or marshalls and do not go if you cannot do that courtesy
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 14:16     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd be pretty tempted to decline this iinvitation. It's hard enough to find an outfit that fits and is flattering; that it has to be a certain color just adds to the problem.

I'm also wondering what the color is!

I also think this request is awful. Simply awful. Your guests are not props or scenery in a play you are staging. WTF.


OMG, I have never heard of this!! Wow! This is crazy! I would also be tempted to decline the invitation.


Me again and wanted to add that I have purchased a new dress for the vast majority of weddings I have been to so it isn't that I am unwilling to buy something new. I just think it is incredibly tacky for a couple to tell guests to wear a certain color like we are there for your pictures.


I think it's rude too - but it's at least as rude to not comply with a dress code


It's not rude not to comply with unreasonable demands. The bride can choose the colors of the wedding party only. At most, the invitation can "suggest" a color theme.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 14:06     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
I let my mom and MIL know, wear whatever colors and dresses make you happy. They each bought new dresses to their liking.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 14:03     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:It is becoming a big thing to have dress codes at weddings. There are wedding subreddits on Reddit and it is very common now.


Sheep.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 14:00     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Either match the color or don't go.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 13:55     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is unfortunately very common for events these days. I went to a baby shower with a “suggested” color palette for attendees, and this summer I’m going to a wedding with certain colors and styles explicitly suggested in the dress code. Although it doesn’t seem to be as restrictive as the shower was. Yes it’s for social media and so the pictures look good. Everyone thinks they’re Kim Kardashian or thinks they’re planning a fake wedding/event that’s going to be on a multi page spread in Vogue. I don’t know what happened to picking your bridesmaids dresses/color scheme and leaving the guests alone so long as they generally understood the formality of the event.


As if showers aren't obnoxious enough. Good lord.


Different shades of mauve/pink (they were having a girl) plus gray and white. Yeah …
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 13:55     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd be pretty tempted to decline this iinvitation. It's hard enough to find an outfit that fits and is flattering; that it has to be a certain color just adds to the problem.

I'm also wondering what the color is!

I also think this request is awful. Simply awful. Your guests are not props or scenery in a play you are staging. WTF.


OMG, I have never heard of this!! Wow! This is crazy! I would also be tempted to decline the invitation.


Me again and wanted to add that I have purchased a new dress for the vast majority of weddings I have been to so it isn't that I am unwilling to buy something new. I just think it is incredibly tacky for a couple to tell guests to wear a certain color like we are there for your pictures.


I think it's rude too - but it's at least as rude to not comply with a dress code
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 13:44     Subject: Is it okay to wear whatever you have to a color coordinated wedding
Anonymous wrote:This is unfortunately very common for events these days. I went to a baby shower with a “suggested” color palette for attendees, and this summer I’m going to a wedding with certain colors and styles explicitly suggested in the dress code. Although it doesn’t seem to be as restrictive as the shower was. Yes it’s for social media and so the pictures look good. Everyone thinks they’re Kim Kardashian or thinks they’re planning a fake wedding/event that’s going to be on a multi page spread in Vogue. I don’t know what happened to picking your bridesmaids dresses/color scheme and leaving the guests alone so long as they generally understood the formality of the event.


Works great for me, I hate being in pictures so I would make a big deal of getting out of the way of the camera.