Anonymous
06/22/2026 18:11
Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
I love this sort of thing when chatting with people. I am surprised at how much people discuss in certain circles.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We just got together and talked about:
- what gets packed for lunch on the last day of school
-perimenopause and histamines
- Girl Scout cookie selling strategies
- sleepaway camp
- orthopedists
- matzoh ball soup
- Indiana (and more specifically, IU)
- stationery and the practice of sending ppl at work cards for various reasons
This is more like the convos I'm involved in. If travel is mentioned it's because people inquired and people are genuinely interested/want recommendations, etc. We're more likely to ask about tofu-pressing tips.
Just found out from my circle that microwaving tofu for 3 -4 minutes eliminates the need to press!
This is excellent information to have, thank you!
Anonymous
06/14/2026 16:10
Subject: Re:S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't know about the class of it all, but I definitely know a few people who mostly want to talk about wealthy people they know, branded purchases they've made, and that time they went to "the vineyard" 12 years ago. Boring AF.
Yes, there is always a mention of status items, wealthy people and ‘exclusive’ events/trips/parties. It is SO BORING. I live by a halfway house and several of the residents are locals at my neighborhood cafe, and I seriously enjoy talking to those residents more than these people.
Years ago I was the scheduler in a congressional office and all sorts of super important super interesting super connected people walked into the office. Kennedy’s, industry heavy weights, you name it.
The one woman I was truly impressed by was a constituent of my boss’s, late 60s, led a story telling group of like minded book worms at an old coffee shop in his district. She was phenomenal to talk to. Nearly fifteen years later I still remember her.
I get you, PP, about what society thinks of as “the others” having a lot more depth of character.
You really can’t win though. Just the other day someone referred to a mutual friend as “pretentious” for discussing books.
What did you reply?
Anonymous
06/14/2026 16:09
Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:I’ve definitely noticed this with SAHMs in my affluent community. I think it largely stems from that fact that they have little else going on. Kids shopping their husbands’ money and the various luxuries the money buys. It’s dull AF bc they aren’t applying themselves or their brains to anything material or meaningful. And don’t tell me raising kids is enough to make you interesting. It’s not. Tell me what you’re learning trying growing attempting to do with your education, brain, skills talents. Talking about it people and talking about stuff is ridiculously shallow.
You said raising kids isn’t meaningful.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 16:06
Subject: Re:S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't know about the class of it all, but I definitely know a few people who mostly want to talk about wealthy people they know, branded purchases they've made, and that time they went to "the vineyard" 12 years ago. Boring AF.
Yes, there is always a mention of status items, wealthy people and ‘exclusive’ events/trips/parties. It is SO BORING. I live by a halfway house and several of the residents are locals at my neighborhood cafe, and I seriously enjoy talking to those residents more than these people.
Years ago I was the scheduler in a congressional office and all sorts of super important super interesting super connected people walked into the office. Kennedy’s, industry heavy weights, you name it.
The one woman I was truly impressed by was a constituent of my boss’s, late 60s, led a story telling group of like minded book worms at an old coffee shop in his district. She was phenomenal to talk to. Nearly fifteen years later I still remember her.
I get you, PP, about what society thinks of as “the others” having a lot more depth of character.
You really can’t win though. Just the other day someone referred to a mutual friend as “pretentious” for discussing books.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 16:04
Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:I’ve definitely noticed this with SAHMs in my affluent community. I think it largely stems from that fact that they have little else going on. Kids shopping their husbands’ money and the various luxuries the money buys. It’s dull AF bc they aren’t applying themselves or their brains to anything material or meaningful. And don’t tell me raising kids is enough to make you interesting. It’s not. Tell me what you’re learning trying growing attempting to do with your education, brain, skills talents. Talking about it people and talking about stuff is ridiculously shallow.
This is probably a big part of it; people discuss what they have to discuss.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 15:58
Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?
Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING
Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics
I would love this over my work colleagues vague weather and sports chitchat.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 15:55
Subject: Re:S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't know about the class of it all, but I definitely know a few people who mostly want to talk about wealthy people they know, branded purchases they've made, and that time they went to "the vineyard" 12 years ago. Boring AF.
Yes, there is always a mention of status items, wealthy people and ‘exclusive’ events/trips/parties. It is SO BORING. I live by a halfway house and several of the residents are locals at my neighborhood cafe, and I seriously enjoy talking to those residents more than these people.
Years ago I was the scheduler in a congressional office and all sorts of super important super interesting super connected people walked into the office. Kennedy’s, industry heavy weights, you name it.
The one woman I was truly impressed by was a constituent of my boss’s, late 60s, led a story telling group of like minded book worms at an old coffee shop in his district. She was phenomenal to talk to. Nearly fifteen years later I still remember her.
I get you, PP, about what society thinks of as “the others” having a lot more depth of character.
Anonymous
06/13/2026 15:09
Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
I’ve definitely noticed this with SAHMs in my affluent community. I think it largely stems from that fact that they have little else going on. Kids shopping their husbands’ money and the various luxuries the money buys. It’s dull AF bc they aren’t applying themselves or their brains to anything material or meaningful. And don’t tell me raising kids is enough to make you interesting. It’s not. Tell me what you’re learning trying growing attempting to do with your education, brain, skills talents. Talking about it people and talking about stuff is ridiculously shallow.
Anonymous
06/13/2026 14:48
Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:I notice this with at neighborhood gatherings. A lot of people in my neighborhood are insecure.
This made me realize that my neighbors are all the opposite. No one is trying to impress or outdo. I think I just took that for granted, but now I won't. Thanks for this.
Anonymous
06/13/2026 14:43
Subject: S/o are upper middle class get togethers with women mostly just pissing contests of who knows wealthy people and
Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?
Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING
Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics
Like others have said, if you find that your circles are boring, you need to find different and better circles. I can tell you that my friends talk about some of these things, but never once is it a pissing contest. In fact, if one person says they hadn't heard of an event/party/game, others will make sure they get invited or invited next time. My friends are all supportive because that is what we all need right now.