Anonymous
05/26/2026 16:10
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
It sounds like your first child at the college proved to be a disappointment on some level.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 16:05
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."
Donate? I only donate where I went to school. My “donation” to where my kids attended was done in the form of tuition.
When a tradition is there with multiple family members, alum, etc., they get more donations due to the generational ties the family has with the school. OP’s school lost out and made a dumb decision.
If OP were an alum, then yes. But I don’t see anyone calling up OP as a parent and asking for a donation and thus giving OP the opportunity to unload their distaste.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 16:03
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
And her kid has stuff that kid didn’t. They won, it’s not pathological to have these feelings. Geez.
yes, it actually is. Who cares if the kids go to different schools? Celebrate where the younger kid got admitted and move on with life.
DP. It’s called venting. I do it here so it doesn’t interfere in my real life. I can dump feelings and then move on. I get it.
Exactly! It’s healthy to get it out. Her kid was qualified, didn’t sound entitled to me, just disappointed. Sounds normal to me!
Anonymous
05/26/2026 16:01
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
And her kid has stuff that kid didn’t. They won, it’s not pathological to have these feelings. Geez.
yes, it actually is. Who cares if the kids go to different schools? Celebrate where the younger kid got admitted and move on with life.
To be fair- OP mentioned the kids cared. That they are tight-knit.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 16:00
Subject: Re:How to handle being pissed at a college
I’m still have feelings about being WL at UVA when a sub with a full gpa loser was admitted back in 1989. lol I get it!
Your kid will flourish! It ended up so much better for me.
Your kid will flourish! It ended up so much better for me.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:58
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
And her kid has stuff that kid didn’t. They won, it’s not pathological to have these feelings. Geez.
yes, it actually is. Who cares if the kids go to different schools? Celebrate where the younger kid got admitted and move on with life.
DP. It’s called venting. I do it here so it doesn’t interfere in my real life. I can dump feelings and then move on. I get it.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:57
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
And her kid has stuff that kid didn’t. They won, it’s not pathological to have these feelings. Geez.
yes, it actually is. Who cares if the kids go to different schools? Celebrate where the younger kid got admitted and move on with life.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:56
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
In DC area, likely a connection extra letter from a parent’s friend. Lots of movers and shakers in this area
Or a talent in an area not already represented in the class in sufficient numbers -- people don't realize how they look like complete losers tearing down other teens because they have sour grapes.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:54
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
And her kid has stuff that kid didn’t. They won, it’s not pathological to have these feelings. Geez.
Honeslty, op sounds like an entitled whiner. Your kid is not guaranteed admission because they have a sibling there. Get some perspective.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:53
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
And her kid has stuff that kid didn’t. They won, it’s not pathological to have these feelings. Geez.
+1
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:53
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
In DC area, likely a connection extra letter from a parent’s friend. Lots of movers and shakers in this area
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:52
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."
Donate? I only donate where I went to school. My “donation” to where my kids attended was done in the form of tuition.
That makes your family a less attractive admit no question.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:52
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.
And her kid has stuff that kid didn’t. They won, it’s not pathological to have these feelings. Geez.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:52
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
When your kid graduates, dispute all the tuition charges with your credit card company.
Anonymous
05/26/2026 15:51
Subject: How to handle being pissed at a college
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Scary, I totally understand why you’re mad!
Oddly, I would have handled it better seeing nobody from the school admitted because it would have felt less personal. Admitting another kid with lesser stats and no connection just leaves such a bitter taste.
This sounds pathologic, other kid had something that your kid did not.