What is the husband worried about, that OP is going to join the mile-high club on a 2-hour flight?

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like it has more to do with this friend in particular, since he doesn’t like him personally. Did you know about this issue already? Does he have good reason for disliking him? If so, you can have your opinions, but are definitely in the wrong from my perspective. His yelling is a product of you showing him a complete lack of respect and not taking his concerns seriously.

My ex wife ended up having an affair with the one “friend” that I disliked immediately. It was a case of soft boundaries creating opportunities for a man with ill intentions. Be careful with this “friend”.

Uhm he yelled because she refused to obey him and cancel the trip. I'd triple down and definitely go now.

+1. If a dh of mine behaved this way, I'd sleep with the friend out of spite.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn’t discuss this with him before, because I knew how he’d react, and didn’t want to deal with it until later. He has no reason to be angry or to distrust me. I wouldn’t mind if he did the same.

The problem is not that your husband is weak and insecure, it’s you doing something that you know would be a problem with no concern for your spouse. Your avoidance of the APPROPRIATE conversation is immature and disrespectful. My high school daughter pull this stuff on homecoming and lost her phone for a month, plus she couldn’t go to prom. It doesn’t matter if anything inappropriate happens, you lack maturity and integrity.

+1000

YATA, OP. I don't really care what your husband's reasons for this are and his reaction wasn't ok BUT you handled this poorly from the beginning and showed him no respect. That's why he's mad.

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Anonymous wrote:We all know women who would rip their husband’s balls off for doing the same thing so get over the yelling part. OP is wrong.

Some truth to this ^

I'm sure some women would do this. I would call them wrong and controlling as well.

(DP). As a DW, I wouldn’t yell or freak out but I would probe DH a little and be a little… concerned. Because it is a little odd to actually coordinate flights with a random college friend, no?

It seems like the spouses who at least don’t dig in and ask questions are the ones with their heads in the sand. If they learn that it’s totally innocent - as I guess it is for OP - then but only then should they give their blessing.

What? No, it's not odd for two people who know each other to coordinate their travel. You could either fly alone or you could fly out with an old friend. Why is the latter weird to you? Do you have friends?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn’t discuss this with him before, because I knew how he’d react, and didn’t want to deal with it until later. He has no reason to be angry or to distrust me. I wouldn’t mind if he did the same.

You haven't answered like dozens of the questions on here. Are you sharing a hotel room? Is this a private jet? What is going on? Why on earth would your husband care that you're on the same flight with some guy?

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Anonymous wrote:You may look at the guy as just a friend but I wouldn’t be surprised if the guy looks at you differently and your husband picks that up.

+1

+2, A previous girlfriend broke up with me because I was jealous of one of her male friends, who she conveniently hooked up with a day later. I'll admit it's me projecting, but I'm also thinking you may be leaving out some important information about the relationship with the man you're travelling with.

+100

as a man, I am telling you that nothing good comes out of this for you.
Your marriage is at risk and you would lose trust of your DH. Do what you need to do but decide what you could sacrifice it all for.

Anonymous wrote:I both think I would be uncomfortable doing this, and that its ridiculous that in 2026 women and men can't be just friends without suspicion

Why have the intentions of men changed since the dawn of time?

I both think I would be uncomfortable doing this, and that its ridiculous that in 2026 women and men can't be just friends without suspicion

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I didn’t discuss this with him before, because I knew how he’d react, and didn’t want to deal with it until later. He has no reason to be angry or to distrust me. I wouldn’t mind if he did the same.

The problem is not that your husband is weak and insecure, it’s you doing something that you know would be a problem with no concern for your spouse. Your avoidance of the APPROPRIATE conversation is immature and disrespectful. My high school daughter pull this stuff on homecoming and lost her phone for a month, plus she couldn’t go to prom. It doesn’t matter if anything inappropriate happens, you lack maturity and integrity.

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Anonymous wrote:We all know women who would rip their husband’s balls off for doing the same thing so get over the yelling part. OP is wrong.

Some truth to this ^

I'm sure some women would do this. I would call them wrong and controlling as well.

(DP). As a DW, I wouldn’t yell or freak out but I would probe DH a little and be a little… concerned. Because it is a little odd to actually coordinate flights with a random college friend, no?

It seems like the spouses who at least don’t dig in and ask questions are the ones with their heads in the sand. If they learn that it’s totally innocent - as I guess it is for OP - then but only then should they give their blessing.

She is not a schoolgirl, and he is not her daddy. She doesn't need his blessing.

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Anonymous wrote:We all know women who would rip their husband’s balls off for doing the same thing so get over the yelling part. OP is wrong.

Some truth to this ^

I'm sure some women would do this. I would call them wrong and controlling as well.

(DP). As a DW, I wouldn’t yell or freak out but I would probe DH a little and be a little… concerned. Because it is a little odd to actually coordinate flights with a random college friend, no?

It seems like the spouses who at least don’t dig in and ask questions are the ones with their heads in the sand. If they learn that it’s totally innocent - as I guess it is for OP - then but only then should they give their blessing.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all know women who would rip their husband’s balls off for doing the same thing so get over the yelling part. OP is wrong.

Some truth to this ^

I'm sure some women would do this. I would call them wrong and controlling as well.

Fair.

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Anonymous wrote:We all know women who would rip their husband’s balls off for doing the same thing so get over the yelling part. OP is wrong.

Some truth to this ^

I'm sure some women would do this. I would call them wrong and controlling as well.

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Anonymous wrote:You didn't have a +1?

She literally offered for her husband to come along. Are you unable to read for some reason?

That doesn't mean she had a +1 for the wedding. Try not to post such stupid things.

If he is that worried, he could go and stay at the hotel. He doesn't need to be at the wedding. You are the stupid one who can't read and then doubles down on your idiocy.

No, sweetie. You're an idiot. We know full well he could tag along and monitor her. My question was whether or not she had a +1 for the wedding, which is a separate thing entirely. Let me know if you need anything else explained to you. Like, for example, how to think before you post.

Idiot.

Oh honey! You don't know shit. That much is very apparent.

You remind me of an ugly Chihuahua. Angry, yapping and loud for no reason at all.

If my husband was going to a wedding and coordinated flights with a female friend of his who was just an acquaintance and who I didn’t personally know, I’d think it was a little weird. I wouldn’t get upset or anything but I’d probably raise my eyebrows and wonder if the woman was into DH or something.

If it was a female good friend of ours, who I knew personally and knew she had no interest in DH, I would probably encourage them to coordinate.

Maybe it’s just me, but there seems like a huge difference between learning you guys are on the same flight and therefore coordinating rides and seats… and actually selecting the flight to intentionally be together. The latter is more intentional and… intimate.