Anonymous wrote:He is not into you. He does not find you attractive. You are a placeholder for that loser. A hole for his pole.

Actually unreal response lol.

Look, I know DCUM looooooves to blame OP but we're now blaming a woman for her bf being a dick?

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Anonymous wrote:Girllll 🚩
End that relationship.

She won't. She loves being in misery because that feels like HOME and her family.

Then she will bring kids into this toxic environment and let them loose on society.

This is my take too. She hasn't even mentioned that she's going to break up with him or even that she knows she should.

She literally responded to someone on the first page that she knows they should break up.

I had an ex boyfriend like this.

Dumping him was the best decision.

So he wants to break up but doesn’t have the balls to do so and is provoking you until you do it.

He sees you working on yourself and wants to put you down so you don’t start to notice that you are good enough not to deserve his shit. Of my friends who were in shitty relationships at 32/33/34:

1) Was married with kids to the guy, found out at 36 he had been cheating they tried to work through it but she finally realized he was selfish and not interested in making her happy so they split and she us now 2 years in with a loving and supportive boyfriend and thriving in her career and her husband finally has to show up and do some parenting bc he has shared custody.

2) She broke off an engagement, did 6 months of intense therapy then jumped into dating with an eye to a man who would be a good father and husband. Now early 40’s with an adorably dorky husband who loves and supports her and is hands-on with their two kids.

3) Refused to settle, took a few years to work on herself and focused on her career, now moving up the ladder at a white shoe firm’s LA office and lives by the beach.

4) Did a lot of therapy and realized she didn’t need or want a husband; just to be a mom. Just had a baby with donor sperm and could not be happier.

5) She stayed with him and had kids; he constantly dragged her down but the last straw was when he started to dig them both into deep credit card debt. She’s now a single mom paying him alimony and raising the kids alone.

The point OP is that you know for sure that this person does not make you happier or stronger or better. Go find something that does. I don’t know what it is for you but it’s for sure not this guy.

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Anonymous wrote:Girllll 🚩
End that relationship.

She won't. She loves being in misery because that feels like HOME and her family.

Then she will bring kids into this toxic environment and let them loose on society.

This is my take too. She hasn't even mentioned that she's going to break up with him or even that she knows she should.

You will regret every moment you stayed with that man when you look back. It’s hard. Nobody’s saying it’s not. But he’s awful. He can’t give you what you want and what you want is the bare minimum respect. Just, dump him. Yesterday.

He is not into you. He does not find you attractive. You are a placeholder for that loser. A hole for his pole.

Anonymous wrote:Girllll 🚩
End that relationship.

She won't. She loves being in misery because that feels like HOME and her family.

Then she will bring kids into this toxic environment and let them loose on society.

Girllll 🚩
End that relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

OP sometimes they are in person sometimes they are over text. The one about my body yesterday was over text bc the thing he said that hurt my feelings happened over text. The one about RSVP’ing to my friend’s party happened in person.

I need to know what he said about your body and the context. i.e. was it out of left field ("you need a boob job") or was it in response to a question (do these jeans make my ass look fat?")

OP It was not in response to anything I said. He referenced someone being my size and then sent me a link to a tweet where someone referred to that person as "short and chubby." When I was like, wtf he proceeded to say "I'm not doing this today, you're picking a fight."

I gained 15 pounds last year due to stress from a job. I now have a less stressful job and have been working with a dietician and I work out 4-5x a week. I am consistently losing, albeit slowly bc I was always super thin and so I'm not used to having to diet. He knows I am insecure about my current weight. Then proceeds to ask why I am so hard on myself. Uh, maybe because of you?

Why would you not immediately block him. Wtf indeed.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

OP sometimes they are in person sometimes they are over text. The one about my body yesterday was over text bc the thing he said that hurt my feelings happened over text. The one about RSVP’ing to my friend’s party happened in person.

I need to know what he said about your body and the context. i.e. was it out of left field ("you need a boob job") or was it in response to a question (do these jeans make my ass look fat?")

OP It was not in response to anything I said. He referenced someone being my size and then sent me a link to a tweet where someone referred to that person as "short and chubby." When I was like, wtf he proceeded to say "I'm not doing this today, you're picking a fight."

I gained 15 pounds last year due to stress from a job. I now have a less stressful job and have been working with a dietician and I work out 4-5x a week. I am consistently losing, albeit slowly bc I was always super thin and so I'm not used to having to diet. He knows I am insecure about my current weight. Then proceeds to ask why I am so hard on myself. Uh, maybe because of you?

It makes me sad that you would rather be in a relationship with someone who makes you feel bad and doesn't respect you, than to not be 8n a relationship at all.

Break up, learn to be happy with yourself, and then it won't matter if you're in a relationship or not.

Stop with the sunk cost fallacy. Break up today.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this in person conversations or are they over text?

OP sometimes they are in person sometimes they are over text. The one about my body yesterday was over text bc the thing he said that hurt my feelings happened over text. The one about RSVP’ing to my friend’s party happened in person.

I need to know what he said about your body and the context. i.e. was it out of left field ("you need a boob job") or was it in response to a question (do these jeans make my ass look fat?")