Anonymous
05/07/2026 20:31
Subject: Do your parents treat your mixed race kids different than their non-mixed race cousins?
Anonymous wrote:No, I have fantastic parents/grandparents. They treat all the grandkids the same. And they have 8 grandkids.
Perfect!
Anonymous
05/07/2026 17:41
Subject: Re:Do your parents treat your mixed race kids different than their non-mixed race cousins?
Anonymous wrote:My in-laws treat all the grandkids the same in private. At parties with their friends (all the same race as them), they are much more negative and dismissive when talking about the mixed race grandkids. And they don't even try to hide it. I hate it but it's culturally ingrained and I'm not going to be able to change people who are in their mid 70s.
+1
Anonymous
05/01/2026 21:52
Subject: Do your parents treat your mixed race kids different than their non-mixed race cousins?
Anonymous wrote:My ILs treat the grandchildren that look their preferred way better than the others. It’s very obvious.
Interestingly, MIL has a preference for a certain eye color (mine over BIL’s wife/SIL’s) and treated (before we went nc) my LO better than hers from BIL’s wife.
Clarification: BIL’s wife and I are same race, hair color. So the differentiation is eye color. The rest of the grandkids that are a specific mix vs MIL’s FOO preference are treated differently.