You have to both be committed to the lifestyle. My husband and I were both non-profit workers when we got married in our early 30s. It was doable then, living in a condo I already owned (well, had the mortgage on). Lifestyle creep and kids can get expensive. But we know people who make it work.
Does he own a home? What is your income?

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 48, OP is likely too old for kids, so who cares how much he makes? Why does he need to make money if you aren't going to give him kids?

+1. You are presumably somewhat close to that age, too, so you should already be making enough money for yourself. Who cares what someone makes, if you like them? If you’re in your 20’s and know you want kids and to be a SAHM, then probably not.

Of course you should consider income and assets of your partner if you approach retirement!

You can be a SAHM if your partner makes 120k. Depends upon your lifestyle. I stayed at home for a while when my husband was a fed. We wanted for nothing, but aren’t extravagant and were just fine.

Yes I would. I care more about his passion for his work, or his value system than his income.

We are late career and my DH still makes less than that in the non-profit sector. I make plenty and we want for nothing. I guess if I was not a high earner myself it would make more of a difference.Sometimes it is not fun being the breadwinner but it is an antiquated way of thinking to be unhappy with DH's salary just b/c I am the woman. So, OP, think about it as what would your combined HHI be and are you shallow?

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Anonymous wrote:If he's 48, OP is likely too old for kids, so who cares how much he makes? Why does he need to make money if you aren't going to give him kids?

+1. You are presumably somewhat close to that age, too, so you should already be making enough money for yourself. Who cares what someone makes, if you like them? If you’re in your 20’s and know you want kids and to be a SAHM, then probably not.

Of course you should consider income and assets of your partner if you approach retirement!

Anonymous wrote:If he's 48, OP is likely too old for kids, so who cares how much he makes? Why does he need to make money if you aren't going to give him kids?

+1. You are presumably somewhat close to that age, too, so you should already be making enough money for yourself. Who cares what someone makes, if you like them? If you’re in your 20’s and know you want kids and to be a SAHM, then probably not.

Depends on his age relative mine. No way I’m banking a man who is older man myself and makes half my income. And it WILL end up me banking them as they wouldn’t be able to pay their way for the level of travel etc that I can afford traveling single. At this salary they likely can only afford camping . I stay at nice hotels. We will end up arguing about my own money as they will think I’m wasteful and spoilt. I had it happen already once - a guy scolded me for having a cleaning lady and not cleaning a 3000 house myself

If he’s younger hot and really great in bed I would consider it for a short term relationship

Otherwise. I accepted I will be single in retirement in fact I plan to foster kids to feel needed and to give something away. But I won’t take a financial dependent - a cheap old low paid man who is not the father of my kids.

No way

Of course. That’s a normal nonprofit salary.

Anonymous wrote:He works for a non profit.

I feel like his income is a dealbreaker.

Your feelings aren’t valid.

Do him a huge favor and don’t date him. You don’t sound like a good person.

I would not but I make more than double that. I would be worried that if something happened to my ability to work he could not support our lifestyle. However, it does depend on how old you are, what your other options are, what your goals are and what is net worth is at that age. Also does he already have children.

I make 600k and I would. I can pretty much afford anything I really want or need, so wouldn’t be relying on anyone else’s income. It’d be much more about what his character is like. My parents both made around / less than that (also NIH/FDA academics like another poster mentioned), and are some of the smartest and kindest people I know, so that income isn’t really determinative of whether I’d date someone.

Sure I would if he was a nice person.

Because in the dating world right now >> ladies - it is slim pickings……

Anonymous wrote:$120k a year doesn’t seem bad. DH and I each make that amount as teachers and we are a little older.

DH made that when he and I started dating.

I made about $75k

Both career changer teachers.

He’s since left teaching and earns in the low $200sK on average depending on commissions.

His pay was never an issue. He’s

Id be perfectly happy with that.

Not enough information. The men I date make $40k- $65k max. Not taking their money or giving mine.
He has got to be good in bed though.