Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 23:34     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What are some other secret codes like this?


Someone told me white jeans = butt stuff, and I don’t think it’s true but it doesn’t stop me from thinking “butt stuff” every time I see someone walking around in white jeans


Everyone does butt stuff. That means nothing.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 22:56     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:1. Are there enough swingers in your community that being mistaken for one could truly be problematic?

2. Even if someone misinterpreted your dress somehow, is there any reason you couldn't just say "oh no thank you, I just liked the pattern"?

Btw I think it's dumb when subcultures decided to appropriate common symbols as their own. Pineapples have long had a social meaning of warmth and home -- it used to be a common gift at a housewarming party and pineapple imagery in door decor was a way of conveying welcome to guests. If swingers want upside pineapples to mean something different, okay, but you can't expect it to also *stop* meaning what it has always meant.

So I think it would be dumb for you to stop wearing your dress over this.


+1000000000000000000000

Same with rainbows. still means aloha to me
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 22:55     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:I have only heard of this on DCUM. And after I bought a cheap Hawaiian shirt with pineapples on it for a work Hawaiian shirt day.

If you don't hang out with DCUM people, you shouldn't have a problem. LOL.


🤣🤣🤣

Just imagine all your coworkers thinking you are a swinger
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 22:40     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:What are some other secret codes like this?


Someone told me white jeans = butt stuff, and I don’t think it’s true but it doesn’t stop me from thinking “butt stuff” every time I see someone walking around in white jeans
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 21:49     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I always loved pineapples. I fell in love with pineapple lamps when we were newlyweds (they were classier than they sound) but I couldn’t afford them. More recently I wanted to get a door knocker that is shaped like a pineapple (we have very traditional decor tastes). I will NOT be purchasing one thanks to this thread.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 21:35     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
All the people in the lifestyle are on apps for the lifestyle, or we have other ways of finding each other. If an upside down pineapple ever was a thing, it’s not any more, at least not in a serious way.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 21:17     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I have a top with pineapples that I wear. I am not a swinger.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 21:14     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I read a conversation like this and feel like I’m missing 75% of the things going on around me all the time.


While I’m not in the community, I assure you that yes, it is going on all around you.

Hotwives are sort of like Fight Club: the first rule of Fight Club is . . .


In this area, it's more like lukewarm.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 21:11     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
I know about the meaning. But I do have a silly brightly colored pineapple shirt that I like to wear, especially on vacation because it’s summery and fun. I still wear it. I’ve never been propositioned or looked at strangely while wearing it.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 20:11     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:What are some other secret codes like this?


Based on the Signals catalog, if you see a chalk drawing of a cartoon cat outside your house, you'll be expected to provide hoboes with snacks.

https://www.facebook.com/muddabbersbalsam/photos/these-hobo-cats-are-so-cheery-for-such-a-rainy-day-during-the-great-depression-t/2618474558200748/?set=a.191524252976149
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 19:56     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
What are some other secret codes like this?
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 19:40     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:1. Are there enough swingers in your community that being mistaken for one could truly be problematic?

2. Even if someone misinterpreted your dress somehow, is there any reason you couldn't just say "oh no thank you, I just liked the pattern"?

Btw I think it's dumb when subcultures decided to appropriate common symbols as their own. Pineapples have long had a social meaning of warmth and home -- it used to be a common gift at a housewarming party and pineapple imagery in door decor was a way of conveying welcome to guests. If swingers want upside pineapples to mean something different, okay, but you can't expect it to also *stop* meaning what it has always meant.

So I think it would be dumb for you to stop wearing your dress over this.


Normal people don't put pineapples upside down.


OP's dress has them right side up.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 18:13     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:But why pineapples?


Lifestyle’r here-

It’s an old throwback to the Victorian-era, when pineapples were a symbol of “welcome” among the wealthy class. You could see them rendered in wrought iron fencing, stained glass, frescos, floor tiling, etc.



And it’s not really “swingers”, to us as a community, it’s “lifestyle couples”. Swinging is more of a verb, not a noun for us. We are a lifestyle couple, and we swing with other couples/groups.


I’m the one who asked the question. I knew that pineapples were a symbol of welcome and thought it was still might mean that today. I can’t help but be sort of sad that is also taken on this meaning.


DP. I'm sad about it too.
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 17:01     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I read a conversation like this and feel like I’m missing 75% of the things going on around me all the time.


While I’m not in the community, I assure you that yes, it is going on all around you.

Hotwives are sort of like Fight Club: the first rule of Fight Club is . . .
Anonymous
Post 04/14/2026 15:39     Subject: Wearing clothes with pineapples- swinger message?
Sometimes I read a conversation like this and feel like I’m missing 75% of the things going on around me all the time.