Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 12:14     Subject: No chores for boys
Anonymous wrote:My husband only gives chores to his two daughters, who are 12 and 14, but not his sons, who are 16 and 11. The girls are responsible for cleaning the kitchen, living areas, every night, and taking turns with the bathrooms and laundry. My husband insists that chores aren't something boys should do, and that his boys aren’t good at doing chores. My stepdaughters have been complaining about doing chores and think that it’s unfair, and they’ve shared their frustration with me. How would you handle this?


Yuck. wtf.

No and nope. The girls should stop and he can pay market rates to a daily housekeeper.
Meanwhile all four kids should have chores and an allowance
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 12:09     Subject: No chores for boys
Anonymous wrote:I'm really surprised that a man who makes that much money is obsessed over his daughters doing chores, rather than hiring someone to do chores.

Training the girls to serve the patriarchy.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 11:38     Subject: No chores for boys
Anonymous wrote:I'm really surprised that a man who makes that much money is obsessed over his daughters doing chores, rather than hiring someone to do chores.


Chores are fine if fairly and kindly shared. A single woman in his place would also need kids to pitch in. Single households have different needs than two parent households.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 11:26     Subject: No chores for boys
I'm really surprised that a man who makes that much money is obsessed over his daughters doing chores, rather than hiring someone to do chores.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 10:08     Subject: No chores for boys
We never expected kids to do chores, their job was to do good in school and do things that interests them.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 10:06     Subject: No chores for boys
In my birth family, chores were often assigned considering gender, age, strength, interest and academic burden for the month.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 10:03     Subject: No chores for boys
If someone can't do a chore, they must submit a complaint for parent to consider and reassign.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 10:02     Subject: No chores for boys
Every month chores should be written on cards and thrown in a basket, everyone picks equal number of cards and do them. They can swap among them if mutual agreement. Just luck of the draw, no discrimination or disputes, also learning negotiations.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 09:57     Subject: No chores for boys
Anonymous wrote:My husband only gives chores to his two daughters, who are 12 and 14, but not his sons, who are 16 and 11. The girls are responsible for cleaning the kitchen, living areas, every night, and taking turns with the bathrooms and laundry. My husband insists that chores aren't something boys should do, and that his boys aren’t good at doing chores. My stepdaughters have been complaining about doing chores and think that it’s unfair, and they’ve shared their frustration with me. How would you handle this?
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 09:55     Subject: No chores for boys
Anonymous wrote:I'd be very upset with my DH. He's raising terrible future husbands. Does your DH do nothing at home either?


How does this carry over for into what he expects of you, a woman inside the home? Are you the one to do chores not him? Can you, as a woman, flourish outside the home?
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 09:44     Subject: No chores for boys
Fake
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 09:36     Subject: No chores for boys
Why aren’t the boys doing the yard work? This is the time of year for cleaning out flower beds, putting down mulch, edging, mowing, planting, repainting, cleaning out the garage, etc.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 09:33     Subject: No chores for boys
Anonymous wrote:My husband only gives chores to his two daughters, who are 12 and 14, but not his sons, who are 16 and 11. The girls are responsible for cleaning the kitchen, living areas, every night, and taking turns with the bathrooms and laundry. My husband insists that chores aren't something boys should do, and that his boys aren’t good at doing chores. My stepdaughters have been complaining about doing chores and think that it’s unfair, and they’ve shared their frustration with me. How would you handle this?

By not marrying sexist pigs.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 09:29     Subject: No chores for boys
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband only gives chores to his two daughters, who are 12 and 14, but not his sons, who are 16 and 11. The girls are responsible for cleaning the kitchen, living areas, every night, and taking turns with the bathrooms and laundry. My husband insists that chores aren't something boys should do, and that his boys aren’t good at doing chores. My stepdaughters have been complaining about doing chores and think that it’s unfair, and they’ve shared their frustration with me. How would you handle this?


Your stepdaughters are right. But surely you knew this about this man before you married him?


No, they were young. My stepdaughters complain about this everyday, there’s crying from them, and he yells at them to do chores. I think he’s expecting too much from them.


The crying and yelling seems worse than the gender stuff. That seems like a terrible household for all seven of you to live in.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2026 08:49     Subject: Re:No chores for boys
How did you even date, let alone marry this guy??
They are his kids, I guess he gets to choose. But those boys should never date because they will be a nightmare.