Anonymous wrote:F no. And I’d proceed with caution. Make sure you know what’s up with the finances and don’t put yourself in a subjugated position. He sounds like a bad partner.

+1. If a guy is a flight risk because you won’t have a third kid, he’s a flight risk if and possibly because you have a third kid.

Anonymous wrote:“Why would I agree to a third child when I am barely surviving with two?” And wait for his reaction.

Also he sounds like an immature a**, that’s a reason enough to not bring another child into this world.

This. You need time to recover from this last child.

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Anonymous wrote:His mom stayed home with 4 kids right?

His mom worked full time and he was an only child.

Oh. He was a lonely kid who always wanted a big family. He has the money now to have a big family but none of the time. What a sad outcome for him. Is he happy when he is actually with the kids or do they make him miserable?

Anonymous wrote:Just say NO. You are full grown.

+1000000

Anonymous wrote:I felt that pressure from my ex wife and our marriage was never the same from that point and we ended up divorced. She was becoming more and more persistent about it to the point that I wonder if she was suffering from some type of mental illness. 2 kids were enough for me.

Women choose to have a child or not. So if your ex wanted a third child you should have given her one. Loser!

You're risking with serious complications and full-on postpartum psychosis if you let this man continue to use you as his rent-a-uterus. He won't stay with you after he breaks you.

I wanted a third, my husband did not. We stopped at two. I got over it. Now I’m really glad we stopped at two- turns out my DH was right all along.

Do NOT do something you don’t want to do and bring an innocent child in the world when it’s not what you want. You also don’t have a mature co parent. It would be a disaster.

My spouse told me they didn't want another child soon after our only child was born. I was upset at first, but now I have embraced it. I am glad my spouse was honest with me.

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Anonymous wrote:Make sure your birth control is solid.

Then say you’re willing to try once things calm down but now you’re overwhelmed.

Do you work? It sounds like you’re a SAHM and his life didn’t really change after kids because you absorbed all the physical and emotional labor.

Why would she say that?

Because she doesn't have the kind of husband she can have a conversation with about this with and he will internalize and personalize her very well reasoned no as negative feelings about him and then he will try to bully her/wear her down to "yes."

“Why would I agree to a third child when I am barely surviving with two?” And wait for his reaction.

Also he sounds like an immature a**, that’s a reason enough to not bring another child into this world.

Get an IUD. He may try to tamper with any birth control.

I felt that pressure from my ex wife and our marriage was never the same from that point and we ended up divorced. She was becoming more and more persistent about it to the point that I wonder if she was suffering from some type of mental illness. 2 kids were enough for me.

Just say NO. You are full grown.

Op - Tou owe it to the family you have to see that you are physically fit and your body is ready for another pregnancy if that is a choice, and one year is way too early after what you have been through.
More than that h you need to get mentally healthy and strong. To do that you beee to find a therapist and working with one will help you sort through your decision making and your find a way to involve your husband. I would also say seeing your OB and/ir couples coubsrling would be an option.
We had planned pregnancies at 2.5 years roughly between our three girls
And perfect pregnancies. Our third daughter was born with a cognitive disability and she has gone well. But it did change the dynamics of our family’s lifestyle. This remains true 42 years later. She is loved, but a decision you make at any point can have implications for life and siblings, too. Take your time in deciding.

Anonymous wrote:Whoever does not want a child has the final say.

That's it.

Two yeses or one no to reach a decision.