Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 22:19     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:I need a gut check on whether it’s reasonable for me to be extremely annoyed by something DH did this morning or whether I’m overreacting. I did a load of towels on Friday afternoon so that we would have clean towels for my in-laws, who are visiting this weekend. Once the load was dry, I pulled out towels for the in-laws but had not gotten around to folding the rest of the towels yet.

DH decided to do his own laundry this morning. I just went into the laundry room and found a big pile of clean towels on the floor. It appears that DH removed the towels from the dryer so that he could change over his laundry, but instead of folding the towels, putting them in a laundry basket, or even just putting them on top of the dryer, he put them ON THE FLOOR - right in the middle of the walk way - and left them there.

I’m more than annoyed about this. I’m actually angry. I’m also a few months postpartum with our second child, so I realize that sleep deprivation may be affecting my reaction.

DH can’t take criticism so I know that when I bring this up, DH will go on the offensive and blame me for not having unloaded the dryer sooner. As a result, I’m waiting until tonight to bring this up. In the meantime, what do you all think? Is my reaction reasonable?

Your husband is a dik
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 22:10     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Is this a one-time incident or is a part of a behavior pattern?
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 21:58     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Haha either a complete A hole or ADHD and just forgot he left them there. I've done some stupid stuff like this but it really was completely accidental
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 21:49     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
it's annoying but it also depends on the context of your lives. Is he otherwise great and funny and does he work hard and earn good money? Do you stay home and what is your financial contribution? Really good spouses who contribute financially can get a pass in some situations where if you are already annoyed with someone bc they are cranky or not working when they could or flirt with other women, the towels would be a dealbreaker.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 21:07     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
I would ask him why he put them on the floor and who he expects to rewash them (if that is important to you). My husband can't take criticism, but also has no sense of accountability, and I have told him I will divorce him if he doesn't improve. I waited too long to be direct with him (my kids are teens and will soon be out of the house, so I could divorce him soon). I suggest you nip this in the bud now.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 21:01     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:In the time it took you to write this you could have just folded the towels.


Gross. She’s supposed to just fold the towels that have been on the floor of the laundry room and pretend they are clean? Oooookay
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 21:00     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.


Leave them and when your inlaws arrive, explain that your DH put their towels "right here on the floor, so help yourselves".





Love it!
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 20:43     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:I would not in a million years pick those towels up. Yes, I would order new towels if I ran out of clean ones and those towels were still sitting on the floor where he tossed them.

report back to us how long it takes for him to pick up the towels, fold and put them away. i bet he does it five minutes before his parents show.


We are soul sisters!!!
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 20:40     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
You will divorce eventually because he can never take criticism. He probably only understands strength.

So dump all his stuff on the floor as soon as it's done and occupy the drier.

And then yell at him for not unloading his stuff immediately.

Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 20:35     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Our floors are relatively clean (no shoe home), and even I would be angry if this happened. But this would never happen. We don’t have his laundry and my laundry. Laundry is everyone’s laundry. So whoever empties the dryer, folds everyone’s laundry.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 18:08     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would not in a million years pick those towels up. Yes, I would order new towels if I ran out of clean ones and those towels were still sitting on the floor where he tossed them.

report back to us how long it takes for him to pick up the towels, fold and put them away. i bet he does it five minutes before his parents show.

+1


This right here. Your DH is a jerk.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 18:05     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Nope. Not a problem at all. Thats his momma’s problem. Let them know accordingly.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 17:45     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.


Leave them and when your inlaws arrive, explain that your DH put their towels "right here on the floor, so help yourselves".


This is the only answer. If they act shocked and imply that it’s somehow your fault, say yeah I wish his parents had taught him how to not be a useless ahole but they didn’t so what can you do.


This is giving me flashbacks to when my DC was born. DH didn’t do anything for his visiting parents and when he did do something similar to this towel incident, his mother twisted it and blamed and judged me. It was a sign of things to come. He left me out of the blue and his mother was full of criticism for the way I existed as a wife and took care of our child, even though she was supportive for the previous 10 years.

He’s showing you who he is AND how he was raised AND how he expects you to step in to do anything you don’t want to do. File this away but not too deeply because it’s telling you something that you can’t deal with now but will have to face, by choice or not, at some point in the future.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 16:26     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Leave them and see how it takes for him to fold them.


Leave them and when your inlaws arrive, explain that your DH put their towels "right here on the floor, so help yourselves".


This is the only answer. If they act shocked and imply that it’s somehow your fault, say yeah I wish his parents had taught him how to not be a useless ahole but they didn’t so what can you do.
Anonymous
Post 02/22/2026 16:19     Subject: Is it reasonable to be extremely annoyed by this?
He can use the dirty towels. In fact never was his towels again. Just leave them hanging on his rack