Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband regularly calls me names- bctch, whore, slut, psycho, stupid, crazy, worthless, are the main ones. This happens everyday during small or big arguments, and in everyday moments. He tells me no one else would ever want me and that I’m lucky he stays. He says I ruin everything and he doesn’t know why he ever married me.

He puts me down in many other ways: he tells me I’m a bad wife and a worse mom, and makes me feel like I’m remembering things wrong, blames me for his anger, says our kids should hate me, and gives me the silent for days to weeks. He threatens to leave, saying I wouldn’t survive without him.

He sometimes brings up my past to hurt me. He says that because my dad left for another family when I was a two year-old, I’m worthless and no one has ever loved me. He says my mom should’ve abandoned me too and started over like my dad did or that they should’ve never had me at all. He tells me about stepdad-how he physically abused (fractures) emotionally, and financially abused, and very creepy and inappropriate toward me, though he did not touch me — and uses that to make me feel unwanted, and says I deserved it.

He also insults my past relationships, saying that my exes are worthless just like me or that my exes are better off without me.
He accuses me of cheating with male friends or people at work, says I probably have or will, and says he should cheat too.

When I tell him that this is cruel, he says I’m too sensitive, that I provoke him, or that I deserve it. Sometimes he says he didn’t mean it, but it keeps happening.

I guess I just need to let this out. I’m frankly tired of it and don’t know what to do. Has anyone dealt with this a partner who’s like this? How did you cope?

You must be a troll.
No one cope with abuse like this. People divorce. There is no coping with this. You are asking the wrong questions.
Your question should have been: where do I find a divorce lawyer?

Anonymous wrote:I left this and you can too.

Unfortunately he did get partial custody and now says horrible things to my kids, accuses me of sleeping with family members, and the like. Winning is being able to hang up and block him.

Anonymous wrote:Why have you stayed this long? (This is not judgment. I genuinely think it would help to write why you have not left.)

Anonymous wrote:My husband regularly calls me names- bctch, whore, slut, psycho, stupid, crazy, worthless, are the main ones. This happens everyday during small or big arguments, and in everyday moments. He tells me no one else would ever want me and that I’m lucky he stays. He says I ruin everything and he doesn’t know why he ever married me.

He puts me down in many other ways: he tells me I’m a bad wife and a worse mom, and makes me feel like I’m remembering things wrong, blames me for his anger, says our kids should hate me, and gives me the silent for days to weeks. He threatens to leave, saying I wouldn’t survive without him.

He sometimes brings up my past to hurt me. He says that because my dad left for another family when I was a two year-old, I’m worthless and no one has ever loved me. He says my mom should’ve abandoned me too and started over like my dad did or that they should’ve never had me at all. He tells me about stepdad-how he physically abused (fractures) emotionally, and financially abused, and very creepy and inappropriate toward me, though he did not touch me — and uses that to make me feel unwanted, and says I deserved it.

He also insults my past relationships, saying that my exes are worthless just like me or that my exes are better off without me.
He accuses me of cheating with male friends or people at work, says I probably have or will, and says he should cheat too.

When I tell him that this is cruel, he says I’m too sensitive, that I provoke him, or that I deserve it. Sometimes he says he didn’t mean it, but it keeps happening.

I guess I just need to let this out. I’m frankly tired of it and don’t know what to do. Has anyone dealt with this a partner who’s like this? How did you cope?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is dealing with this nonsense in 2026. Please just make an air tight plan with an attorney and perhaps a therapist and GTFO. Do not leave anything to chance. He sounds like the sort of man who might become violent once you try to leave.

What?

Women are no longer putting up with nonsense like this from men.

Anonymous wrote:My husband regularly calls me names- bctch, whore, slut, psycho, stupid, crazy, worthless, are the main ones. This happens everyday during small or big arguments, and in everyday moments. He tells me no one else would ever want me and that I’m lucky he stays. He says I ruin everything and he doesn’t know why he ever married me.

He puts me down in many other ways: he tells me I’m a bad wife and a worse mom, and makes me feel like I’m remembering things wrong, blames me for his anger, says our kids should hate me, and gives me the silent for days to weeks. He threatens to leave, saying I wouldn’t survive without him.

He sometimes brings up my past to hurt me. He says that because my dad left for another family when I was a two year-old, I’m worthless and no one has ever loved me. He says my mom should’ve abandoned me too and started over like my dad did or that they should’ve never had me at all. He tells me about stepdad-how he physically abused (fractures) emotionally, and financially abused, and very creepy and inappropriate toward me, though he did not touch me — and uses that to make me feel unwanted, and says I deserved it.

He also insults my past relationships, saying that my exes are worthless just like me or that my exes are better off without me.
He accuses me of cheating with male friends or people at work, says I probably have or will, and says he should cheat too.

When I tell him that this is cruel, he says I’m too sensitive, that I provoke him, or that I deserve it. Sometimes he says he didn’t mean it, but it keeps happening.

I guess I just need to let this out. I’m frankly tired of it and don’t know what to do. Has anyone dealt with this a partner who’s like this? How did you cope?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is dealing with this nonsense in 2026. Please just make an air tight plan with an attorney and perhaps a therapist and GTFO. Do not leave anything to chance. He sounds like the sort of man who might become violent once you try to leave.

What?

Women are no longer putting up with nonsense like this from men.