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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

Arr you kidding? Most people are laid off and never find work again in their 50s. Happened to all my aunts and uncles. But we grew up poor and Im sure lacked the executive presence or whatever weasel word execs use to hire a mini-me.

I got a big job at 54, 57 and 60. And I grew up poor. I don’t think it is until 62 it gets hard to job hunt.

Are you a white male over average height?

Yea which has been a massive disadvantage over last 20 years. Lost job in 2016 in take over and every white male is sr. Mgt let go. Purchasing company full of older white makes to improve D&I canned all of us. Next job built big dept from scratch (I got paid well) but once done in run state canned me for younger Asian women, next job start up underpaid but tons of stock once set up this time moved on own. Now Trump killed D&I my company removed it and we hired so D&I folks over last 25 years I am safe! I am also now interviewing Board jobs as D&I dead for now!! After 25 years of oppression the straight, married, white male can come out of closet at work

You lost your job not because you are not white, short, fat, etc. judging by your written post, you I doubt you even graduated HS. Sorry

I am white, good looking, hung like a donkey man who can hold his liquir. My company I will use as an example. We removed D&I from any hiring decision. The HR recruiting team at work is 100 percent diverse, black man, a few black, indian, spanish women that is it. Since it has changed 100 percent of hires for better paying roles have been Men over 50. I say average age of new hire is 55-58. Extemely qualified people who were shut out of job market who are now back. So the diverse HR area nce based soley on qualifications cant find diverse people. That is funny

Well at least till Trump is gone. But at their age who cares that is the Millenial White Mens problem when they turn 55 and cant find work.

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

55, super young...cmon? You remember as a HS kid how you thought your teachers aged 40/50 and parents were "so old"? What do you think others think of your 55yo a$$ now? You are old, just accept it, but don't say you are super young.

People live longer. My uncle who retired at 78 for good is now 93. I hope I am that lucky. But in White collar world if you are VP or up once you hit 55-56 once you retire after one year impossible to ever get another high paid white collar job so you have to be really sure of it once you retire. You could have stock market crash, medical bills, college bills, paying for weddings, and not like you leave a 350K job as a SVP at Capital One at 56 to retire and you realize at 63 I need to go back to work that 350K job is waiting for you.

They only make 350k?

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

Arr you kidding? Most people are laid off and never find work again in their 50s. Happened to all my aunts and uncles. But we grew up poor and Im sure lacked the executive presence or whatever weasel word execs use to hire a mini-me.

I got a big job at 54, 57 and 60. And I grew up poor. I don’t think it is until 62 it gets hard to job hunt.

Are you a white male over average height?

Yea which has been a massive disadvantage over last 20 years. Lost job in 2016 in take over and every white male is sr. Mgt let go. Purchasing company full of older white makes to improve D&I canned all of us. Next job built big dept from scratch (I got paid well) but once done in run state canned me for younger Asian women, next job start up underpaid but tons of stock once set up this time moved on own. Now Trump killed D&I my company removed it and we hired so D&I folks over last 25 years I am safe! I am also now interviewing Board jobs as D&I dead for now!! After 25 years of oppression the straight, married, white male can come out of closet at work

You lost your job not because you are not white, short, fat, etc. judging by your written post, you I doubt you even graduated HS. Sorry

At age 56, I feel very healthy and energetic. I'm in a manager role at a large corporation, and I have enjoyed being in this mommy-track type job for the past 20 years. It's been very family-friends, thanks to a wonderful boss who is himself in his late 60's and who insists on doing any evening or weekend work because he knows that the middle-aged moms that work under him need to be with their kids. I've got it pretty good: I make $300K per year, have a really nice office, and work with really good co-workers.

Once I become an empty nester next year, I might even try for a promotion within my company, or move to another company in my industry. When I got head-hunter calls over the years, I always turned them down because I did not want to disrupt my mommy-track job. Now I'm available and up for the challenge.

I like my career, and therefore hope to work for another 10 years, and then perhaps open my own business.

I like the challenge of working, and I also like making money. My DH and I are trying to save up to give each of our 3 kids nice down payments for their eventual home purchases.

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

55, super young...cmon? You remember as a HS kid how you thought your teachers aged 40/50 and parents were "so old"? What do you think others think of your 55yo a$$ now? You are old, just accept it, but don't say you are super young.

My Catholic Schools the Nuns were all 70-90 so a 55 year old would be a kid. My one teacher I had in First grade was born in 1888. She was 30 when WWI ended.

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

55, super young...cmon? You remember as a HS kid how you thought your teachers aged 40/50 and parents were "so old"? What do you think others think of your 55yo a$$ now? You are old, just accept it, but don't say you are super young.

People live longer. My uncle who retired at 78 for good is now 93. I hope I am that lucky. But in White collar world if you are VP or up once you hit 55-56 once you retire after one year impossible to ever get another high paid white collar job so you have to be really sure of it once you retire. You could have stock market crash, medical bills, college bills, paying for weddings, and not like you leave a 350K job as a SVP at Capital One at 56 to retire and you realize at 63 I need to go back to work that 350K job is waiting for you.

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If you are retiring at 55, you have won.

This is how I feel, though I will retire at 56. I lived frugally my whole life to reach this point.

Anonymous wrote:How'd you leave the workforce at 29?

MRS Degree I'm sure.

How'd you leave the workforce at 29?

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

55, super young...cmon? You remember as a HS kid how you thought your teachers aged 40/50 and parents were "so old"? What do you think others think of your 55yo a$$ now? You are old, just accept it, but don't say you are super young.

AARP membership and Senior Discounts all full bore at 55!

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

55, super young...cmon? You remember as a HS kid how you thought your teachers aged 40/50 and parents were "so old"? What do you think others think of your 55yo a$$ now? You are old, just accept it, but don't say you are super young.

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

Arr you kidding? Most people are laid off and never find work again in their 50s. Happened to all my aunts and uncles. But we grew up poor and Im sure lacked the executive presence or whatever weasel word execs use to hire a mini-me.

I got a big job at 54, 57 and 60. And I grew up poor. I don’t think it is until 62 it gets hard to job hunt.

Are you a white male over average height?

Yea which has been a massive disadvantage over last 20 years. Lost job in 2016 in take over and every white male is sr. Mgt let go. Purchasing company full of older white makes to improve D&I canned all of us. Next job built big dept from scratch (I got paid well) but once done in run state canned me for younger Asian women, next job start up underpaid but tons of stock once set up this time moved on own. Now Trump killed D&I my company removed it and we hired so D&I folks over last 25 years I am safe! I am also now interviewing Board jobs as D&I dead for now!! After 25 years of oppression the straight, married, white male can come out of closet at work

😅😂🤣😂😅😂🤣 Do you believe the nonsense you have written. There is a difference between educated UMC white male and trailer-trash white male. just because you are white or have been paid more than you deserve in the past doesn’t mean things will remain the same. The confidence and entitlement of an average white man is breathtaking.

Most people have not worked at 70-90 companies, 10-15 industries and 10-15 different types of jobs and done work in multiple countries and worked with nearly every regulator. Most have a very very deep knowledge of a two to three things. I have a little to medium knowledge of a few hundred things. In an interview it stays high level and I can talk on any topic at an interview level.

And then can't really do the work so on to the next interview.

Does it matter? Ever hear of failing upward? Here is real fact. True leadership and visionary skills involves skills 99 percent of people don’t have. And people with those skills don’t hire folks with those skills, they want people to implement. And these visionaries normally don’t know details. So you can get hired, you are only interviewing at C level or Board and their knowledge is off decks and PowerPoints and exec summaries. Which is my level.

If I last 3 years good enough for me.

Ha. I left the workplace at 29 and never went back! Almost 60 now. Zero regrets. What I notice now is how I've been able to maintain my heart. Who cares about money.

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

Arr you kidding? Most people are laid off and never find work again in their 50s. Happened to all my aunts and uncles. But we grew up poor and Im sure lacked the executive presence or whatever weasel word execs use to hire a mini-me.

I got a big job at 54, 57 and 60. And I grew up poor. I don’t think it is until 62 it gets hard to job hunt.

Depends on your gender and work.

Doctors, professors, and lawyers are respected when old.

A woman in marketing or tech? You are dead at 49 if not 40.

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Anonymous wrote:I have come to realize that I am not going to make it to the next level in my organization. I am about 5 years from retirement but just feel so deflated about gutting it out knowing I have been passed over. I do not think I will be fired b/c I have a lot of institutional knowledge and specialized expertise, but the humiliation of toiling away and failing to top-out has me so discouraged. I do not think I have it in me to switch jobs at this point - esp. in this market and at my age. I was always the golden child and top performer with good relationships but truth-be-told, I did prioritize time with my kids and never really leaned into the grind lifestyle that would have been required. I assume the conventional advice is - just suck it up and be grateful I have a job?

Just tough to make peace with after being pretty ambitious my whole life.

You don’t sound ambitious at all. You prioritized your family, you don’t like the grind, and you’re retiring at 55. If you were really ambitious, you’d start grinding right now, looking to move organizations, etc., instead of already throwing in the towel.

I have to agree with this! 55 is entering the pinnacle years, and they go until 65 or so. I don’t understand why you are choosing to check out if you still hold those dreams? 55 is super young.

Most die around 75-80, and the last decade can be rough.

So that gives most people to 65 or 70. So 55 is not super young.