Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:19
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird to try to get into shape for a trip and weirder to get annoyed at someone for failing to do so.
Stop turning a good thing (a Caribbean vacation!) into a problem.
Yeah, this.
+1
Also stop pretending that this was about health. Your "flab" comment gives the game away.
I would love to see the comments if the genders were reversed. Typical DCUMad.
Me too. Most men would divorce if they're wife gained 30 pounds.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:15
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Unless he is obese, wheezing, with untreated high blood pressure or heart issues, he can snorkel just fine. Even obese but no cardio or pulmonary can snorkel just fine. He may be better at it than you, OP.
The fat helps me float
Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:12
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Would you be annoyed at your significant other for not really trying to get in shape for a Caribbean vacation?
We booked it about 6 months ago and also talked about how it would be motivation to get in shape and try to be healthiest for snorkeling and your basic tourist stuff.
We are a month out and ordering clothes and all that and spouse thinks they can get in shape in 4 weeks where I have been dieting and exercising for 6 months.
It is not the end of the world but I am kind of annoyed. I was not expecting fitness influencer body but at least not dad bod flab.
He's a guy. He can probably just cut out beer for a few weeks and have a six-pack.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 16:10
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
It's a vacation, not a doctors appointment. Can't they just enjoy the vacation without you harping about how fat they are?
Anonymous
02/17/2026 14:57
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Where is this high elevation Caribbean hike? How high?
Like I said unless he wheezes he will surprise you. If he has actual heart issues losing weight won't make it safe.
Like I said unless he wheezes he will surprise you. If he has actual heart issues losing weight won't make it safe.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 14:52
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Men. Never. Change.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 14:30
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
OP, you are very mean and shallow to your DH. Just because you feel the need to look hot on vacation, instead of just enjoying the fun, says so much about you.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 14:26
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
As someone who has been battling the dad bod, I don't think even 6 months is enough to get what you were hoping for. It also depends on his starting point but I can imagine since you said "dad bod flab." Yes, I'd say you can be disappointed that he didn't make the effort that you did. It's something you could do together. But obviously it's something that he needs to want to do. Hopefully you two still have a great time and can work o. The fitness together afterwards
Anonymous
02/17/2026 12:56
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:I would be annoyed by the dad bod all along
yup.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 12:48
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird to try to get into shape for a trip and weirder to get annoyed at someone for failing to do so.
Stop turning a good thing (a Caribbean vacation!) into a problem.
Yeah, this.
+1
Also stop pretending that this was about health. Your "flab" comment gives the game away.
I would love to see the comments if the genders were reversed. Typical DCUMad.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 12:47
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Op, if you are reflecting anything like this in front of your DH then you are being emotionally abusive.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 12:39
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
I would be annoyed by the dad bod all along
Anonymous
02/17/2026 12:38
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Anonymous wrote:I think it's weird to try to get into shape for a trip and weirder to get annoyed at someone for failing to do so.
Stop turning a good thing (a Caribbean vacation!) into a problem.
This!
Anonymous
02/17/2026 12:36
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
I wonder how mean OP is to her DH/partner in real life when she is like this on an anonymous forum. If she is not mean, then she would definitely be resentful half of the time.
Anonymous
02/17/2026 12:35
Subject: Did not try to get in shape
Op, this is your own issues for something that you have worked hard so be kind to your partner and stop being controlling.