Anonymous wrote:While I would say yes, I'd also think to myself why cheap out now and not get another room if they cannot get ready in another groomsman's room? It seems inconvenient to drag all the stuff to your house to get ready.

I'd also foresee your house to become a hang-out house with extra people stopping buy or hanging out.

Anonymous wrote:If they’re staying nearby, they will already have showered. There won’t be much actual getting ready. My guess is they’ll just mostly congregating there and will just talk. Have some snacks and drinks and don’t think of it as them getting ready, just hanging out.

Anonymous wrote:Nobody with a hotel room or local lodging would plan to shower at a random sister in law’s house.

Anonymous wrote:My husband’s younger brother is getting married here in town. My ILs live in a small one-bedroom condo in a retirement community, so they can’t host. We’re the only family locally and live in a modest-size house with kids at home.

The couple has a hotel block, and the bride and bridal party will be doing hair/makeup and getting dressed in their suite the morning of the wedding. The current plan is for my BIL to leave the suite that morning, and since they don’t want to pay for an additional hotel room for the guys, he’s asked if he and his five groomsmen can hang out at our house and get ready.

My husband’s response was basically “it’s up to you.” 🙄

I’m really not comfortable with this. We don’t have a great setup for six adult men to get ready; they’d either be using our primary bedroom/bath, one of our kids’ rooms, or rotating through the guest bath. I have kids here, and we actually live in this space, and we will all be getting ready, too. It feels like a lot to host a group of guys (some I’ve never even met) for hours on a busy wedding morning.

I adore my BIL and want to be supportive, but this feels invasive and stressful. Am I being unreasonable? Would you say yes, or suggest they get another hotel room?

Anonymous wrote:Nobody with a hotel room or local lodging would plan to shower at a random sister in law’s house.

Anonymous wrote:They aren’t going to all take showers—please. They will shower at home or thee their hotel. They will probably need to change shirts, tie ties, watch tv, and drink a beer.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like fun to me. This is your BIL so you make it work. It would love 5 men getting ready in my house. Break out the champagne and make it a party.

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Anonymous wrote:Why the heck not? "Six men" - is that scary to OP? I would happily do this.

Scary? No. But 6 men I don't know showering at my house is a definite no. Coming over to hang out and change clothes is fine but grooming needs to be done at their hotel.
(Not OP).

You are super weird. This isn't 6 strangers off the street, it's a BIL and his friends. Do you think they are going to whip out their schlong? What's the problem and don't get into safety of your kids. That's a cop out.

If I don't know them, they're strangers to me. If it's just BIL it's 1 bathroom. If it's 6 guys, then Op has to clean 2 or 3 bathrooms, and they have to go to and down the hall possibly in a state of undress. Hard pass.