Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 21:17     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've learned to say: I texted with Mary. Or emailed with Mary., to avoid confusion. Actually speaking to someone can make a difference in terms of depth of understanding of a situation or issue. It also implies an actual conversation. Too many times things are misconstrued or not that clear via text and to a lesser degree with email.


Would you then say something like “she said” or does that imply a spoken conversation? Or would you always say “she typed” or “she also texted,” etc?


NP. I usually say "I texted xyz about xyz" and "she said .."


That sounds stupid and immature.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 20:25     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I've learned to say: I texted with Mary. Or emailed with Mary., to avoid confusion. Actually speaking to someone can make a difference in terms of depth of understanding of a situation or issue. It also implies an actual conversation. Too many times things are misconstrued or not that clear via text and to a lesser degree with email.


Would you then say something like “she said” or does that imply a spoken conversation? Or would you always say “she typed” or “she also texted,” etc?


NP. I usually say "I texted xyz about xyz" and "she said .."
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 20:17     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

I texted with, chatted with, we texted about that.. Spoke means a conversation with voices.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 16:24     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't use spoke unless it was verbal.


I’m so pedantic that I wouldn’t use “spoke” unless it was an oral conversation. Verbal means words.


I don't use "spoke" unless it's in person. Teams, telephones, etc., are really just electronic reproductions of words. So even if I am speaking into the device, I can't be too sure if someone is "speaking" on the other end. "Spoke" has a very narrow use case, actually.

Better: "I corresponded with Mary via the visual electronic medium Teams v2.7 on Dell SN:105348415."


FFS.


Seriously. No date or time mentioned. This could have happened in 1923 for all we know.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 15:52     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't use spoke unless it was verbal.


I’m so pedantic that I wouldn’t use “spoke” unless it was an oral conversation. Verbal means words.


I don't use "spoke" unless it's in person. Teams, telephones, etc., are really just electronic reproductions of words. So even if I am speaking into the device, I can't be too sure if someone is "speaking" on the other end. "Spoke" has a very narrow use case, actually.

Better: "I corresponded with Mary via the visual electronic medium Teams v2.7 on Dell SN:105348415."


FFS.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2026 14:11     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't use spoke unless it was verbal.


You mean oral, since verbal means the use of written or spoken words.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 20:17     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't use spoke unless it was verbal.


I’m so pedantic that I wouldn’t use “spoke” unless it was an oral conversation. Verbal means words.


Spoken words?
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 17:51     Subject: Re:“I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

This topic really spoke to me.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 17:36     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

You’re wrong. “Spoke” means speaking, verbally, not in writing. You could say “connected with” or “communicated with” if you mean by text. “Texted with” is most accurate.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 14:43     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:When you speak to God, is it out loud?


No, that would be weird. He speaks to me out loud, though, which is handy for knowing which nations to smite.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 14:36     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

When you speak to God, is it out loud?
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 14:35     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:To me, "speak" implies a conversation in real time.


Same.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 14:33     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't use spoke unless it was verbal.


I’m so pedantic that I wouldn’t use “spoke” unless it was an oral conversation. Verbal means words.


I don't use "spoke" unless it's in person. Teams, telephones, etc., are really just electronic reproductions of words. So even if I am speaking into the device, I can't be too sure if someone is "speaking" on the other end. "Spoke" has a very narrow use case, actually.

Better: "I corresponded with Mary via the visual electronic medium Teams v2.7 on Dell SN:105348415."
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 14:29     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

I try to reflect the medium, but not something to get hung up on. Sometimes it matters, though, whether something was in writing or not. In any case, "said" is often used because this is an ancient and accepted use of the word. For instance, "St. Paul said..." or "Heroditus said..."

"I messaged with Mary and she said..."
"Mary emailed and said..."
"Mary called and said..."
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2026 14:29     Subject: “I spoke to Mary” Am I not supposed to say “spoke” if it’s communication via text message or email?

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't use spoke unless it was verbal.


I’m so pedantic that I wouldn’t use “spoke” unless it was an oral conversation. Verbal means words.