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Anonymous wrote:In DC higher contribution may result in court awarding more assets to one spouse . I divorced jn DC in 2021 in a similar situation.

50/50 not a set formula here, particular if the wife can prove the money was hers. Eg came from the account the husband didn’t have access to.

My friend divorced in VA she retained the house.

Yeah, very difficult to snatch because she decided to co-mingle it. She would also have to Pay OP spousal support and child support if they keep kids 50/50.

There are many male hobosexuals on dating market. See this PP. They look for wealthy trust funders or divorcees to move in the woman's house, or make her a downpayment on a joint house in exchange for marriage proposal.

Never contribute unequal shares in downpayment, ladies!

Kids staying in the same house if possible is important. I’ve been there as the kid and as the mother in a divorce.

OP, you need a good lawyer. Also, if there are sticking points in any way, if it helps to put assets into a trust for the child, that could be a way to overcome the issue. But get a good lawyer to advise you.

What’s the future earning potential for you and for your spouse?

Consider a divorce mediator.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in this situation pretty much exactly with my family money used for downpayment among other things. We split everything 50/50, including retirement. He pays me child support though since he makes more- that's the only difference.

He doesn’t pay YOU child support. That isn’t YOUR money. It is for your children.

My ex absolutely pays ME child support. I'm not going to let my kids go without, so I've already paid for what they need. Child support lets ME recoup some of those costs, that he is responsible for, so that I can also save for my retirement, and take care of my own needs.

That money is not for YOU.

You don’t understand that money is fungible ? She spent on kids from her income; exH has to make up that expense in his respective share for the kids rental expenses, food, travel, education. Kids don’t come for free and can’t pay rent themselves

This is the guy who would rather see his kids’ standard of living go down than do a single thing that might be construed as his wife getting a perceived advantage. So yes he would rather see his kids living in a studio apartment and their mom with no retirement savings than concede that he has a financial obligation to her.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how she put down 100% or something using family money. If she used family money then half of it was his.

Were they married when this happened? If so, and if the house is in both names, then I think he will get (ie she will have to pay him) 1/2 of that 500k.

For the 80 millionth time, no.

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Anonymous wrote:I was in this situation pretty much exactly with my family money used for downpayment among other things. We split everything 50/50, including retirement. He pays me child support though since he makes more- that's the only difference.

He doesn’t pay YOU child support. That isn’t YOUR money. It is for your children.

My ex absolutely pays ME child support. I'm not going to let my kids go without, so I've already paid for what they need. Child support lets ME recoup some of those costs, that he is responsible for, so that I can also save for my retirement, and take care of my own needs.

That money is not for YOU.

You don’t understand that money is fungible ? She spent on kids from her income; exH has to make up that expense in his respective share for the kids rental expenses, food, travel, education. Kids don’t come for free and can’t pay rent themselves

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how she put down 100% or something using family money. If she used family money then half of it was his.

Were they married when this happened? If so, and if the house is in both names, then I think he will get (ie she will have to pay him) 1/2 of that 500k.

Not in DC. The spouse who contributed more would be eligible for a higher share of marital assets. Eg she can get higher share in other assets like his pension plan or a car, if she contributed that much more in the beginning. All that’s required is to prove money source.

She needs to hire a good lawyer as husband is unlikely to unclench from $250k voluntarily. But a perspective of her retaining 70% of his retirement might force him to back off

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Anonymous wrote:I was in this situation pretty much exactly with my family money used for downpayment among other things. We split everything 50/50, including retirement. He pays me child support though since he makes more- that's the only difference.

He doesn’t pay YOU child support. That isn’t YOUR money. It is for your children.

My ex absolutely pays ME child support. I'm not going to let my kids go without, so I've already paid for what they need. Child support lets ME recoup some of those costs, that he is responsible for, so that I can also save for my retirement, and take care of my own needs.

That money is not for YOU.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how she put down 100% or something using family money. If she used family money then half of it was his.

Were they married when this happened? If so, and if the house is in both names, then I think he will get (ie she will have to pay him) 1/2 of that 500k.

Depends on what H is like. Is he a proud man who only wants what’s his? Or will he use every legal avenue to take advantage of his wife’s money.
Btw I’d say the same if genders were reversed

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Anonymous wrote:In DC higher contribution may result in court awarding more assets to one spouse . I divorced jn DC in 2021 in a similar situation.

50/50 not a set formula here, particular if the wife can prove the money was hers. Eg came from the account the husband didn’t have access to.

My friend divorced in VA she retained the house.

Yeah, very difficult to snatch because she decided to co-mingle it. She would also have to Pay OP spousal support and child support if they keep kids 50/50.

Not that difficult but that would require a court decision. Only appreciation would be split on the house but her downpayment goes back to her . She would need to argue this in court will cost about $50k

CS is by the formula she might end up laying $500 or so

No alimony case here to him at all

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Anonymous wrote:In DC higher contribution may result in court awarding more assets to one spouse . I divorced jn DC in 2021 in a similar situation.

50/50 not a set formula here, particular if the wife can prove the money was hers. Eg came from the account the husband didn’t have access to.

My friend divorced in VA she retained the house.

Yeah, very difficult to snatch because she decided to co-mingle it. She would also have to Pay OP spousal support and child support if they keep kids 50/50.

Not sure how many more times this needs to be repeated. Co-mingling may make it into marital property. But marital property is not necessarily divided 50-50.