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Anonymous wrote:To be honest, a lot of men - especially younger ones these days, and ones from very conservative cultures where male-female friendships are rare - seem “bi.” In the sense that they get all their close emotional connection and socializing, etc., from men. And their wife at home is just for s*x, raising the kids, and taking care of the older family members. A lot of men can’t see women as fully-formed and whole human beings with their own personalities, interests, likes/dislikes, and hopes and dreams. They only see men that way. But they are sexually attracted to women, so they are considered as “straight.” But who knows, if a system like the Ancient Greeks had was socially acceptable, maybe they’d be sticking their dicks in young boys too … because it’s not gay if you’re the top and he goes home to his wife every night anyway.

In bold is the traditional male understanding of women. Being sexually attracted to women is what make you straight. Why would a straight man want to have a friendship with a woman? Low effort troll.

I work as bartender on Saturdays. The other bartender I work with is a trans woman. Oh man, my view on men completely changed. I think there are lot more bi men than people think. Of course I need to be careful generalizing from speaking to just one trans woman. Anyways she told me she has only had sex with straight men. Now of course I got confused when she said straight men. And the worse part most of them are married. In fact the one guy she is currently dating +and in love) is married and she said she gave him an ultimatum to leave his wife. Now the most interesting conversations were about the bedroom. Ladies I hope your husband is not one of these guys because apparently they all start as the one giving it to the one receiving it And they love receiving it.

So to answer OP I don't think you can know. And bi men I don't think they have problems getting a hard on whether it's a p***y or a d***k. They must have very high testosterone and hornier than most straight men.

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Anonymous wrote:I am GenX. I don't think my generation is cool with dating bi men. I think Millennials and GenX are more open to dating bi men.

Agree. We grew up with AIDS. They have meds for it now.

I’m Gen X and am fine with dating bi men. I don’t think gay sex automatically means unsafe sex.

The problem with bi men is that so many of them have internalized homophobia and a tendency to be quasi-closeted about their practices. Love who you love, screw who you wanna screw, but be honest about what you're up to so your partner(s) can take whatever precautions they feel are necessary.

Bi women don't face the same stigma, and are much more likely to be upfront/honest about their same-sex encounters. Men lie and hide, and it can cause major trouble where there doesn't need to be any.

I’m a bi woman who prefers dating bi men. Things I look for to get a hint of a man is bi….he likes strong women and never tries to make me feel small, he does a double take when an attractive man walks by, he gets aroused by males in porn, he is open about close friendships with gay men.

I create a safe environment for them to talk to me and often times they will admit they are bi. Again I’d rather be with a bi man than a straight one, so I’m happy when they disclose.

Anonymous wrote:I am shocked at the insane amount of homophobia here. It is sad that there is still so much stigma against LGBT

One person is writing most of the posts in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I am GenX. I don't think my generation is cool with dating bi men. I think Millennials and GenX are more open to dating bi men.

Agree. We grew up with AIDS. They have meds for it now.

I’m Gen X and am fine with dating bi men. I don’t think gay sex automatically means unsafe sex.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

I think it’s that we know the degrading and disgusting things these gay men do to each other (or want to do to each other) which is such a turn-off. I mean, just, ewww!

Lots of biphobia here. Being bi doesn't mean hypersexual, someone can have relationships with both men and women and be monogamous within relationships.

To be honest, a lot of men - especially younger ones these days, and ones from very conservative cultures where male-female friendships are rare - seem “bi.” In the sense that they get all their close emotional connection and socializing, etc., from men. And their wife at home is just for s*x, raising the kids, and taking care of the older family members. A lot of men can’t see women as fully-formed and whole human beings with their own personalities, interests, likes/dislikes, and hopes and dreams. They only see men that way. But they are sexually attracted to women, so they are considered as “straight.” But who knows, if a system like the Ancient Greeks had was socially acceptable, maybe they’d be sticking their dicks in young boys too … because it’s not gay if you’re the top and he goes home to his wife every night anyway.

Anonymous wrote:There’s no such thing as a bi man.

+1.

A guy claiming to be bi is really gay.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

You should check your homophobia at the door.

NP That ain't homophobia.

There’s no such thing as a bi man.

Men generally go for the physical aspects in a relationship. Women for the emotional aspects in a relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a theory that the most sexual, masculine, athletic men are often bisexual but stifled by society. This is based on about a dozen guys I have been friends with throughout the years. I think bisexuality is more the norm for both sexes (look at ancient greece). It’s not a dig on your manhood or whatever if you are into sex with somebody.

That’s nice, sweetie. You did you. Or them. Whatevs.

There is NO WAY I’d date a guy who does other guys. Ewww no.

Its interesting. Men are more likely to be okay with dating a current or former bi woman, but women are not. Why is that? Can some women explain why.

That is an interesting double standard.