Anonymous
02/12/2026 16:47
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.
And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.
So all of their siblings got to have CF weddings, but now because theyre the youngest they can't? GTFOH with that shit.
I'd wager that yes, the invite is for you and your husband only.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 16:43
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that can’t even talk to their siblings?
People who aren’t close to their family at all. Until a wedding happens, then the out of sight out of mind relatives think they are the stars of the show.
DP
Why is relatives-out-of-sight-thinking-they're-stars-of-the-show preventing people from asking relatives direct questions?
Is this like a version of the silent treatment or something? You'd rather waste energy crowdsourcing, avoiding getting a direct answer, because you feel they are inconsiderate but your can't communicate this? If this or some version of this is the case, just don't go.
Because the families aren’t close at all. They have no idea what is going on with this wedding until an invite arrives and then are miffed their kids can’t get dressed up and attend and they don’t get their family reunion with all the other relatives they barely see and don’t keep up with.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 16:39
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:I would have said just you guys, but I just got a invitation for a wedding this summer that I KNOW my kids are invited to (as the bride and groom were talking to my kids about it recently, and how much fun the kids would have) and it says just my husband and I.
So yeah, you gotta check with someone.
I mean they may have meant "how. much fun you'll have visiting our city with your grandparents while your parents are in our wedding". An invite to Mr and Mrs Smith as opposed to The Smith Family, IMO, is pretty crystal clear.
Anonymous
02/12/2026 15:42
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
YES
Anonymous
02/11/2026 16:14
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:We got a Save the Date for a family wedding addressed to "The Larlo family" but then it says no children on the card. Our kids are 21 16, and 15, so I don't know who is actually invited.
Not the 16 & 15 yo’s would be my guess
21yo shouldn’t even want to attend
Anonymous
02/11/2026 13:13
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:I think you can’t really tell without asking. People aren’t going to address a save the date to a baby.
It would have said "The Smith Family" if all members are invited. This isn't difficult.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 13:11
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.
And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.
Well they are either having a no kids wedding, which is what that save the date indicates, or they don't understand how to address things. If you chose not to ask because that would be "annoying" then you need to proceed as if kids will not be invited and plan accordingly.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 13:10
Subject: Re:Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
That's exactly what it means
Anonymous
02/11/2026 08:43
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that can’t even talk to their siblings?
People who aren’t close to their family at all. Until a wedding happens, then the out of sight out of mind relatives think they are the stars of the show.
DP
Why is relatives-out-of-sight-thinking-they're-stars-of-the-show preventing people from asking relatives direct questions?
Is this like a version of the silent treatment or something? You'd rather waste energy crowdsourcing, avoiding getting a direct answer, because you feel they are inconsiderate but your can't communicate this? If this or some version of this is the case, just don't go.
Of all people two brothers who can’t communicate with each other is dumb. “Hey Bob, got to save the date. Is this an adults only wedding?” That’s all you need to ask. It’s not that complicated.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 08:40
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
It's family, just ask, but yes, they don't want your baby at their wedding. Find a sitter.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 08:33
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.
And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.
assume just you two and no kids but even so I would not leave my 1 year old baby. bring your child and find onsite babysitter to be at hotel/wedding venue. they should be able to provide recs. also my wedding we invited all nieces and nephews but no other kids but we provided babysitters on site at wedding.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 08:28
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that can’t even talk to their siblings?
People who aren’t close to their family at all. Until a wedding happens, then the out of sight out of mind relatives think they are the stars of the show.
DP
Why is relatives-out-of-sight-thinking-they're-stars-of-the-show preventing people from asking relatives direct questions?
Is this like a version of the silent treatment or something? You'd rather waste energy crowdsourcing, avoiding getting a direct answer, because you feel they are inconsiderate but your can't communicate this? If this or some version of this is the case, just don't go.
Anonymous
02/11/2026 06:55
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Who are these people that can’t even talk to their siblings?
People who aren’t close to their family at all. Until a wedding happens, then the out of sight out of mind relatives think they are the stars of the show.
Anonymous
02/10/2026 18:34
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Anonymous wrote:Just got the save the date for a wedding for my BIL's wedding in the midwest. Would you assume "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the envelope means just the couple and no kids? I expect the actual invitation will have more clarity with the RSVP options, but we have a baby who will be a little over a year old at the time of the wedding and I need to feel out child care options with my side of the family as early as possible if he isn't invited.
And yes, DH and I could just ask but that feels annoying. Maybe I'm over thinking it. I'm a little surprised this wedding would be no kids as the couple are both youngest children and all of their siblings have young kids and most live out of state like we do. Feels like a lot of important people will not be able to make and/or have to leave the reception early if no kids are allowed.
No kids
Anonymous
02/10/2026 18:33
Subject: Does "Mr and Mrs Smith"on save the date mean no kids?
Who are these people that can’t even talk to their siblings?