Anonymous
02/07/2026 14:35
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:i honestly think the only people bothered by this are going to be women 50+ in low and mid level jobs.
No one cares when emails are sent anymore. It's not 2012. You have to use common sense about your workplace to know if you need to be checking email after 'your' regular hours. But the sender does not need to save their emails until 9am tomorrow morning. Rather, you're permitted to ignore their email until you see it.
I'm a 30something woman in a management role and I would not be okay with this. It's not that they didn't save the email until 9am, it's that they sent it in a passive-aggressive text after hours.
I wouldn't do anything, but I certainly wouldn't be responding until 9am.
My take: leaders set working norms. Schedule the email for the morning.
Anonymous
02/07/2026 10:40
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:I might respond โ is there a reason you needed a response priori to tomorrow morning?
Don't go nuclear, just ask politely and try to nip annoying behavior in bud.
Anonymous
02/06/2026 16:01
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:i honestly think the only people bothered by this are going to be women 50+ in low and mid level jobs.
No one cares when emails are sent anymore. It's not 2012. You have to use common sense about your workplace to know if you need to be checking email after 'your' regular hours. But the sender does not need to save their emails until 9am tomorrow morning. Rather, you're permitted to ignore their email until you see it.
I'm a 30something woman in a management role and I would not be okay with this. It's not that they didn't save the email until 9am, it's that they sent it in a passive-aggressive text after hours.
I wouldn't do anything, but I certainly wouldn't be responding until 9am.
Anonymous
02/06/2026 15:36
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's hard to imagine being upset about this given that I'm expected to be available from 8 am to 10 pm for a salaried job.
That is completely unreasonable. Completely.
Itโs standard practice in my industry and others. Weโre paid largely for our availability. Other industries are like this too. Of course, pay should be commensurate.
It is still completely unreasonable. I donโt care what the compensation is. Set some boundaries.
I work in Big Four. We do.
Anonymous
02/06/2026 15:09
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:My boss is a crazy early bird. Bad menopause and hot flashes so she gets up early some days and shoots out emails like crazy, so up at 5 am and doing work.
I on other hand my wife goes to bed early like by 9 pm and I like to shoot out emails and stuff while watching TV between 10 pm and midnight.
Any one cc with us will think we are nuts. Funny part I also go online before I drive to work. So I can email at midnight. She follows up at 5am and I get back to her at six am.
I joke the day is over by 7 am. I also used to pregame Sunday night.
You're setting up a bad work culture. You can schedule emails to send. I only send off hour emails to other leadership folks who I know are like me and check off hours. If I'm emailing anyone who reports to me, I set it to send during normal working hours.
Anonymous
02/06/2026 14:09
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You should call them at 3AM to ask what you can do to help.
Malicious compliance is always the answer!๐๐๐
You misspelled "passive aggressive."
Anonymous
02/06/2026 14:07
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:You should call them at 3AM to ask what you can do to help.
I think I love you.
Anonymous
02/06/2026 14:03
Subject: "In case you aren't looking at your email"
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Give it a thumbs up and move on with your life.
This. Imagine how much easier it would have been to give it a thumbs up and forget about it until the morning. Instead, OP it treating it as a crime against humanity and stewing about it.
OP, don't sweat the small stuff, and this is pretty darn small. Not "as toxic as it gets," FFS.
You let people walk all over you.