Stop treating your 14 year old like a baby. Surely she can find something to occupy her time - she can watch a movie marathon or something.

I think it was rude not to invite the tween and would have declined in the first place. At this point I would develop noro or something and stay home with my tween. It’s a crazy age where kids have varying levels of comfort around staying home alone, and maybe there is something happening with OP’s kid that is making it a little tough for her. I would definitely prioritize my kid. DH can go, you sent a gift, the end.

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Anonymous wrote:OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.

I think it's weird to exclude mature children from weddings. Toddlers and babies and bratty k-2 children, sure. But a polite 11 year old? That's just petty and rude.

A man should think twice about marrying a woman who is hostile to children at weddings. And yeah it's mostly brides insisting on this exclusion.

The bride probably has a not-polite niece or nephew whose parents would blow a gasket if they saw that this kid was present, so it's safer to exclude ALL kids regardless of maturity.

It's possible, but far-fetched.

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Anonymous wrote:OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.

I think it's weird to exclude mature children from weddings. Toddlers and babies and bratty k-2 children, sure. But a polite 11 year old? That's just petty and rude.

A man should think twice about marrying a woman who is hostile to children at weddings. And yeah it's mostly brides insisting on this exclusion.

The bride probably has a not-polite niece or nephew whose parents would blow a gasket if they saw that this kid was present, so it's safer to exclude ALL kids regardless of maturity.

it's fine

Anonymous wrote:OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.

I think it's weird to exclude mature children from weddings. Toddlers and babies and bratty k-2 children, sure. But a polite 11 year old? That's just petty and rude.

A man should think twice about marrying a woman who is hostile to children at weddings. And yeah it's mostly brides insisting on this exclusion.

If your kid can not stay home alone you should have not rsvp ed yes!

What’s wrong with you ?

What’s wrong with your parenting that your kid can not stay alone ?

Seriously you failed here at every turn

It is SO rude. The ceremony is the important part.

Leave your kid home alone. Have her write out a schedule of what she'll do so she isn't wandering around the house aimlessly, and include her FaceTiming with Grandpa or someone, and you and DH calling between the ceremony and reception.

Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members.

+1

I would be tempted to just take her along. There will likely be a few children who are close relatives of the couple. I doubt one extra would ruin the wedding.

OMFG. OP, if your tween can't be alone, get a damn babysitter and go to the wedding.

I just can't with people who make a federal case out of kids not being invited to weddings. I am sure you leave your kid alone or with a babysitter for plenty of other activities. Just stop with the drama. Clearly you are trying to make a point and pout about your kid not being invited. Get over it.

I’m sorry but this is ridiculous. Get her pumped up about having some alone time to be queen of the castle. Buy her whatever snacks she wants and let her order door dash.

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure the tween is not allowed at the ceremony? If that is just at a church, presumably anybody can just attend. Then you can just drop her off and go back to the reception for an hour and a half.

It's not at a church, OP said it was at the reception venue. Ridiculous for OP to attend one and not the other and absolutely do not bring the kid who can't stay home for an extra 30 minutes without her mommy.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you RSVP for the reception? If you did, then you need to go. But if you didn't, the important part is the actually wedding ceremony. Brides want people in seats.

They want people they know and care about

Sounds like OP's connection to the bride is through her husband. He is probably who the bride would care if he did or didn't attend the ceremony

No, brides don't want a half-empty venue. She sent out invitations. She wants as many people there as possible.

Then the bride won't have a problem with OP's tween filling a seat in the pew.

It's not a pew, the wedding is not at the church. It's at the same place as a reception and will probably be about a 15 minute ceremony.

Even easier for you and why skip the main point. Wedding + dinner then bail.

^O'Hare (obvi)

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Anonymous wrote:Did you RSVP for the reception? If you did, then you need to go. But if you didn't, the important part is the actually wedding ceremony. Brides want people in seats.

They want people they know and care about

Sounds like OP's connection to the bride is through her husband. He is probably who the bride would care if he did or didn't attend the ceremony

No, brides don't want a half-empty venue. She sent out invitations. She wants as many people there as possible.

Then the bride won't have a problem with OP's tween filling a seat in the pew.

It's not a pew, the wedding is not at the church. It's at the same place as a reception and will probably be about a 15 minute ceremony.