Anonymous
Post 02/08/2026 09:57     Subject: Re:I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:That is why I chose to be a SAHM!!



Uh - there is a middle ground? You probably don’t have the experience or capability to be in ops situation - unless big tech was banging your door down and you said no thank you I am doing nothing instead
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 19:59     Subject: Re:I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:That is why I chose to be a SAHM!!



LOLZ
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 19:45     Subject: Re:I am essentially terrified at work
That is why I chose to be a SAHM!!

Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 19:02     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:Work in big tech. Boss super stressed. Is just alternating between yelling, micromanaging, barking commands, cascading criticism then remorseful messages. My anxiety is through the roof. Am job hunting as fast as i can but i can only go so quickly. No idea what to do in the meantime (have considered FMLA but can only do so for so long)


I quit big tech years ago. I didn't have what it took to fix critical issues at lightening speed. And every single day was an emergency fix that needed to be addressed.

Some industries are not for everyone. I was very surprised when I saw so many people joining big tech post COVID and making massive salaries. I never made any of that big money in the early 2010s. And I was working with mission critical projects.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 17:19     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Work in big tech. Boss super stressed. Is just alternating between yelling, micromanaging, barking commands, cascading criticism then remorseful messages. My anxiety is through the roof. Am job hunting as fast as i can but i can only go so quickly. No idea what to do in the meantime (have considered FMLA but can only do so for so long)


Isn't that what every high paying tech job is like?


Can confirm. For $1M+ a year (comp + bonus + RSUs), I'll take my punches and live to see another day.


Be careful. You might not.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 17:16     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Work in big tech. Boss super stressed. Is just alternating between yelling, micromanaging, barking commands, cascading criticism then remorseful messages. My anxiety is through the roof. Am job hunting as fast as i can but i can only go so quickly. No idea what to do in the meantime (have considered FMLA but can only do so for so long)


Ask your boss for some 101 time and without blaming or complaining, ask for his guidance on how to improve your situation.


Yeah but not in a “how can I improve my performance in order to please you” kind of way. Take the position of “we’re on the same team with the same goals. I’m open to collaborating in a way that is respectful and in line with xyz company code of conduct that states xyz. Here are some ideas I have about how we can navigate the waters together when things get rocky…”
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 16:13     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:

op - ok how's this? He displays a consistent lack of emotional regulation and high disapproval expressed on a daily basis at volume both in person, publicly, privately and via written digital channels. This communication is channeled throughout the day on a rolling basis including during, for example, rapid fire feedback over teams during senior stakeholder meetings or at all staffs in which I am presenting. The feedback occurs at all hours of the day and night and sometimes on weekends. He actively seeks opportunities to admonish without fully understanding the context of situations that are, in large part, functions of how the business operates rather than anything within my control rather than attempting to solve for. He points the finger at individuals rather than trying to address organizational issues and career paths accordingly. When he reprimands with such zealotry as to appear unhinged, he is remorseful.


DP than the one you were responding to.

Meh. I don't need AI to write an expanded version. Some of us know what it feels like to get yelled at every day at work. No need for expanded jargon.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 16:10     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you read Bully Market? Or seen American Psycho? Wall Street before GFC was Masters of the Universe unhinged, with egos to match. Tech at least has a veneer of meritocracy and diversity (I mean there are a few non-white men running around).


But American Psycho was intended as satire, not documentary. It is real now. Or more real.


+1
Sigh. So much small dick energy in the workplace.


It's not lost on me that several of the worst tech executives I've known have been short men. Just sayin.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 16:08     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Work in big tech. Boss super stressed. Is just alternating between yelling, micromanaging, barking commands, cascading criticism then remorseful messages. My anxiety is through the roof. Am job hunting as fast as i can but i can only go so quickly. No idea what to do in the meantime (have considered FMLA but can only do so for so long)


Isn't that what every high paying tech job is like?


Can confirm. For $1M+ a year (comp + bonus + RSUs), I'll take my punches and live to see another day.
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 16:06     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:Im sorry.

My friend works at a nameless tech company that recently closed a $5.6B govt deal and 2 of her team mates had heart attacks within the last 6 months at 38 and 42.


Gonna drop this link right here for you https://futurumgroup.com/insights/will-the-u-s-armys-5-6b-salesforce-deal-set-the-standard-for-modernization/
Anonymous
Post 02/05/2026 16:03     Subject: I am essentially terrified at work
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:These do not seem like things to be terrified about. This post is totally ridiculous!
Are you 3 years old?


Your boss yelling at you every day in public and private would be just fine with you and rattle you in no way?


Let's just say i don't believe "yelling at me every day" is true. This is worded like a child wrote this.


op - ok how's this? He displays a consistent lack of emotional regulation and high disapproval expressed on a daily basis at volume both in person, publicly, privately and via written digital channels. This communication is channeled throughout the day on a rolling basis including during, for example, rapid fire feedback over teams during senior stakeholder meetings or at all staffs in which I am presenting. The feedback occurs at all hours of the day and night and sometimes on weekends. He actively seeks opportunities to admonish without fully understanding the context of situations that are, in large part, functions of how the business operates rather than anything within my control rather than attempting to solve for. He points the finger at individuals rather than trying to address organizational issues and career paths accordingly. When he reprimands with such zealotry as to appear unhinged, he is remorseful.

If this is the whining of a 3 year old to you then i feel very sorry for your colleagues.


I'm sorry OP. Are his bosses on any of these channels? Can they see that he's a tearer down and not a builder up (and certainly not a team player) and a quite bad boss using ineffective techniques. Or do they look at results. Results cannot be great in this env.