Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WHY IS NO ONE FOCUSING ON THE DH??

For something he did 30 years ago before he even dated his now wife?

Yeah he should have told her then or some time over the 30 YEARS he knew she was socializing with this friend.

Anonymous wrote:Thats not a friend.

And worse, that's not a husband.

The friend doesn’t pretend to be a bestie. It was the DHs obligation to say something

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WHY IS NO ONE FOCUSING ON THE DH??

Because this was before they even dated. I don’t care who slept with my husband before me. I am sure that he slept with some of his friends at the time that are now our friends.

Well then don’t be mad at the friend either. To me, my dh keeping a secret for 30 years is the bigger issue.

Thats not a friend.

And worse, that's not a husband.

She's a jerk and acting aggressive. She wants to take you down a notch or something. She probably feels envy towards you and/or is feeling terrible about her life. Or she wants to burst your bubble so you second-guess your husband. If your marriage is otherwise fine, I'd forget it but I think I'd drop this friend.

Sorry to derail, but all the PPs that say your friends have lost their filters, at what general age did this happen? 40s? 50s? I need to prepare myself for this!

I’m sorry OP, I would ignore your friend. This happened before you, and it doesn’t matter anymore. I personally don’t care who my DH has been with before me (and I’ve never asked him).

That's awful. She resents you for something and has for a long time . . . people get older and their filters often malfunction. I have a friend like this who lashes out on occasion (although nothing as egregious), and it has gotten worse the older he gets.

Anonymous wrote:WHY IS NO ONE FOCUSING ON THE DH??

Because this was before they even dated. I don’t care who slept with my husband before me. I am sure that he slept with some of his friends at the time that are now our friends.

Anonymous wrote:WHY IS NO ONE FOCUSING ON THE DH??

For something he did 30 years ago before he even dated his now wife?

Anonymous wrote:When you have a machiavellian on your hands, all resources must be diverted to them. The H is not a priority at the moment. He seems a bit clueless.

Uh no. He’s the husband, her life partner. This is a huge lie by omission. You people are nuts

When you have a machiavellian on your hands, all resources must be diverted to them. The H is not a priority at the moment. He seems a bit clueless.

WHY IS NO ONE FOCUSING ON THE DH??

She sounds like an unhappy drama queen! FWIW I know a couple of my husbands former girlfriends and never has anyone talked about the nature of those relationships. They are very nice women!

Was he just F-ing his way through your friend group? If he had slept with your mom or sister, would that have been relevant information to know? Why are you letting him off the hook for lying by admission about sleeping with your friends?

Anonymous wrote:Your friend is going through something and it is stirring up unprocessed emotions and insecurity within her that probably have nothing to do with you or your dh.

Probably this. Possibly some guilty feelings there too.