Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 18:12     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
OP doesn't have to buy her coworkers earbuds or a cooking class if she leaves. The kindness expected is to give a reasonable notice period and leave good documentation. Maybe send a nice email on your last day. Staff leaving is part of running a company. It's not the end of the world. OP, you need to do what is best for you. Apply for the job and decide what to do if you get it.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 18:07     Subject: Re:How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?


This is terrible and ridiculous advice. Good grief.


OK, if this is too much and I don't think it is but another possibility would be for OP to book a group-exercise like a cooking class for her and all her coworkers (inclusivity!). Something like that would really emphasize the teamwork and the value of being part of a team and hopefully produce some yummy food. If a cooking class doesn't appeal, perhaps a guided hike of a local area that ends with a fun group lunch that OP can pick up the tab on.


Are you on crack?
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 17:56     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Oh please. This is America: you are a free agent. There is NO guarantee of anything in any job here, no protections etc.

If you don’t go ahead and apply…
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 17:52     Subject: Re:How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?


This is terrible and ridiculous advice. Good grief.


OK, if this is too much and I don't think it is but another possibility would be for OP to book a group-exercise like a cooking class for her and all her coworkers (inclusivity!). Something like that would really emphasize the teamwork and the value of being part of a team and hopefully produce some yummy food. If a cooking class doesn't appeal, perhaps a guided hike of a local area that ends with a fun group lunch that OP can pick up the tab on.

You have to be trolling. Enough already.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 14:59     Subject: Re:How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?


This is terrible and ridiculous advice. Good grief.


OK, if this is too much and I don't think it is but another possibility would be for OP to book a group-exercise like a cooking class for her and all her coworkers (inclusivity!). Something like that would really emphasize the teamwork and the value of being part of a team and hopefully produce some yummy food. If a cooking class doesn't appeal, perhaps a guided hike of a local area that ends with a fun group lunch that OP can pick up the tab on.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:48     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You could take your team out for a goodbye lunch. I think swag gags are inappropriate. It’s sounds like you’re in a high-ish paying industry where who wants ear buds has them. I personally have food restrictions, so being given food usually leaves me a little sad.

Even if I made $40,000 a year, if my departing coworker pulled an Oprah and was like, YOU get airpods and YOU get airpods and YOU GET AIRPODS!!!! on her last day, that would be super weird. Like, are you trying to buy us off so we're not annoyed?


Even a lunch on your last day is weird. I’ve been here a year but I’m throwing myself a going away party! Weird.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:45     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:You could take your team out for a goodbye lunch. I think swag gags are inappropriate. It’s sounds like you’re in a high-ish paying industry where who wants ear buds has them. I personally have food restrictions, so being given food usually leaves me a little sad.


Taking them out for your own goodbye lunch or party is inappropriate and makes you look like an egomaniac
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:41     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Only women ask these questions
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:40     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:The only thing I don’t understand is the DH part. What does his opinion have to do with anything

OP It really doesn't, but I was perseverating over it for a couple days and finally he was like, you should just do it.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:39     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
The only thing I don’t understand is the DH part. What does his opinion have to do with anything
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:36     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wanna hear more about the drama.

OP There's no drama. I sometimes get annoyed at the lack of professionalism - i.e. "Did you see my Teams message?" "Oh, ha, no Idk how to use Teams so I didn't see it." when something is urgent - and the disorganization but I have no interpersonal drama.

The only thing I find super weird is the other new coworker recently found out they check entrance video cameras to confirm we're coming in when we say we come in? Which I find incredibly weird and offputting if true but I have no way of confirming and can't be like, "Hey, do you do this?" because then I look like I'm trying to hide something lol.


Do you have to swipe in for work? Im sure employers are tracking swipes.

OP here - No, ha! My coworker who told me this was actually like, "I would rather they just have us swipe in."

There is a weird hyperfixation on us all being in the office two days a week. I find it super odd but again, it's only two days so it's not that big a deal.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:14     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
When a company has economic hardship, they will drop you like a bad habit. The only thing you owe them is your commitment to do the job as best you can while employed, and its considerate to give some notice when you leave provided they treated you decent. Thats it, other than that you do whats in your best interest.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2026 09:29     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wanna hear more about the drama.

OP There's no drama. I sometimes get annoyed at the lack of professionalism - i.e. "Did you see my Teams message?" "Oh, ha, no Idk how to use Teams so I didn't see it." when something is urgent - and the disorganization but I have no interpersonal drama.

The only thing I find super weird is the other new coworker recently found out they check entrance video cameras to confirm we're coming in when we say we come in? Which I find incredibly weird and offputting if true but I have no way of confirming and can't be like, "Hey, do you do this?" because then I look like I'm trying to hide something lol.


Do you have to swipe in for work? Im sure employers are tracking swipes.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2026 09:26     Subject: Re:How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:OP, if you do accept the new job, could you maybe buy $100 gift cards for all your former co-workers, or maybe pay for a really nice catered dinner in a fun restaurant, put together swag bags with earbuds, gift cards, etc.?


This is terrible and ridiculous advice. Good grief.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2026 17:56     Subject: How shitty would I be to do this
Anonymous wrote:Apply. You have to do what's best for you.

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