Our house is still the house all my son’s friends come to over college breaks. They don’t drink and leave by midnight. We both WAH and I have no problem being in pjs watching Netflix with spouse while they’re down in basement.

We do not have a big house and it’s nowhere the nicest and I’m glad they like coming over—some since kindergarten !

We are that house too - where all of DDs friends hang out. We just had 7 girls spend the night last night. While I don't love the mess, I put up with it because we only have 1.5 years left before she goes to college. That said, I would draw the line at a kitten sleeping over.

Anonymous wrote:OP the irony of you criticizing other peoples' parenting....

My teen DD has friends over not a ton, but occasionally, and knows damn well this is subject to my approval and there are parameters. And she knows better to think she's going out on dates and socializing days on end while she's not putting in full effort at school.

FFS.

You are not very bright, are you? You cannot possibly equate a parent’s difficulty setting boundaries, to another parent’s negligence to the safety of their children.

Unless you also let your teen kids be out and about, God knows where, at 1 or 2am in the morning without even making sure they have a safe ride home.

I would tell her that she cannot have friends over on weeknights during the school year. My parents had that rule for several reasons and I lived to tell about it. She can see them at school and on weekends.

OP the irony of you criticizing other peoples' parenting....

My teen DD has friends over not a ton, but occasionally, and knows damn well this is subject to my approval and there are parameters. And she knows better to think she's going out on dates and socializing days on end while she's not putting in full effort at school.

FFS.

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Anonymous wrote:I would wear whatever I wanted in my house - ragged PJs, an LED mask, a 2006-era going out top from the back of my closet, whatever suits me at that moment. Your daughter can adjust if that becomes awkward for her guests.

Gross I just can’t

Mission accomplished

This is not a problem to be as miffed as you are about. Enforce the boundaries, meaning tell the children, sorry but you need to leave now. Otherwise calm down.

Anonymous wrote:I would wear whatever I wanted in my house - ragged PJs, an LED mask, a 2006-era going out top from the back of my closet, whatever suits me at that moment. Your daughter can adjust if that becomes awkward for her guests.

Gross I just can’t

I’m not a strict parent by any means and I always welcome my kids friends. They have 5 friends over right now and this has been the norm all week. But I would never allow their pets in my house. Not ever. You have got to draw some boundaries.

This idiot defending the adjective myriad is hilarious

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Anonymous wrote:The usage, “a myriad,” is incorrect and emblematic of one’s poor grammar.

“A myriad of reasons” is correct ando so is “myriad reasons” (without the an and the of).

If you don’t believe me, Google it.

Just because enough clueless people have started using it incorrectly for others to adopt that incorrect usage does not make it correct (and yes, I know language evolves, blah blah blah). But I will die on this hill. It would be like saying, "I have a various of reasons." Myriad and various follow the same grammatical pattern.

No, you are wrong. Using it as a noun actually came FIRST, around 1555. Using it as an adjective, is more recent. I’m sorry you don’t know your own language.

Anonymous wrote:Please I beg you, be the open home, before she ends up being somewhere else all the time. Be thankful she has friends she feels comfortable enough to bring over. You know she's safe and who she is with. It will be over so soon.

This!!!!

I grew up in a horribly dysfunctional family and I’m so grateful my friend’s parents were patient with me. I slept over at other houses many, many nights and my parents never drove me. I either walked or biked. Anyways, at age 43 I still love my friend’s mom and spend more time with her than my own parents. I know it must be very annoying and you have every right to set boundaries and expectations with your DD. Just giving a different perspective that these other teens really may be in a tough spot and you are doing a good deed letting them in your home.

I would wear whatever I wanted in my house - ragged PJs, an LED mask, a 2006-era going out top from the back of my closet, whatever suits me at that moment. Your daughter can adjust if that becomes awkward for her guests.

Anonymous wrote:Tbe teen years are hard OP. I’d have been ok with a one night sleepover but not this ongoing situation.
You gotta put your foot down.

Why? We have always been the house to go to and I love it. Just because some of you never want to host, get to know their friends or be involved in their lives - that's on you.

And OP - complaining that the 11yr old did more shoveling. That is a YOU problem. It is much easier for me to have an app with chores or at least text them. If they are done and correctly, she can have people over. If not, oh well.

Have boundaries, but also realize she wants her friends there. In your home and that should mean something to you. It isn't hard at all to host teens. Mine are always in the basement or her bedroom. If they cook or bake, they have to clean it all up. Simple. And a lot of the times we end up playing board games or I make massive amounts of cookies and they hang out and I can hear about their lives. I have 2 in college. You will miss this. Get a handle on parenting but also let her have friends over with set decisions on who is getting rides etc....