Anonymous wrote:What should be given if you're not invited to the wedding? I know it's not required to give anything.

Congratulations. Hugs.

If I’m not invited I’m not close enough to the couple to give a gift. That goes for coworkers too.

A lot goes into a wedding gift consideration. How old are they, how much did they spend on the event? I’m not giving some cheap gift to someone who invited me somewhere fancy. Also not giving a gift at all to a younger couple, I’d give them cash because that’s what they really need and want. Older couple with a backyard wedding reception are probably getting a cheaper gift from me.

Anonymous wrote:What should be given if you're not invited to the wedding? I know it's not required to give anything.

Just a nice card

What should be given if you're not invited to the wedding? I know it's not required to give anything.

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Anonymous wrote:As much as you can afford and as close as you are to the couple. Anything from $100-$1000. However, standard minimum is to cover your plates.

Terrible advice. Don’t give more to people just because they’re throwing an expensive wedding.

+1

This "cover your plate" stuff is not a real rule of etiquette. It has some value to the extent it's geared at clueing in people like cheap-ass aunt Larla who is worth 8M but brings a $20 pepper mill to the wedding, wrapped in white paper with a white bow.

well, that’s how come she has so much

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Anonymous wrote:I got married a couple years ago. Couples averaged $200-250. Very generous! We did have some who did not bring a gift at all which was so tacky.

I literally think asking for gifts is tacky. I didn't even have a registry for my wedding and told my friends not to worry about gifts. You don't have to participate in the wedding industrial complex, and if you do, you don't get to call people tacky for not clicking on your kitchen crap on a registry, especially when, like someone already said, you likely already have a fully outfitted kitchen.

Who would ask for gifts for a wedding? In my culture the registry is for the engagement.

Cultures who don't do cash.

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Anonymous wrote:I got married a couple years ago. Couples averaged $200-250. Very generous! We did have some who did not bring a gift at all which was so tacky.

I literally think asking for gifts is tacky. I didn't even have a registry for my wedding and told my friends not to worry about gifts. You don't have to participate in the wedding industrial complex, and if you do, you don't get to call people tacky for not clicking on your kitchen crap on a registry, especially when, like someone already said, you likely already have a fully outfitted kitchen.

Who would ask for gifts for a wedding? In my culture the registry is for the engagement.

$100. If I don't go, $0.