Anonymous
Post 01/22/2026 20:08     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the PSA should be:

USE YOUR WORDS!

If you want something specific done or given on that day, make it crystal clear.

"Larlo, I want you to buy me X. It looks like this, and you can get it at Y store. Here's the link."

"Larlo, can we try restaurant Z? I'll make the reservation."

Stop waiting around expecting another human to read your mind.



OP here. I can read your spouse’s mind 99% of the time.

- hire a sitter
- make a plan to get a meal
- write a nice card
If you are planning to do it a different day, then communicate that.

Other than that:
Women: get your spouse something sexual
Men: give your wife something romantic



I don't know who you think you're speaking for, but I'm a woman and I don't want something romantic for Valentine's Day.


OP here. Really? If your husband, gave you something romantic, say, a love poem he wrote for you, and he gave it to you on Valentine’s Day, you would tell him you didn’t want it? Why?



I didn't say I would reject something from him, I'm saying I don't want it, as in I'm not looking for it.

My husband writes me very nice things (not poems, honestly I'm not into poetry so that's fine with me), and gives them to me throughout the year. I'd rather he do that when he feels like it than be forced to do it on a particular day of the year.

But if you want to keep arguing for the sake of arguing, go ahead. I'll stay in my happy marriage and make it to the other side of February 14 just fine, regardless of what happens on that day.


OP here. Wait wait. This isn’t a list of what you should EXPECT your spouse to do for you. This is a list of things you could do for your spouse.

I thought you were telling me that I shouldn’t have told men to do something romantic because their wives would reject it.

What’s the point of saying that you aren’t on the lookout for a romantic gift from your husband? Who is?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2026 18:50     Subject: Re:PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Hmmm...I think I will throw a party on Friday, the 13th. - for single and not-single friends.

Catered food, booze and games.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2026 18:47     Subject: Re:PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Well, thank you for your reminder.

I (DW) have made reservations for dinner for two. Don't want wine, perfume, chocolates, lingerie, jewelry, BOBs, teddy bears, cards or flowers.

I have also scheduled getting my house deep-cleaned on 13th Feb. Maybe on 7th, I will get a mani-pedi, color and haircut.

Anonymous
Post 01/22/2026 18:21     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the PSA should be:

USE YOUR WORDS!

If you want something specific done or given on that day, make it crystal clear.

"Larlo, I want you to buy me X. It looks like this, and you can get it at Y store. Here's the link."

"Larlo, can we try restaurant Z? I'll make the reservation."

Stop waiting around expecting another human to read your mind.



OP here. I can read your spouse’s mind 99% of the time.

- hire a sitter
- make a plan to get a meal
- write a nice card
If you are planning to do it a different day, then communicate that.

Other than that:
Women: get your spouse something sexual
Men: give your wife something romantic



I don't know who you think you're speaking for, but I'm a woman and I don't want something romantic for Valentine's Day.


OP here. Really? If your husband, gave you something romantic, say, a love poem he wrote for you, and he gave it to you on Valentine’s Day, you would tell him you didn’t want it? Why?



I didn't say I would reject something from him, I'm saying I don't want it, as in I'm not looking for it.

My husband writes me very nice things (not poems, honestly I'm not into poetry so that's fine with me), and gives them to me throughout the year. I'd rather he do that when he feels like it than be forced to do it on a particular day of the year.

But if you want to keep arguing for the sake of arguing, go ahead. I'll stay in my happy marriage and make it to the other side of February 14 just fine, regardless of what happens on that day.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2026 11:00     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the PSA should be:

USE YOUR WORDS!

If you want something specific done or given on that day, make it crystal clear.

"Larlo, I want you to buy me X. It looks like this, and you can get it at Y store. Here's the link."

"Larlo, can we try restaurant Z? I'll make the reservation."

Stop waiting around expecting another human to read your mind.



OP here. I can read your spouse’s mind 99% of the time.

- hire a sitter
- make a plan to get a meal
- write a nice card
If you are planning to do it a different day, then communicate that.

Other than that:
Women: get your spouse something sexual
Men: give your wife something romantic



I don't know who you think you're speaking for, but I'm a woman and I don't want something romantic for Valentine's Day.


OP here. Really? If your husband, gave you something romantic, say, a love poem he wrote for you, and he gave it to you on Valentine’s Day, you would tell him you didn’t want it? Why?

Anonymous
Post 01/21/2026 09:57     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:Happily married 26 years with one teen. Haven’t done anything for valentines in probably twenty years. Dh and I have a cocktail together in our formal living room every night of the year that we’re not traveling and I wear high end French lingerie every day of the year that I’m not on my period. We both do nice things for each other all the time. Valentines seems like a day for people who aren’t normally happy to pretend to be happy?


Yep, this.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2026 08:42     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Happily married 26 years with one teen. Haven’t done anything for valentines in probably twenty years. Dh and I have a cocktail together in our formal living room every night of the year that we’re not traveling and I wear high end French lingerie every day of the year that I’m not on my period. We both do nice things for each other all the time. Valentines seems like a day for people who aren’t normally happy to pretend to be happy?
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2026 08:34     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:People over 21 go all out for this “holiday?”


I'm 46 and haven't celebrated Valentine's Day for many, many years. Happily married for over 15 years with two kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2026 08:33     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the PSA should be:

USE YOUR WORDS!

If you want something specific done or given on that day, make it crystal clear.

"Larlo, I want you to buy me X. It looks like this, and you can get it at Y store. Here's the link."

"Larlo, can we try restaurant Z? I'll make the reservation."

Stop waiting around expecting another human to read your mind.



OP here. I can read your spouse’s mind 99% of the time.

- hire a sitter
- make a plan to get a meal
- write a nice card
If you are planning to do it a different day, then communicate that.

Other than that:
Women: get your spouse something sexual
Men: give your wife something romantic



I don't know who you think you're speaking for, but I'm a woman and I don't want something romantic for Valentine's Day.
Anonymous
Post 01/20/2026 08:16     Subject: Re:PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is buying me a very nice bracelet and a trip to Turks & Caicos.


I hope for his sake that you are super hot and will put out like crazy on the T&C trip. Twice per day minimum - first thing in the morning and then a mid-afternoon beach break. Pack some cute bikini's for the beach and some nice silk pajamas (leave the bottoms home!) for in your room. The beaches are sheer white and the ocean water is crystal clear - the beaches are some of the most beautiful in the world. Enjoy!


I am and I'm sure gonna try!
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2026 22:37     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Time to make a reservation, hire a babysitter, shop for a gift, order new lingerie!
You’re on your phone screwing around anyway. Just do it now .

the one holiday that reminds us we are single



So go grab some friends and make Galentine’s plans, or do a kindness for friends and offer to babysit their kids!
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2026 22:14     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:People over 21 go all out for this “holiday?”

I think it is primarily people who don't typically go out to eat a lot, or don't buy each other nice things on the regular.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2026 22:01     Subject: Re:PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
I actually love the day after Valentine’s Day……

I love going to the store & seeing all that chocolate 🍫 candy on sale!

Yum!
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2026 20:40     Subject: PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Consumerism at its worst! I forbid my DH from getting me anything 😁 we’ll have a nice dinner at home and bottle of wine together though.



Stop being a curmudgeon. If you are at a point in your relationship where dinner with your spouse and a glass of wine is a special event and not a “good way to end a Tuesday,” then you REALLY need to go out.


DP, I also love a date night at home. We usually grill steaks and open a bottle (or 2) of really nice wine. We've been happily married for almost 25 years and have been doing this since we started dating in our early (for me) and mid (for him) 20's.
Anonymous
Post 01/19/2026 18:26     Subject: Re:PSA: Valentines Day is in four weeks
Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend is buying me a very nice bracelet and a trip to Turks & Caicos.


I hope for his sake that you are super hot and will put out like crazy on the T&C trip. Twice per day minimum - first thing in the morning and then a mid-afternoon beach break. Pack some cute bikini's for the beach and some nice silk pajamas (leave the bottoms home!) for in your room. The beaches are sheer white and the ocean water is crystal clear - the beaches are some of the most beautiful in the world. Enjoy!