Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD, 16, is in charge of getting her own clothes within a budget. Her clothes have enough coverage but they’re just so ugly! Dresses with weird shapes and colors. Pantsuits with odd proportions. Combining pants and shirts, both with very “bold” patterns. I fear she might get bullied or it might stop her from making friends. Do I intervene?

I bet what is at bottom here is whether these items are flattering on her figure. If she is busty or a little overweight these fashion forward choices just look frumpy and alternative-reaching in a sad way. Oversized/odd always plays better on the waifs. Pay for a personal trainer and take her shopping at Alo.

You got it mixed up. Teens and adults should dress in clothes that fit and look good on them. The questionable mothers want to accentuate what they think is a positive. If their daughter has a 24” waist they go to Alo and buy tight crop tops.

You don’t go to Alo if your teen loves bright colors and original clothing. Leisurewear has zero originality.

I’d love to hear from OP about the stores and brands her daughter loves.

Anonymous wrote:My kids have to dress well and groom well to look above average. Thankfully, they are very vain.

Yes, right now the look is very much the thrift store finds...(or it looks like it is from thrift stores), but I keep telling my kids that they must look good in their clothes and that they must dress well for the occasion and audience.

Who decides if they look good or not?

Anonymous wrote:DD, 16, is in charge of getting her own clothes within a budget. Her clothes have enough coverage but they’re just so ugly! Dresses with weird shapes and colors. Pantsuits with odd proportions. Combining pants and shirts, both with very “bold” patterns. I fear she might get bullied or it might stop her from making friends. Do I intervene?

I bet what is at bottom here is whether these items are flattering on her figure. If she is busty or a little overweight these fashion forward choices just look frumpy and alternative-reaching in a sad way. Oversized/odd always plays better on the waifs. Pay for a personal trainer and take her shopping at Alo.

My kids have to dress well and groom well to look above average. Thankfully, they are very vain.

Yes, right now the look is very much the thrift store finds...(or it looks like it is from thrift stores), but I keep telling my kids that they must look good in their clothes and that they must dress well for the occasion and audience.

Anonymous wrote:Photos posted on Social by peers might not be in your kids best interest.

Oh you were one of THOSE in HS. Time you grew out of it, don't you think?

Photos posted on Social by peers might not be in your kids best interest.