I am fifty-six.

Two thus far.

Both from cancer.

Most recent was my best(est❣️) friend from childhood.
Passed three mos. ago. 💔💔💔

Seems like the question is circle of friends - there are people I wasn’t friends with but went to HS or college with - a heart attack in early 40’s with a Hs acquaintance and a rare leukemia with college acquaintance in his 30’s when he had 2 very young kids. I had a work friend die of Covid at 39 in 2020 right when it hit. Had just had a baby. There are more people in my different larger communities but I wouldn’t call them friends. I am 45. I also agree with the PP who said get your colonoscopies. I had my first in my 20’s for symptoms and it saved my life. I’m now on a 5 year schedule.

54. 5 have died. A suicide, 2 from cancer at 50, one COVID at 48, one car accident.

I’m 60. 4 have died in my various friend groups over the past 5 + years.
Metastatic breast cancer, prostate cancer, drug/ alcohol abuse, stroke.

50. No one in my close circle of friends has died (thinking about close high school, college, and adult friends).

Mostly, I am starting to go to the funerals of my close friends' parents.

None. I am 60.

I have not had any friends die. My DH would have died from colon cancer if it weren't for his first colonoscopy at age 50. If you're 45 definitely go out one. A few neighbors have died from colon cancer around the same age.

Anonymous wrote:57

Me, 5
FTD died at 50
Cancer but died of COVID at 60
Cancer died at 70
Heart attack at 55
Covid at 53

h
suicide at 57
Cancer at 57
Accidental death at 58
Accidental death at 48

(3 were in the last 2 months)

All the accidental deaths freak me out. Life feels so fragile. This is not helping my anxiety or over-protectiveness.

I’m 45. Lost one good friend to colon cancer last year (she was also 45) and DH’s very close friend was stabbed to death by an acquaintance a few years ago. We still think of him often and miss him dearly.

Anonymous wrote:This thread scares me so much

Good reminder to make sure your trust, will, power of attorney, health surrogate, etc are all in place.

Also, if a lot of your financial life is online only, consider how your trustee or executer would find all your asset accounts, monthly bills, insurances, etc should you and your spouse be killed together in an accident. Remind them yearly of where they can find all your legal papers and know all the accounts to access in order to pay off your final debts and sell your assets and arrange care for any children. You might even stash $5K somewhere safe in your house and tell them how to get it, so they can cover some of the initial expenses, as all your accounts will be frozen until the estate starts to get settled.

If only one spouse does all the bills, this spouse should make a financial instruction list, how to access account passwords, and what bills to pay monthly, quarterly and yearly, so the grieving spouse has an easier time taking everything over.

Early 30s. One close friend died while we were in high school due to car accident she was a passenger in. No one else, but two close calls with aggressive breast cancer and brain cancer. In remission now for both of them.

Early 60's. One just-retired guy, died in Hawaii surfing, during an introductory surfing lesson. One dear neighbor from breast cancer, a friend who probably brought-on liver disease from drinking too much alcohol though none of us thought of her as an alcoholic. The worst have been parents (60s-70s) who have lost adult children. I guess drug use though the young adults looked ok. Minimally, some degree of reckless behavior.

I'm early 60's. My brother died of AIDS in his 30's. 2 HS classmates met the same fate. One of my close friends died recently of multiple health issues relating the having Hodgkins in his 20s, but he was close to 70 so he lived a longer life than expected. Several college classmates died young from breast cancer, other cancers, suicide.

I am going to more funerals these days but most of them are for parents of friends or older colleagues, not younger people.

57

Me, 5
FTD died at 50
Cancer but died of COVID at 60
Cancer died at 70
Heart attack at 55
Covid at 53

h
suicide at 57
Cancer at 57
Accidental death at 58
Accidental death at 48

(3 were in the last 2 months)

Anonymous wrote:So many suicides.

Yes 2 suicides heartbreaking
1 work friend, female, mid50s
Another, a dad late 40s