Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 10:49     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
I came here to read about my menopause symptoms and saw this thread. I’m shocked that I just realized it has been over 10 months since I last had sex with my DH. Needless to say I’m worried but I’m going to try to surprise him soon. I also started looking into HRT. Fingers crossed.
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 08:08     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:In keeping with the prior recommendation to watch some smut, you can also read some smut.
Works pretty well.
Here’s some relatively mainstream free fanfic to start with, and the stories are legitimately cute:
https://archiveofourown.org/works/34500952
https://archiveofourown.org/works/38829984


If erotic literature is more interesting to you, then a free, open-access site is

Literotica

If you are shy about using Google to search for it, just do a search on DuckDuckGo
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2026 19:28     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:My wife has no desire to do vaginal sex but she likes a**l in the mornings so I just turn her over and that's the way we start our day.


This is good too. I enjoy both so DH can pick and choose.
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2026 21:05     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
My wife has no desire to do vaginal sex but she likes a**l in the mornings so I just turn her over and that's the way we start our day.
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2026 17:36     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:I once read that the more you have sex, the more you want it.
This thread seems to debunk that.


That is probably true but some people just have no desire to do anything and that frustrates other partner.
Anonymous
Post 01/28/2026 13:40     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
I once read that the more you have sex, the more you want it.
This thread seems to debunk that.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 12:41     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
some people just have sexual relationships outside of the marriages and it is very common.
Anonymous
Post 01/26/2026 10:59     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve almost given up. At this point I just have a roommate and kids. 0 passion 0 intimacy 0 playfulness. I realize I’m not perfect, but I try. There is no effort on her side. I can fool myself and say it is me. But when I look at it from the outside, I can honestly say it is her. I work out, I keep myself well groomed, well dressed. I’m playful and flirt. I do the other things as my part of managing the home and kids. How do I approach this? Is this fixable?


Stay strong


depends on both of your ages, PP. I guess you can ask her if she is ok in you sleeping around?


I’m starting to hear a lot of people do this.
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 20:02     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve almost given up. At this point I just have a roommate and kids. 0 passion 0 intimacy 0 playfulness. I realize I’m not perfect, but I try. There is no effort on her side. I can fool myself and say it is me. But when I look at it from the outside, I can honestly say it is her. I work out, I keep myself well groomed, well dressed. I’m playful and flirt. I do the other things as my part of managing the home and kids. How do I approach this? Is this fixable?


Stay strong


depends on both of your ages, PP. I guess you can ask her if she is ok in you sleeping around?
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 17:59     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:I’ve almost given up. At this point I just have a roommate and kids. 0 passion 0 intimacy 0 playfulness. I realize I’m not perfect, but I try. There is no effort on her side. I can fool myself and say it is me. But when I look at it from the outside, I can honestly say it is her. I work out, I keep myself well groomed, well dressed. I’m playful and flirt. I do the other things as my part of managing the home and kids. How do I approach this? Is this fixable?


Stay strong
Anonymous
Post 01/25/2026 10:21     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:I’ve almost given up. At this point I just have a roommate and kids. 0 passion 0 intimacy 0 playfulness. I realize I’m not perfect, but I try. There is no effort on her side. I can fool myself and say it is me. But when I look at it from the outside, I can honestly say it is her. I work out, I keep myself well groomed, well dressed. I’m playful and flirt. I do the other things as my part of managing the home and kids. How do I approach this? Is this fixable?


That's tough, bruh! It is more in her head than medical I think. How old are you guys and what is her explanation about it?
Anonymous
Post 01/24/2026 22:49     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
I’ve almost given up. At this point I just have a roommate and kids. 0 passion 0 intimacy 0 playfulness. I realize I’m not perfect, but I try. There is no effort on her side. I can fool myself and say it is me. But when I look at it from the outside, I can honestly say it is her. I work out, I keep myself well groomed, well dressed. I’m playful and flirt. I do the other things as my part of managing the home and kids. How do I approach this? Is this fixable?
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2026 23:49     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
In keeping with the prior recommendation to watch some smut, you can also read some smut.
Works pretty well.
Here’s some relatively mainstream free fanfic to start with, and the stories are legitimately cute:
https://archiveofourown.org/works/34500952
https://archiveofourown.org/works/38829984
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2026 15:20     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:women’s desire is responsive so unless your DH is treating you really well in all realms, that’s where you should look to improve before you medicate yourself to please him.


This is so untrue. It is both partners responsibility to take care of each other and also to seek help medically or via therapy if needed.


DP. +1000

And the person you responded to is acting like there is zero hormonal component here, when most of the time, women’s libido drops off in Peru and or menopause (though, of course, there are exceptions).


Some people have no idea or could even figure out what someone else is going through and they just try to project their experience on everyone. Thanks, PP.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2026 11:55     Subject: No libido or desire for sex
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:women’s desire is responsive so unless your DH is treating you really well in all realms, that’s where you should look to improve before you medicate yourself to please him.


This is so untrue. It is both partners responsibility to take care of each other and also to seek help medically or via therapy if needed.


DP. +1000

And the person you responded to is acting like there is zero hormonal component here, when most of the time, women’s libido drops off in Peru and or menopause (though, of course, there are exceptions).