Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 16:44     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
If I don't order my own cake OR tell my husband exactly what I want, I get whatever cheap gross cake my husband saw first at the grocery store.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 16:42     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
“ Not normal. It would be like buying your own presents.”

I’m divorced and my kids are off at college (and not great planners). Of course I buy my own presents, or birthday cake, stocking stuffers, or whatever else I would like. Should I really rather sit around and feel bad that no one is doing these things for me???
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 16:05     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Not at all
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 15:41     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was telling a coworker that I would let her know how the cakes turn out from the Harris Teeter near our office since I ordered myself a birthday cake from there. She acted as if it was the saddest thing she had heard. She phrased her response as if nor my family or husband were unable to order it for me.

I’ve always ordered myself a cake. I never realized people’s spouses did the ordering for something as simple as a birthday cake?!.



We are living in a pandemic of obesity, diabetes and cardiovascular diseases, this trend of celebrating with cake and booze needs to end.


Let's all promise to never give PP cake or champagne
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 15:38     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Anonymous wrote:Not normal. It would be like buying your own presents.


I think this is like the posts on Mother's Day - if you have a great marriage then getting your own cake isn't an issue. If you have a crappy marriage then having to buy your own cake is just one more thing your spouse doesn't do for you and it stings.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 15:36     Subject: Re:I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
I don't think it's strange. My husband does get my birthday cake every year but it's from an inconvenient place so he handles the whole thing because it's a hassle. But if you're placing the HT order anyway and add the cake, I don't think that's an issue. Sounds like maybe she was projecting or is insecure.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 11:02     Subject: Re:I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
No I do not think it is strange but I think many people on this forum would disagree w/me on this & claim that anyone who orders their own birthday 🎂 cake is a pathetic human being!

Ha!
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:55     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Anonymous wrote:DH once asked what cake I Ike. I told him. He didn’t get the right one so now I pick up the cake I like. It’s not a big deal. It’s not ike my birthday is a surprise.


I don't understand the psychology of this. First off, he should know what cake you like without asking. Second off, fine, he didn't know and specifically asked you. YOU specifically told him. And yet, he still went and bought the wrong thing. If my DH told me what cake he wanted, I would get that cake. Like, I don't get how you get the cake wrong?
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:53     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not normal. It would be like buying your own presents.


A lot of uptight harpies on here do that, too. And are proud of it. It's part of their misandry.


LOL. So to review:
If your spouse gets you nothing or a bad gift, being disappointed is unfair because he's "not a mind reader."
If you remind him or hint, you're nagging and selfish.
And if you do it yourself, that's misandry.

Got it.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:37     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Anonymous wrote:Not normal. It would be like buying your own presents.


A lot of uptight harpies on here do that, too. And are proud of it. It's part of their misandry.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:37     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Anonymous wrote:I was telling a coworker that I would let her know how the cakes turn out from the Harris Teeter near our office since I ordered myself a birthday cake from there. She acted as if it was the saddest thing she had heard. She phrased her response as if nor my family or husband were unable to order it for me.

I’ve always ordered myself a cake. I never realized people’s spouses did the ordering for something as simple as a birthday cake?!.


I mean, are you a Type A controlling person?
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:33     Subject: Re:I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
When I lived abroad, Germany, the custom was the person whose birthday it was would bring in a cake to share and celebrate. If you didn't want to celebrate your birthday, you simply didn't bring in a cake.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:28     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
OP if this works for you it's perfectly fine. So many people are rude and have no filter. That's the problem.

If you want DH or others to get you a cake, that's of course reasonable too. But the coworker was rude.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:15     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
Anonymous wrote:I was telling a coworker that I would let her know how the cakes turn out from the Harris Teeter near our office since I ordered myself a birthday cake from there. She acted as if it was the saddest thing she had heard. She phrased her response as if nor my family or husband were unable to order it for me.

I’ve always ordered myself a cake. I never realized people’s spouses did the ordering for something as simple as a birthday cake?!.


I have 100 percent ordered myself bday cakes!! I get what I want that way. My family doesn’t mind.
Anonymous
Post 01/11/2026 10:04     Subject: I ordered myself a birthday cake .. is that strange?
DH once asked what cake I Ike. I told him. He didn’t get the right one so now I pick up the cake I like. It’s not a big deal. It’s not ike my birthday is a surprise.