Anonymous wrote:My favorite part of being well off is helping my less stable, eclectic, maybe slightly mentally ill, but dear friends, out. I would do this in a heartbeat but my friends also aren't bad people, I just have a few who don't really succeed in society. I would put a time limit on it and probably visit once if I can to just check on her and the vibe. We have a ski house (its more like a cabin, not one of these 1.5 million dollar Big Bear estates, its rather primitive) that we have let people use many times over life hurdles. I regret none of it.

"Jane, you can totally use the beach house as a reprieve. Its all yours till March 29th. Can you check on A,B,C (I would pick a few simple yet helpful tasks to give her a stake in it and not feel like a total leech) and let me know if you need anything, can I come the last weekend in Feb for a girls wknd?"

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Anonymous wrote:My old childhood best friend is currently displaced. She is not working and was living with her mom but the family home had a problem and they all had to move out.

I have a long history with this friend spanning decades. She was my maid of honor, threw me my baby shower and was my BFF until about a decade ago. She got divorced and basically ghosted me for many years. Since Covid, we met up twice. I send her a Christmas card and she may text how much our kids have grown. We bought a beach house last year and I spent a weekend with her there this past summer and that was the first and last time I saw her in 4 years.

Our beach house sits vacant. We don’t rent it out but we’re considering renting it out this summer. We could probably get $1k per night for the house during peak summer months. We have yet to let anyone go there without us.

Has she asked? What if she moves in and doesn’t move out?

They've known each other since childhood and were close until their 30s. OP should be able to make a judgment call on whether this is a real risk. I don't know her friend, but there are no red flags in the post. Now, if her friend is an addict who is spiraling, it's a different story. Or she's a klepto. Or she's messy or disrespectful of other people's property. But if she's trying to put herself back together after a bad divorce, maybe struggling with depression as a result, then yes, absolutely, I would absolutely help a friend in those circumstances. I can't believe how many people wouldn't do this for a best friend. My friends have shown up for me in hard times, too. This is how friendship works. What is all that money for if you can't use it to help out a friend in a crisis? She may be the person sitting by you in 15 years when you are in chemo.

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Anonymous wrote:My old childhood best friend is currently displaced. She is not working and was living with her mom but the family home had a problem and they all had to move out.

I have a long history with this friend spanning decades. She was my maid of honor, threw me my baby shower and was my BFF until about a decade ago. She got divorced and basically ghosted me for many years. Since Covid, we met up twice. I send her a Christmas card and she may text how much our kids have grown. We bought a beach house last year and I spent a weekend with her there this past summer and that was the first and last time I saw her in 4 years.

Our beach house sits vacant. We don’t rent it out but we’re considering renting it out this summer. We could probably get $1k per night for the house during peak summer months. We have yet to let anyone go there without us.

Has she asked? What if she moves in and doesn’t move out?

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Anonymous wrote:Can’t tell if OP’s family intends to use the beach house this spring or summer or it’s supposed to be an investment property.

Sounds like neither, just sits there vacant. Interesting. Like a Troll House.

We would likely go in the spring and summer. This past year, we went during spring (extended family spring break), Memorial Day, summer and Labor Day. Have not been back since but will probably go sometime in March or April.

Anonymous wrote:My old childhood best friend is currently displaced. She is not working and was living with her mom but the family home had a problem and they all had to move out.

I have a long history with this friend spanning decades. She was my maid of honor, threw me my baby shower and was my BFF until about a decade ago. She got divorced and basically ghosted me for many years. Since Covid, we met up twice. I send her a Christmas card and she may text how much our kids have grown. We bought a beach house last year and I spent a weekend with her there this past summer and that was the first and last time I saw her in 4 years.

Our beach house sits vacant. We don’t rent it out but we’re considering renting it out this summer. We could probably get $1k per night for the house during peak summer months. We have yet to let anyone go there without us.

Anonymous wrote:Make something up- broken pipes, renovation, relatives get pissed, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of problem did her current house have Op?

Is her mom looking for free housing as well? Anyone else in the “family home”?

Was this her idea or heavily hinted at in an email or call from her?

The idea was heavily hinted in two phone calls.

Before her marriage and divorce, we used to hang out all the time, vacation together, celebrate birthdays, etc. I was also her maid of honor, hosted her bridal shower, etc. we live in different states (easy drive). I used to visit her and she would visit me almost monthly. I forgot about her after Covid because we stopped talking.

You said in your OP that SHE did these things.

And then you FORGOT about her? Troll.

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Anonymous wrote:Can’t tell if OP’s family intends to use the beach house this spring or summer or it’s supposed to be an investment property.

Sounds like neither, just sits there vacant. Interesting. Like a Troll House.

We would likely go in the spring and summer. This past year, we went during spring (extended family spring break), Memorial Day, summer and Labor Day. Have not been back since but will probably go sometime in March or April.

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Anonymous wrote:$1k a night is bizarre. And a brand new house for you guys? What does your spouse think?

I can rent a huge hamptons house for $40k a month in summer and split it 5 ways.

That’s not bizarre. And maybe her house is in the Hamptons.