Anonymous wrote:OP has she explained why a sleepover would be desirable? It seems weird, honestly. Does she want to watch movies and eat popcorn late at night like girl sleepovers?

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Anonymous wrote:Op are you under the impression they aren’t even making out? Like you think they are in some type of chaste/courtly love limbo with no sex adjacent behavior? Genuinely curious!

OP- We’re a devout & religious family, and we’ve raised our kids that way, and DD does follow that lifestyle, her relationship is very surface level. So, just came her to figure out whether allowing sleepovers under these circumstances is something we should do.

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Anonymous wrote:Op are you under the impression they aren’t even making out? Like you think they are in some type of chaste/courtly love limbo with no sex adjacent behavior? Genuinely curious!

OP- We’re a devout & religious family, and we’ve raised our kids that way, and DD does follow that lifestyle, her relationship is very surface level. So, just came her to figure out whether allowing sleepovers under these circumstances is something we should do.

Anonymous wrote:Op are you under the impression they aren’t even making out? Like you think they are in some type of chaste/courtly love limbo with no sex adjacent behavior? Genuinely curious!

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Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

I hope you're right but it seems mortifying to ask to sleep over if they're not doing it. Or does she mean jn separate rooms?

OP- Yes, separate rooms. We’re a no intimacy till marriage family, and that’s a choice she’s made, feels comfortable with, and is aligned with.

Then why ask us? Are you sure this is what she wants? I would assume she is not asking for a sleepover in separate rooms.

I would say yes only to an extreme emergency and I can’t even think of what that would be. Then separate rooms. I can’t think of any situation other than an extreme and unpredicted ice storm, where the BF would get stranded at our house.

Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

I hope you're right but it seems mortifying to ask to sleep over if they're not doing it. Or does she mean jn separate rooms?

OP- Yes, separate rooms. We’re a no intimacy till marriage family, and that’s a choice she’s made, feels comfortable with, and is aligned with.

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Anonymous wrote:No. That's not appropriate for some that age and makes a relationship more adult than is appropriate.

Or maybe you are treating them as more juvenile than appropriate. 18 is a fully legal adult. It didn’t used to be that uncommon for people to marry at 18 and it’s never been uncommon for people to have sex at 18.

Adults don't live with Mommy and Daddy and have to ask their permission.

The Adult Child forum will blow your mind.

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Anonymous wrote:No. That's not appropriate for some that age and makes a relationship more adult than is appropriate.

Or maybe you are treating them as more juvenile than appropriate. 18 is a fully legal adult. It didn’t used to be that uncommon for people to marry at 18 and it’s never been uncommon for people to have sex at 18.

Adults don't live with Mommy and Daddy and have to ask their permission.

Anonymous wrote:If she were 17 rather than 18 would you have a different answer? Mine is no when you're a senior in HS.

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Anonymous wrote:OP- They have not been intimate, and she’s not planning to be, it’s a pretty innocent relationship. She’s also well educated about sexual health and safety. We try to keep communication open, and she’s very open, she tells me everything about everything, way more than I need to know.

Pull your head out of your ass

Seriously.

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I’m not saying 100% of kids who

a) have a serious boyfriend
b)tell their parents they are not sleeping together yet
c) want to have a sleepover with boyfriend so badly they are willing to ask

are lying, but you have to know the vast majority are!

Yes, even the ones headed to a top 5 lol