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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Op here, he brushed past me and I felt his hand graze over the top of my butt, from left to right. I would have thought it was a mistake or a very light touch to just say “excuse me, right behind you”, but there was no excuse or apology. I always say excuse me if I’m passing someone or I accidentally graze them.

In other words he squeezed by you, and brushed up against you as people do in crowded situations. That’s not "groping" or "grabbing your butt" and you know it. I’d laugh if you mentioned it to me. You’re delusional.

Found the person that sexually assaults women. Gross.

Found the 5 that thinks every man wants her. They don’t.

Anonymous wrote:***Always assume it's an accident unless it happens more than once with the same person.***

I've brushed by people without meaning too, and without excusing myself, because sometimes an excuse just seems even more awkward, or they're talking to someone and I don't want to interrupt and have a group know about my silly brush. I've had many people brush past me and inadvertently touch my behind, etc.

I was assaulted on the metro as a preteen and I can assure you it felt very different.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, he brushed past me and I felt his hand graze over the top of my butt, from left to right. I would have thought it was a mistake or a very light touch to just say “excuse me, right behind you”, but there was no excuse or apology. I always say excuse me if I’m passing someone or I accidentally graze them.

In other words he squeezed by you, and brushed up against you as people do in crowded situations. That’s not "groping" or "grabbing your butt" and you know it. I’d laugh if you mentioned it to me. You’re delusional.

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t happen.

Anonymous wrote:This sounds unintentional and like he didn’t even notice. Especially as you say it was the “top of your butt.” If anything he probably thinks he absentmindedly grazed the small of your back as he squeezed past, without any thought or intention. A butt grab or grope is generally to the lower butt. OP, do you maybe have a little crush on him or find him attractive? It almost sounds like you are trying to make something out of nothing, like you were hoping for some inappropriate attention from him?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, he brushed past me and I felt his hand graze over the top of my butt, from left to right. I would have thought it was a mistake or a very light touch to just say “excuse me, right behind you”, but there was no excuse or apology. I always say excuse me if I’m passing someone or I accidentally graze them.

In other words he squeezed by you, and brushed up against you as people do in crowded situations. That’s not "groping" or "grabbing your butt" and you know it. I’d laugh if you mentioned it to me. You’re delusional.

Found the person that sexually assaults women. Gross.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, he brushed past me and I felt his hand graze over the top of my butt, from left to right. I would have thought it was a mistake or a very light touch to just say “excuse me, right behind you”, but there was no excuse or apology. I always say excuse me if I’m passing someone or I accidentally graze them.

In other words he squeezed by you, and brushed up against you as people do in crowded situations. That’s not "groping" or "grabbing your butt" and you know it. I’d laugh if you mentioned it to me. You’re delusional.

Anonymous wrote:Last night at a party, my friends husband was passing by me and I felt his hand turn to the side and graze over my butt as he passed by me. He didn’t say “sorry!” Or excuse me, it was similar to a butt grab that my husband does in the kitchen or something when he wants to touch me discreetly, kind of a discreet little grab rather than an accidental passing by.

Am I reading too much into it? I was a bit shocked and didn’t say anything.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s SA to me.
I’d tell the friend and report him.

This sound crazy to me. OP is supposed to file a sexual assault report with the police because her friend's husband's hand grazed her butt and it may have been done on purpose -- but maybe not.

OP - If you've been friends with this couple for a while and this is an isolated incident, as I infer from your post, I would give the husband the benefit of the doubt. After this, I'd be on guard. Should there be another incident, it's a different story.

P.S. In case it matters, I'm a woman.

This is quite literally the definition of SA. Attitudes like this are why victims often don’t get proper justice. Benefit of the doubt? What?