I keep waiting for someone to ask what bags got sold and for what

How does anyone know whether bad prices were had or not based on the OP alone

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Anonymous wrote:This isn’t uncommon among the very wealthy.

My sister has an inlaw like this. My sister, her husbands and daughter are the only family the relative has left.

The woman and her husband were Dinks and very career focused. He was in corporate something; she worked in entertainment. Her handbags were her children, literally. Their entire mansion is packed with designer clothing, expensive handbags and top level shoes, many vintage and mostly barely worn in mint condition. A lot of stuff was,never worn with tags still attached. The wardrobe went back decades, longer than I have been alive.

My sister and her kids will have to move her into an adult facility soon. They are dreading helping her go through the stuff. There are rooms of it. The older relative said that my two nieces, who are young adults not into that kind of stuff, will get everything.

Maybe I will show them this thread to cheer them up so they can work up the energy and motivation to store and catalog the stuff, until the time comes for them to inherit it all. Right now they just keep wondering why one person needs so many expensive handbags, shoes and clothing.

There are estate sale businesses that will help them do this when the relative passes.

I have heard of estate sale auctioneers, I think the main attraction is the ease of handing the process over to someone else who has no emotional attachment to anything and avoiding family squabbles. Everyone thinks their stuff is worth far more than it is these days. The reality is that we’ve been in a glut of consumerism (and product consumption) for a while.

One of the early warning signs I remember was when it started to be more expensive to repair something than to just buy a new one. Repairs to appliances and electronics (aka TV repairman) went out the window.

Even at goodwill there have been posts from people who work there who say that they have to sell a minimum dollar amt of merchandise every day, which results in those weird price increases that make up fodder for those message boards or subs. When new items of the same kind can absolutely, frequently, demonstrably be had for less.

Jeans seem to be at the top of the fashion list. $100 for a pair of vintage Levi’s, stuff like that. That wasn’t the thrift atmosphere when I was younger. One of my absolute favorite coats through HS was probably $20, it was a giant gray tweed Peter Pan collar swing coat that no one else had. I loved that coat. You probably couldn’t find that today.

Anonymous wrote:Ok? You got a bad price for your bags.

Not if

There’s a trusted buyer you personally know, who personally knows you, who pays cash, who really wants your items

(Or pays with a check that clears)

They come to your home so you don’t have to deal with shipping large boxes with insurance where you bear that cost and effort

The buyer can approve/accept your items on the spot and you don’t risk having your bag swapped out with a fake somewhere in a mail transaction

(The fakes are really good these days because it is big money)

You avoid broker/middle man typical fees and commissions of up to 30% on each item

I was reading something this morning because it got me thinking about my LV bags and there were plenty of posts about how someone consigned their 15 pair of Jimmy Choos to one of the places, they were sent boxes in which to ship them back, then the place discounted their items without permission and after the commissions they were getting like $17 a pair

I’d honestly rather give a bag I own to a younger person in my life than have something like that happen

Op have you considered taking up journaling? You could spend money on a fancy blank book and pens too!

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Anonymous wrote:This isn’t uncommon among the very wealthy.

My sister has an inlaw like this. My sister, her husbands and daughter are the only family the relative has left.

The woman and her husband were Dinks and very career focused. He was in corporate something; she worked in entertainment. Her handbags were her children, literally. Their entire mansion is packed with designer clothing, expensive handbags and top level shoes, many vintage and mostly barely worn in mint condition. A lot of stuff was,never worn with tags still attached. The wardrobe went back decades, longer than I have been alive.

My sister and her kids will have to move her into an adult facility soon. They are dreading helping her go through the stuff. There are rooms of it. The older relative said that my two nieces, who are young adults not into that kind of stuff, will get everything.

Maybe I will show them this thread to cheer them up so they can work up the energy and motivation to store and catalog the stuff, until the time comes for them to inherit it all. Right now they just keep wondering why one person needs so many expensive handbags, shoes and clothing.

There are estate sale businesses that will help them do this when the relative passes.

Also OP I think I do know you in person, as you speak like your write.

Why does this surprise you?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s cool

Literally it’s OK sometimes I just get lit and feisty in the afternoons

It’s because I’ve got cancer so I’m a medical patient

And I’m trying to get rid of things and take care of my kids and I always have too many thoughts (particularly around 11am -2pm EST)

Drug yourself how you want. Just don't come on here when you're lit. Find somewhere else to spew. I have friends with cancer and none behaved the way you did so don't use your cancer as an excuse. I have a chronic illness myself and don't do this on my bad days.

What, subject you to things you don't want to read?

It's an anonymous board

You. literally. don't have to. read here at all. You read as anonymous. You are no more of a paying subscriber than anyone else. You're not logged in. You are just picking my user contributions up like I'm a stray and digitally spitballing me.

Like ... calm down ... you be OK. I'm not obsessing over who you are.

This site is not your personal domain AFAIK

Agreed.

OP
sorry I broke the no political posts rule

Anonymous wrote:I find OP's threads entertaining. This isn't the "Quantum Physics" forum. Also, it's a fashion topic - as a handbag lover (some may be addicts), aren't you a little interested in what happens with all this "stuff" down the road?

Or, perhaps she is a clever writer holding up a mirror and for some...maybe a little too close for comfort? "Beauty and Fashion" is very personal and at its core, superficial, no?

I appreciate the new perspective.

I only wish I were a Tom Wolfe

I am Charlotte Simmons was a true read into college life

I was definitely on Urban Baby, I was in NYC up until my ex and I split pre-covid. We had a 2nd floor apt in a brownstone half a block from the park. Then at some point uncertain he moved to the penthouse with his girlfriend and kept the 2B 2B to rent out.

I'm out here in CT. Which is OK. I feed turkeys and squirrels and crows and I have too many pets. The house is mine, though.

If this is how I retire and die I'm basically like OK.

I would like to get my son and his wife back here from overseas, though, that's adding to my general depression. My son won't leave his wife. And he doesn't trust the current US gov't to not treat him like some kind of spy or something based on his previous entries into airports on the east coast.

This administration is tearing families apart in lots of different ways.

Anonymous wrote:I find OP's threads entertaining. This isn't the "Quantum Physics" forum. Also, it's a fashion topic - as a handbag lover (some may be addicts), aren't you a little interested in what happens with all this "stuff" down the road?

Or, perhaps she is a clever writer holding up a mirror and for some...maybe a little too close for comfort? "Beauty and Fashion" is very personal and at its core, superficial, no?

I appreciate the new perspective.

There were a lot of attention-seeking posters like this on the old NYC boards (urban baby and what came after), who wanted to be slightly less than anonymous. I suspect OP is one of them.

Anonymous wrote:This is a mental illness

Uffff, yes!

I find OP's threads entertaining. This isn't the "Quantum Physics" forum. Also, it's a fashion topic - as a handbag lover (some may be addicts), aren't you a little interested in what happens with all this "stuff" down the road?

Or, perhaps she is a clever writer holding up a mirror and for some...maybe a little too close for comfort? "Beauty and Fashion" is very personal and at its core, superficial, no?

I appreciate the new perspective.

Anonymous wrote:You miss the bags more than the husband. And I love that for all womankind.

🤣

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need friends IRL OP

Oh, I’ve had many, but as life goes on, they are largely overrated

Values diverge over time

I don’t like receiving cards or seeing social media accounts that end in references to the Bible

I didn’t like having friends who were elected to office who constantly called me for donations

I didn’t like having friends from prep school or my college who only called to get donations to the schools

Today in the social media age you generally just get calls to get money.

Or buy their MLM stuff or use you as marketing media.

I’m pretty sure if I’m unwanted here, I can be banned from posting.

I just think I have contributed enough and I don’t actually confabulate and have facts and details to back up things that I post.

The people calling you to hit you up for money aren’t actually friends. They are contacts. Subtract those perks and who do you have left?