Anonymous
12/28/2025 15:23
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
+100
Not totally germane to the thread, I know, but you two are doing this wrong. I go to Caps games pretty regularly and don’t spend “hundreds of dollars.” You can get nosebleed seats for $45 for many games (particularly during the week) and take the metro down, which is what I do and what I assume teens are doing. It is still plenty fun this way.
It’s true that food and drinks aren’t the cheapest inside, but you can eat before or after the game at one of the many quick places in Chinatown. There’s a Chipotle across the street from the arena. And 17-year olds aren’t drinking (at least not at the game).
Anonymous
12/28/2025 15:22
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
Mine really doesn’t do those things unless he gets a gift card. He’s frugal like his mom. He got Starbucks once and said it tasted like pure sugar (it does). They have a Starbucks where he goes to college now and says girls get it every day. I know my kid isn’t spending this money because I can see his bank account balance. He pays for car insurance, gas, and food st the grocery store so he make his own lunches.
Well that’s still more than $500/mth.
It’s HIS money, not mine. He earned it. I didn’t give him an allowance like he’s a 5 yr old. If he wants to take his girlfriend out, he can pay for it.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 15:12
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
Mine really doesn’t do those things unless he gets a gift card. He’s frugal like his mom. He got Starbucks once and said it tasted like pure sugar (it does). They have a Starbucks where he goes to college now and says girls get it every day. I know my kid isn’t spending this money because I can see his bank account balance. He pays for car insurance, gas, and food st the grocery store so he make his own lunches.
Well that’s still more than $500/mth.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 15:06
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
Mine really doesn’t do those things unless he gets a gift card. He’s frugal like his mom. He got Starbucks once and said it tasted like pure sugar (it does). They have a Starbucks where he goes to college now and says girls get it every day. I know my kid isn’t spending this money because I can see his bank account balance. He pays for car insurance, gas, and food st the grocery store so he make his own lunches.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 14:52
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
Wow. That is way more than I give my college student who also can’t work due to sports and school and who doesn’t have access to a car.
I give my college student $50 a week and no uber allowance. She is required to pay for everything on that - activities, sports dinners, clothes, etc. (She doesn’t have to pay for sporting equipment or clothes or shoes because sponsors pay for that).
Do you want a cookie?
Nasty unnecessary response.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 14:27
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
You are giving your kid $500 a month..
We budget $500 sometimes it’s less.
I give him $100 for take out, that is chipotle 2x a week.
I give him $100-$200 to spend time with friends (which is normally golf 2x a month but could be golf 1x and a concert ).
I give him $100 to spend on his girlfriend.
I give him $100 for gas, parking, clothes, etc.
He also volunteers every weekend in the winter/spring and has been since he was 11.
His money from his job usually runs out in December. Teens can’t get 40 hours a week.
Every other thread about teens is like why aren’t you people raising your sons to be a better?
I have a son who volunteers, has good friends, takes his girlfriend out on proper dates.
And everybody on this thread is saying he should be sitting in his basement making food or choosing hoops at the park.
GMAFB
You are raising a spoiled, entitled son. True story
No I’m the furthest thing from sorry.
Seriously he’s so inexpensive it’s wild to see anybody crash out over this budget.
With all your SAT tutors, travel sports, makeup, Starbucks, clothes this kid is a bargain. In state tuition for college.
Literally lol to $500/mth.
Y’all just not adding it all up.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 13:53
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
You are giving your kid $500 a month..
We budget $500 sometimes it’s less.
I give him $100 for take out, that is chipotle 2x a week.
I give him $100-$200 to spend time with friends (which is normally golf 2x a month but could be golf 1x and a concert ).
I give him $100 to spend on his girlfriend.
I give him $100 for gas, parking, clothes, etc.
He also volunteers every weekend in the winter/spring and has been since he was 11.
His money from his job usually runs out in December. Teens can’t get 40 hours a week.
Every other thread about teens is like why aren’t you people raising your sons to be a better?
I have a son who volunteers, has good friends, takes his girlfriend out on proper dates.
And everybody on this thread is saying he should be sitting in his basement making food or choosing hoops at the park.
GMAFB
You are raising a spoiled, entitled son. True story
Anonymous
12/28/2025 13:49
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
My teens each get $300/mo but we own a small business consider some of it their pay for doing office cleaning about 2hrs/wk each. (Mopping, sweeping, breaking down boxes, taking out the trash, etc) They rotate days.
They pay for their own gas (we pay for cars and insurance), entertainment expenses, anything that is a want and not a need. We almost never give them any other $ throughout the month.
Works well for us so far.
They pay for their own gas (we pay for cars and insurance), entertainment expenses, anything that is a want and not a need. We almost never give them any other $ throughout the month.
Works well for us so far.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 13:33
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
You are giving your kid $500 a month..
We budget $500 sometimes it’s less.
I give him $100 for take out, that is chipotle 2x a week.
I give him $100-$200 to spend time with friends (which is normally golf 2x a month but could be golf 1x and a concert ).
I give him $100 to spend on his girlfriend.
I give him $100 for gas, parking, clothes, etc.
He also volunteers every weekend in the winter/spring and has been since he was 11.
His money from his job usually runs out in December. Teens can’t get 40 hours a week.
Every other thread about teens is like why aren’t you people raising your sons to be a better?
I have a son who volunteers, has good friends, takes his girlfriend out on proper dates.
And everybody on this thread is saying he should be sitting in his basement making food or choosing hoops at the park.
GMAFB
Anonymous
12/28/2025 13:26
Subject: What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
What is reasonable is completely dependent on what the family income level and lifestyle is. We give our senior $200/month to spend at his discretion because that is what we deemed reasonable for our income and allows him a lifestyle that matches what he is used to. I have no issues with someone else gives $500 if that is what is reasonable for them. I'm not sure why this is even controversial. Families have different financial situations.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 13:05
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
You are giving your kid $500 a month..
Anonymous
12/28/2025 13:00
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
How much does it cost to make food at home? It’s not free. And I’d be paying.
Y’all are fooling yourself if you think your kids are not spending $100 a month on Starbucks, soda, chipotle, etc,
I don’t believe for a second your kids never eat out, never go to the movies, don’t buy makeup or clothes or go out with friends and if they don’t that too bad.
Anonymous
12/28/2025 12:54
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Hanging out at your house is free. Or he can get a job and pay for his dates
You’d rather my kid hang in our basement with his girlfriend than take her on a proper date at least once a month. Or catch a capitals game once a month with his friends? No wonder young men are such a mess now a days.
You think he should give up golfing?
You think he should quit coaching kids and being a special Olympics unified partner to “get a job”?
The whole question was for kids who can’t work right now due to school/sports/volunteering. It wasn’t for slackers hanging in mom’s basement.
I’m 43 and I make 200k a year and a capitals game is a splurge for my and DH. It’s hundreds of dollars plus transportation or parking, plus food and drinks. That’s not a normal way for a 17 year old to hang out
He’ll literally go to 1 this season.
It’s not 100’s if you sit in nosebleeds it’s a bit more than a movie.
He took his girlfriend to see the playoffs for women’s soccer and it was $40 /ticket if you sat in the end zones.
I think that’s a normal monthly date. $100 ish
Maybe for rich people but most people do t have an extra $100 to blow on “a normal monthly date.”
Well they are spending $25 on wings today and going to a movie over the holidays so they also can’t afford a caps game either.
Unless he is paying himself, he can make food at home and watch Netflix
Anonymous
12/28/2025 12:51
Subject: Re:What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I gave my son 500 a month but that included golfing, going to sporting events and concerts.
I don’t pay for Starbucks or alcohol, but I will pay for chipotle or Chick-fil-A twice a week.
Unlimited Ubers.
That’s insane
1 golf game is $100 and tickets to a concert or sport event with his girlfriend and dinner is $200. That’s 1 date a month.
Playing basketball at the local park or in someone’s driveway is free. Kicking around a soccer ball is free. There are a thousand different ways your son could take his girlfriend on dates that cost less than $50 that would show effort and actual thought.
And they do that. But we expect him to take her on one proper date once a month. And pay for things.
They are watching the Bills game this afternoon (the wings will cost me $25), after they go hit golf balls ($20).
You want them to eat oodles of noodles in my basement after basketball at the park?
Again this might be the root of the loneliness epidemic.
They go on hikes, and run together and watch movies and Stranger things.
Shoot a movie out is $50.
They do free things and things that cost $. Even a movie in my basement is $20 worth of pizza.
If he wants to pay for his girlfriend and their “nice” dates he can get a job. Are you going to fund his love life all through college too? When he has his first job out of college and isn’t making a ton?Does she realize his parents are paying for her to do these things? Not exactly a gentleman if someone else is paying for your dates.
We will have to agree to disagree.
Of course he’s 17, and her parents pay for things when he is there. They payed for them to go to some indoor putt putt last week.
You are literally crashing out over 1 date a month, 1 thing with his friends and 2 golf games. You also assume he hits $500 each month. Plus you assume it’s every month. It’s a budget don’t come in at $499 each month that’s also irresponsible.
He’s not my only child and yes my boys who are working do save their money to do nice dates. Don’t waste money on Starbucks and chipotle every day, pack a lunch.
They have to learn to be gentlemen it doesn’t just happen at 25.
Yes, part of being a gentleman is working, earning money, and spending money on dates that are within your means. Spending parents’ money on expensive dates isn’t that
$25 for wings or paying for a movie is not expensive.
It is when you aren’t making any money. And it isn’t “just” this. You are giving your kid $500 a month to blow on food out, movies, and expensive dates. Sorry but that is terrible parenting
Anonymous
12/28/2025 12:50
Subject: What’s a reasonable allowance for a 17 year old senior? Assume they can’t work until this summer (sport and school and
Anonymous wrote:We have a family credit card. He puts gas and occasional food with friends on it. If it were excessive, we’d talk and have rules. When special things come up, like golfing with friends, he’d ask but we’d say yes. If he had a Starbucks problem or had free time to be out a lot, then this might not work. He’s not taking uber even, unlike the golfing PP. Sports and school take up all his time, so social events are not consistent and not expensive.
I don’t think an allowance makes sense for us. He’s end up banking money, which didn’t serve anyone right now. We want him so busy he can’t work. So we pay for his expenses and are comfortable with his level of spending.
This is mostly how we do it. DS doesn’t spend much or ask for clothes etc. So we pay and he doesn’t abuse the privilege or show he’s irresponsible. He just saves the money he makes in the summer. He will dig into that in college if he’s not working then. If he had a girlfriend etc, he would pay for more himself, I imagine.