Anonymous
Post 12/27/2025 00:29     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm uncomfortable with the amount my son's girlfriend spends on him. She is from a much more well off family than we are (and we are UMC). He does nice things for her but in no way is it economically even.


This is okay by me.

This is equality.

We live in a world where women are becoming equally likely to be the better off partner.


She’s not better off, her parents are.


That's how it starts.

Down payment gifts, access to the vacation home, requests, trusts...
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2025 00:20     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Lol. So if he's getting sex he has to pay for it? What does that say about him?

All men pay for sex. What do you think paying for dinners, dates, gifts, and being a sah spouse is?


So true
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 21:36     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:Sigh.

This isn't about teenagers spending too much on gifts for each other.

This is about OP either disliking her DS's girlfriend, or feel jealous of her. Or both. I bet OP is one of the people on here complaining that her DH got her nothing.


Whoa. Way to project. I’m op. Gf is ok, I don’t know her well tbh but my son likes her so it’s all good. But they both seem unnecessarily materialistic and that bothers me.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 15:57     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:Your title is misleading. This isn’t about teenagers buying each other pricey gifts. Is about your son buying pricey gifts for his girlfriend.


Which he is buying from his own savings.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 15:55     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous. Boy moms are so creepy.


+1. I'd rather my son spend his money on his SO than on video games, partying with his friends or the latest gadget. So many young men lack in social skills.


... or worse like drugs, alcohol, gun, prostitution or gambling.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 15:53     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm uncomfortable with the amount my son's girlfriend spends on him. She is from a much more well off family than we are (and we are UMC). He does nice things for her but in no way is it economically even.


This is okay by me.

This is equality.

We live in a world where women are becoming equally likely to be the better off partner.


She’s not better off, her parents are.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 15:53     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Sigh.

This isn't about teenagers spending too much on gifts for each other.

This is about OP either disliking her DS's girlfriend, or feel jealous of her. Or both. I bet OP is one of the people on here complaining that her DH got her nothing.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 15:52     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think he should pay for her Uber and pay for dinners he can afford. That doesn’t mean that she can’t treat him to a dinner or lunch. She could say that she appreciates what he does but she wants to plan a night out and pay sometimes too.

Let him know he should keep gifts to special occasions or they lose their meaning.

My oldest daughter is in NYC and guys pay for Ubers. If they don’t it leaves a bad impression.


If she's in a wheelchair and can't walk, that's a special case


Are you thinking that NYC is so small that’s you can walk everywhere? Get a map
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 15:01     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:This is his savings, not yours. If he wants to spend it on his girlfriend’s gifts, shared experiences and Ubers to ensure she gets safely to and from their dates, that is his choice. If he was racking up debt or using it on excess weed or alcohol, then you step in.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:59     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And this is why we don’t allow dating in high school. Waste of time and money.


Weird and draconian


Much better to let their kids go wild in college without any dating experience.


My DS never dated in HS. He's a junior in college and still isn't dating. Neither are most of his friends. But he earns his own money so who am I to tell him how to spend it. When he drains his bank account, he will learn that high maintenance girls probably aren't worth it. You could tell him that but most boys need to learn for themselves.

Hopefully he’s hiding it from you because that’s not normal.


No. I think he’s too picky but what do I know. I’m single. He’s out earning money. He isn’t going to blow his hard earned money on just anyone.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:42     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think he should pay for her Uber and pay for dinners he can afford. That doesn’t mean that she can’t treat him to a dinner or lunch. She could say that she appreciates what he does but she wants to plan a night out and pay sometimes too.

Let him know he should keep gifts to special occasions or they lose their meaning.

My oldest daughter is in NYC and guys pay for Ubers. If they don’t it leaves a bad impression.


No your daughter should pay for her own ubers. WTH is wrong with you?

My daughters are not dating guys that get them UBERS that is absurd.

Men paying for Ubers in NYC is pretty normal. It’s not the suburbs where they can easily pick up their date.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:40     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:And this is why we don’t allow dating in high school. Waste of time and money.


Weird and draconian


Much better to let their kids go wild in college without any dating experience.


My DS never dated in HS. He's a junior in college and still isn't dating. Neither are most of his friends. But he earns his own money so who am I to tell him how to spend it. When he drains his bank account, he will learn that high maintenance girls probably aren't worth it. You could tell him that but most boys need to learn for themselves.

Hopefully he’s hiding it from you because that’s not normal.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:29     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:Lol. So if he's getting sex he has to pay for it? What does that say about him?

All men pay for sex. What do you think paying for dinners, dates, gifts, and being a sah spouse is?
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:22     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dad can't tell him this but you can.

Tell him that if he's not getting sex he's wasting his money.


He’s getting sex but that’s really not the issue. Gross to make it the issue


Then maybe it’s worth it. Is she a good influence overall?


None of OP's business whether
they are having sex or that she is being a good influence. Methinks DS is sharing too much with his mom. He'll learn soon enough to keep his private life private.
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2025 14:19     Subject: Teenagers buying each other pricey gifts bothers me
Anonymous wrote:You sound jealous. Boy moms are so creepy.


+1. I'd rather my son spend his money on his SO than on video games, partying with his friends or the latest gadget. So many young men lack in social skills.